My potential supervisor is SO hot

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The discussion revolves around a student's infatuation with a potential supervisor who is described as both attractive and kind. The student is torn between choosing an interesting project under this supervisor and the fear of potential awkwardness or disappointment in their professional relationship. While the student acknowledges the importance of the project and the supervisor's teaching style, they express concern about how their feelings might affect their academic performance. Ultimately, the student decides to pursue the project despite the risks, indicating a strong desire to impress the supervisor and a hope for a positive outcome. The conversation highlights the complexities of navigating personal feelings in an academic setting.
  • #31


up early to get all my work done! YAHHHH!
:))))))))
 
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  • #32


Even if you are committed to being and acting professional around this person the apparent intensity of your attraction for him may start to effect your work performance if you are in close contact on a regular basis while trying to keep your feelings bottled up. Perhaps you will "settle in" and not be so intense once you get used to being around him. It may just get worse. You should know how you tend to react in such situations, so keep that in mind.
 
  • #33


No good can come of this. You really need to think of your degree goals and nothing else.

Basically don't mix the two because in the end you risk getting neither. Workplace romances usually end in bitterness with one party leaving because the pain is too great.

You're so excited, he can see that and that gives him the advantage in any relationship you might have. If he's so hot then there's sure to be others who will try to win him as well so longterm you will be fighting off these urges in him making it painful for you.
 
  • #34


I didn't see him today... was disappointing...
:( sadness
 
  • #35


he's too hot to not have a girlfriend or at least girls chasing after him...
its going to be a lot of pain and heartache!
 
  • #36


Either way, I have made my decision and chose his project. Now I am waiting to hear if I get it. If I don't, whoever gets it is going to DIE! and then I will get it :)
 
  • #37


nucleargirl said:
Either way, I have made my decision and chose his project. Now I am waiting to hear if I get it. If I don't, whoever gets it is going to DIE! and then I will get it :)

Infactuation and obsession crossing a line ?
 
  • #38


seriously! I've pretty much told everyone else on the course that this project is mine... THEY'd better not cross that line!
 
  • #39


he's so kind-looking I can't take it!
 
  • #40


You are smiiten girl.


Lyrics and song by Sting

Don't Stand So Close To Me

Young teacher, the subject
Of schoolgirl fantasy
She wants him so badly
Knows what she wants to be
Inside her there's longing
This girl's an open page
Book marking - she's so close now
This girl is half his age

Don't stand, don't stand so
Don't stand so close to me

Her friends are so jealous
You know how bad girls get
Sometimes it's not so easy
To be the teacher's pet
Temptation, frustration
So bad it makes him cry
Wet bus stop, she's waiting
His car is warm and dry

Don't stand, don't stand so
Don't stand so close to me

Loose talk in the classroom
To hurt they try and try
Strong words in the staffroom
The accusations fly
It's no use, he sees her
He starts to shake and cough
Just like the old man in
That book by Nabakov

Don't stand, don't stand so
Don't stand so close to me

Don't stand, don't stand so
Don't stand so close to me
 
  • #41


If I get it, we will HAVE to stand close to each other!
 
  • #42


Uh oh.. someone's in love..

Not too uncommon, in my previous lab there were three couples that started out as supervisor-student (shame on them!). But they've been together for over 15 years. Another PhD student started to get the hots for his student (and/or vice versa) and asked the prof. for another person to supervise the project.

Your position is not too great in an academic point of view, it will be convoluted. Keep your head straight and stay grounded is my advice.
 
  • #43


when i was a young man (what i wouldn't give to be young again...THIS time, i'd know just exactly what to do) one of my math professors (to be fair, the youngest one) had a wife who couldn't have been more than a year or two different in age from me.

which means, of course, that he had met and courted her while she was a student, more than likely one of his students. such things do happen.

however, this is probably the exception that proves the rule.

i don't know you, NG, but i hope you wish for the best, and plan for the worst.

oh, and apparently energizer lithium maintains proper voltage longer.
 
  • #44


At one of the universities where I worked, there was a faculty member who married his grad student. Needless to say, she had to find a new mentor to finish her degree because it woud have been a conflict of interest to be advised by her husband (he was younger faculty and she was a bit older student, so it wasn't too odd for them to have been attracted). So, while one possibility is simply making a fool of yourself if the attraction isn't mutual, the other if it is mutual is needing to find someone else to be your supervisor. Make sure you have a back up plan...lol!
 
  • #45


Moonbear said:
Make sure you have a back up plan...lol!

Divorce?
 
  • #46


As has been mentioned this sort of thing is pretty common. One of my female family members taught a young man who asked her if she ever posed for a poster. (She just smiled and said "thank you for the compliment but no") He didn't do very well in her class despite being a very good student normally. He had to be really smitten because her husband taught in the same department and there was no doubt that they were crazy about each other.
 
  • #47


Monique said:
Not too uncommon, in my previous lab there were three couples that started out as supervisor-student (shame on them!). But they've been together for over 15 years. Another PhD student started to get the hots for his student (and/or vice versa) and asked the prof. for another person to supervise the project.

Your position is not too great in an academic point of view, it will be convoluted. Keep your head straight and stay grounded is my advice.

Why do you say shame on them?:biggrin:
 
  • #48


First of all, I really enjoyed reading this thread. :biggrin:

micromass said:
His hotness is a pro, but I think it's much more important that your personalities match. If you're an easy-going person, then your advisor should be as well. If you're a workaholic, then your advisor should be as well. Etc.
Not matching personalities can cause LOTS of grief.

You're not serious, are you? Cause I'll never finish my degree if I follow it [:biggrin:]

jedishrfu said:
No good can come of this. You really need to think of your degree goals and nothing else.

Basically don't mix the two because in the end you risk getting neither. Workplace romances usually end in bitterness with one party leaving because the pain is too great.
+1

nucleargirl said:
he's too hot to not have a girlfriend or at least girls chasing after him...
its going to be a lot of pain and heartache!
*smacks NG with a frozen fish*

Monique said:
Uh oh.. someone's in love..

Not too uncommon, in my previous lab there were three couples that started out as supervisor-student (shame on them!). But they've been together for over 15 years. Another PhD student started to get the hots for his student (and/or vice versa) and asked the prof. for another person to supervise the project.

Your position is not too great in an academic point of view, it will be convoluted. Keep your head straight and stay grounded is my advice.
Agreed [with the shame on them part too] :biggrin:
Lisa! said:
Why do you say shame on them?:biggrin:
Personally I don't like it, it just brings lots of question marks on my head.

Moonbear said:
At one of the universities where I worked, there was a faculty member who married his grad student. Needless to say, she had to find a new mentor to finish her degree because it woud have been a conflict of interest to be advised by her husband (he was younger faculty and she was a bit older student, so it wasn't too odd for them to have been attracted). So, while one possibility is simply making a fool of yourself if the attraction isn't mutual, the other if it is mutual is needing to find someone else to be your supervisor. Make sure you have a back up plan...lol!
:smile:
Borek said:
Divorce?
:smile::smile:

Advice: focus on your study NG. :smile:
 
  • #49


Honestly all I can advise you is 'don't go there', just focus on your studies and not him!

Infatuation is difficult to control (well it was for me). i lusted after this guy who was once my tutor then the 'relationship' became real and I got hurt, I guess as i was emotionally attached by this point and he wasn't. If you can keep it in your head then great. I wouldn't want to go through that experience again.
 
  • #50


Thanks for the advice all. and the fish slap :p

I have news... I got it.

But... I'm not excited anymore. I think I over did it in my head.

Its probably for the best.
 
  • #51


actually I sent him an e-mail today and he didnt reply... so now I'm worried he's offended or dislikes me or something... hopefully not. and if he does, that ain't going to fly!
 
  • #52


*heartily facepalm*
 
  • #53


I just realized that he has the same eyes and eyebrows as brad pitt... I never liked brad pitt! anyway... I'm so busy revising now I'm not thinking about him anymore. But one point is that he will be writing my references! so I would need to be on my top form.
 
  • #54


So what kind of 'research' are you really doing...
 
  • #55


presumably thermodynamics
 
  • #56


Deveno said:
presumably thermodynamics

More like interpersonal relationships.
 
  • #57


MarcoD said:
More like interpersonal relationships.

Ooooooh :bugeye:
 
  • #58


MarcoD said:
More like interpersonal relationships.

HOT interpersonal relationships then!
 
  • #59


I like Serena said:
HOT interpersonal relationships then!

I want a copy of the credits in the thesis :biggrin:
 
  • #60


Been feeling so sick today: decided to start project next Thursday... not sure if have stomach bug or butterflies.
 

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