Micromanaged Thanksgiving: A Question of Control?

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Discussion Overview

The discussion revolves around perceptions of control within family dynamics during Thanksgiving celebrations, sparked by a specific Thanksgiving letter. Participants explore the implications of control, family traditions, and the potential for chaos in holiday gatherings.

Discussion Character

  • Debate/contested
  • Conceptual clarification
  • Exploratory

Main Points Raised

  • Some participants express that the letter indicates control issues, while others disagree, suggesting nothing unusual is present.
  • A participant emphasizes a personal reaction to the letter, indicating a strong emotional response and a desire for independence.
  • Another participant introduces the idea of "un-invitations" and relational dynamics, hinting at deeper issues within family interactions.
  • Several comments highlight the lack of specific instructions in the letter, suggesting that this omission could lead to disorder during the holiday.
  • One participant shares a nostalgic view of Thanksgiving traditions, contrasting their experiences with the current situation described in the letter.
  • Another participant humorously suggests a chaotic approach to the meal, indicating a playful take on the perceived control issues.
  • Concerns about the potential for chaos and disorder are reiterated, with references to the "butterfly effect" of small omissions leading to larger problems.
  • A speculative comment raises the possibility that the letter could be a hoax, intended to provoke a reaction from family members regarding control dynamics.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants exhibit a range of opinions, with no clear consensus on whether the letter reflects control issues. Some argue for the presence of control, while others maintain that the situation is normal, indicating a contested discussion.

Contextual Notes

Participants reference personal experiences and family traditions, which may influence their perspectives on control and chaos during holiday gatherings. The discussion reflects varying interpretations of social dynamics without resolving the underlying issues.

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Math Is Hard said:
Do you sense any control issues here?

Nope, nothing unusual.
 
Thanksgiving was in October. Aside from that, I would tell her to go **** herself.
 
MIH,

Is there such a thing as an un-invitation, or relational rehab, yep...

Rhody... :devil:
 
Danger said:
Thanksgiving was in October. Aside from that, I would tell her to go **** herself.

Yes, and I'd add: WITH A LID, NOT ALUMINUM FOIL!
 
If that were my family, I'd be consuming as much turkey as I could. Wild Turkey.
 
lisab said:
Yes, and I'd add: WITH A LID, NOT ALUMINUM FOIL!

:smile: :smile: :smile: :smile: :smile: :smile:
 
definitely NOT controlling...he/she totally omitted which direction napkins should be folded in
 
HeLiXe said:
definitely NOT controlling...he/she totally omitted which direction napkins should be folded in
There you go! Too much left to chance! You can't leave so much potential disorder and discord for such an important holiday!
 
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  • #10
I'd bring a frozen turkey on a paper plate wrapped in aluminum foil with a kiddie spoon and a pair of scissors.
 
  • #11
lisab said:
Yes, and I'd add: WITH A LID, NOT ALUMINUM FOIL!

Speaking of domination, LisaB is a cruel mistress.
 
  • #12
Before criticizing I would like to see how the family behaved in the previous years. Could be this mail is just a tip of an iceberg.
 
  • #13
Borek said:
Before criticizing I would like to see how the family behaved in the previous years. Could be this mail is just a tip of an iceberg.
In my family (either side of the family) Thanksgiving was a huge mash-up with everybody contributing what they wanted. When I was a kid, we didn't have a telephone, so it wasn't as if my mother could coordinate with my aunts. I think that it was understood that the person hosting the event would supply a roasted turkey, make gravy, and supply mashed potatoes. Aside from that, it was a free-for all.

If we were celebrating with my father's family, it was pretty much expected that his baby sister would bring a wonderful pie made of brandied mince-meat. She brought a lot more, of course, but the fact was that my food-hound father would always save room for her pie. It was served in the dessert-phase, along with the apple, pumpkin, cherry, lemon-custard pies and ice cream. His mother always made her famous lemon chiffon pie (his favorite), so he had to save room for that, too.

As for serving-spoons, knives, etc, none of us were rich enough to have a surplus of that stuff. If you had to grab the "big" spoon out of the mashed turnip to grab a helping of squash or potatoes, that was just the way it was. Want another helping of steamed pearl onions and green peas? You might end up "contaminating" them with the garlic-y mashed potatoes, but after you covered them with turkey gravy, who could complain?
 
  • #14
turbo said:
There you go! Too much left to chance! You can't leave so much potential disorder and discord for such an important holiday!
Exactly! Chaos could ensue...the butterfly effect, just from omitting this essential detail. I'm sure somebody ended up with stuffing in their hair just because of this.
 
  • #15
Just a thought, wouldn't it be cruel if the OP's card was a hoax, intended to send a message to some family member who was leaning toward becoming MORE controlling.

Rhody... :rolleyes:
 

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