My First Days of College: Confronting Extreme Partying

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The discussion centers around a student's chaotic experience in a college dorm, characterized by rampant partying, substance use, and a lack of respect for personal space. The individual expresses frustration with their roommate's behavior, including frequent late-night sexual encounters and a general atmosphere of noise and distraction that hampers their ability to study. Despite attempts to remain open-minded, the student feels overwhelmed by the environment, which is dominated by drinking and drug use. Suggestions from other forum members include setting boundaries with the roommate, seeking help from residence advisors, and considering a room change or apartment living for a quieter atmosphere. The conversation touches on the broader college culture, with some participants lamenting the focus on partying over academics, while others share their own experiences and coping strategies. The student remains hopeful that things will improve once classes begin, as they seek to find peers with similar academic interests.
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Good news, it started to calm a little down once classes started. This is the first time I've seen my room mate sober and he seems pretty different. Amazing how much one can change when they drink. And it looks as if some of the people are settling down.

Also went to my first classes. Freshman English and General Physics. Of course physics will be fun, but I was actually most suprised with english. I think I might actually have fun writing. I know I don't believe it either!

Then I have Ancient Mythology tonight. I'm eager to see how that will be.

One more thing. My physics book apparently costs $500! I have no idea why, but I don't think anyone will be buying one. Our teacher isn't making it mandator this year for obvious reasons.
 
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  • #32
Entropy said:
One more thing. My physics book apparently costs $500! I have no idea why, but I don't think anyone will be buying one. Our teacher isn't making it mandator this year for obvious reasons.

Holy...

What is the text is that? I just bought my University Physics 11th ed for 133.70 and I was, what the crap

What is worse is my linear algebra book is tiny compared to that physics book but it cost me 118.85...

In fact the cheapest book I had to buy cost me 60 some dollars... :mad:
 
  • #33
Bladibla said:
I'm not quite clear about the US sequence of education. People on this forum seem to use 'college' and 'university' both at the same time. So before i can reply to entropy's OP. I ask: What's the difference between college and university in the US?

A university is a collection of colleges. Common examples are College of Arts and Science, College of Medicine, College of Engineering, etc. All under the same University and usually sharing the same campus. So when you graduate you get a degree from your college under the University.

It's the same in the UK, Oxford University e.g. is divided up into a rather large number of colleges.

Where are you from and how does it work there?
 
  • #34
I know what people mean when they use university and college interchangeably but I am international also and the way that I know it is that a university is comprised of one or more colleges, and a college is comprised of schools or departments.

Entropy if that is what you are going through I have two things to say:
1. you are no better off than living on the street
2. i should be happy for my setting because everything is nice and quite here at FIT.

I was supposed to be living in a shared room but I didn't want to deal with those roomate issues so as soon as my housing coordinator told me that a single room was available in a four bedroom suite i took it. Luckily all the other suitemates were academically inclined.
 
  • #35
Entropy said:
Because smoking weed can get you arrested and thrown out of school, that's why. I don't know how they handle weed up in Canada, but in the US they go crazy over it.

They don't really mind in Canada. They are actually opening the very first Pot Bar in Hamilton.

You can go on and diss Canada all you want, but let's not make this some stupid war. I back up Canadians and Americans, so I'll have a hard time choosing sides even though I am Canadian.

Besides, I never bought it. I just smoked it. Like I said, 6 times in my life. That makes me very immature. :rolleyes:

Entropy said:
Of coarse it's fun. You think people like me don't do these things because we don't think we'd enjoy them?

Going around screwing all the women you meet and doing crack and other drugs. It's fun at the moment. The point is that it is bad for your health in the long run. It's called responsiblity. It's the difference between adults and children. Drinking and smoking doesn't show maturity or prove that you're a man, if anything it makes you less of one.

Don't you see? That time you spend drinking is wasted. Why not invest that time doing something productive? That's the one of the major reasons excessive drinking and drugs are bad is because they make you content with being bored. There isn't anything wrong with knocking back a few cold ones while you grill with family and friends. But drinking 15 beers in your dorm because you don't have anything better to do is.

I never said go around and screw women. I treat women with better respect than that, which is sad because most of them don't really demand respect.

Bad for my health? You don't sound like a healthy person to me because you didn't even mention going to the gym as one your activites. Seems to me that you sit around all day reading books. That must be GGGREEEAAATTT!

I go to the gym 2 times a week right now, but it will be 3-4 times soon because I don't work 60 hours a week anymore. I explained this in another thread. I eat relatively healthy too, but I just came out of a slump because it wasn't easy eating after breaking up with my gf. My main concern was just eating at the time.

Who said drinking and smoking is irresponsible? Did I not mention I would just drink to a certain extent because I would like to read a book the next day?

If you're trying to come out as a responsible mature freshmen, well you're doing a bad job.

Just because you don't smoke or drink, it does not make you responsible or mature. I personally wouldn't let anyone smoke in my room, apparently you would, and that my friend is irresponsible.

You should have looked into it first, which would have been the RESPONSIBLE THING TO DO! Now, you just screwed yourself.
 
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  • #37
exequor said:
I know what people mean when they use university and college interchangeably but I am international also and the way that I know it is that a university is comprised of one or more colleges, and a college is comprised of schools or departments.
Yes, that is the way it is in the U.S. as with elsewhere, but most people use the two interchangeably when referring to their level of education.

I was supposed to be living in a shared room but I didn't want to deal with those roomate issues so as soon as my housing coordinator told me that a single room was available in a four bedroom suite i took it. Luckily all the other suitemates were academically inclined.
I think suites are a great thing. They were still fairly uncommon when I was in college (all the newer dorms being built at the time were suites, but there weren't many of them yet). They strike a nice balance between every person having their own defined space for their bed, a common space including bathroom to learn to share and be forced to interact with suitemates (learning to deal with your fellow students is a life skill that will help you later in life when you have to deal with office mates), and then some common lounges to get to meet more students aside from those sharing your suite. It also provides more of a sound barrier to have bedrooms off a central sitting room off a hallway so those who like/need quiet can get it.
 
  • #38
Perhaps you should start seeking a single for next year...
 
  • #39
JasonRox said:
I never said go around and screw women. I treat women with better respect than that, which is sad because most of them don't really demand respect.

Bad for my health? You don't sound like a healthy person to me because you didn't even mention going to the gym as one your activites. Seems to me that you sit around all day reading books. That must be GGGREEEAAATTT!

I go to the gym 2 times a week right now, but it will be 3-4 times soon because I don't work 60 hours a week anymore. I explained this in another thread. I eat relatively healthy too, but I just came out of a slump because it wasn't easy eating after breaking up with my gf. My main concern was just eating at the time.

Who said drinking and smoking is irresponsible? Did I not mention I would just drink to a certain extent because I would like to read a book the next day?

If you're trying to come out as a responsible mature freshmen, well you're doing a bad job.

Just because you don't smoke or drink, it does not make you responsible or mature. I personally wouldn't let anyone smoke in my room, apparently you would, and that my friend is irresponsible.

You should have looked into it first, which would have been the RESPONSIBLE THING TO DO! Now, you just screwed yourself.
Whoa, you sound like your angry at this guy just because he doesn't want to drink or smoke. You don't have to go to the gym to be healthy. You can just play sports or walk a lot. He didn't even say that he doesn't go to the gym. Even if he hypothetically doesn't get enough exercise, that doesn't make drinking, smoking, and going around with all kinds of girls healthy. There are real health risks to all of those activities. You say you would never let anyone smoke in your room. What would you have done if you were outnumbered like that and the RA's didn't care? He didn't say that not smoking or drinking made him responsible, but it is a start.
 
  • #40
The RA is very irresponsible in this case. The thing that strikes me most is that under Florida law (not sure about other states) smoking indoors is prohibited, but then again you said you were in an offcampus apartment, so I think that is why. Apart from that rooms should have smoke detectors. If your roommate is smoking near the window, I would like to think it is to avoid smoke detectors and not necessarily for the smell.
 
  • #41
LeonhardEuler said:
What would you have done if you were outnumbered like that and the RA's didn't care? He didn't say that not smoking or drinking made him responsible, but it is a start.

Stoners listen to big guys. :P
 
  • #42
Someone I know failed a drug{hair}test, because they smoked pot when they partied at the end of school last spring. He has now missed out on his dream job that would of paid him 40,000 a year to start.
With the price of hair testing becoming affordable, more companies are starting to do this. The thing is, you never know when opportunity is going to knock.
I'm getting ready to hire 25 plus people, every one of them will be hair tested. Not because I care if they smoke pot once in a while, but it can tell me if they smoke it all the time{hair history}. I don't want to hire party people.
 

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