Do you mean "how do you know that the mean and variance of a Poisson distribution are the same"? Do the math!
For given parameter, [itex]\lambda[/itex], the Poisson Distribution is
[tex]P_\lambda(n)= \lambda^n \frac{e^{-\lambda}}{n!}[/tex]
where n can be any positive integer.
The mean is given by
[tex]\Sigma_{n=1}^\infty \lambda^n \frac{e^{-\lambda}}{(n-1)!}[/tex]
[tex]= \lambda e^{-\lambda}\Sigma_{n=1}^\infty \frac{\lambda^{n-1}}{(n-1)!}[/tex]
and taking j= n-1,
[tex]= \lambda e^{-\lambda}\Sigma_{j= 0}^\infty \frac{\lambda^j}{j!}[/tex]
It is easy to recognise that sum as Taylor's series for [itex]e^\lambda[/itex] so the sum is just [itex]\lambda[/itex].
The variance is given by
[tex]\Sigma_{n=1}^\infty e^{-\lambda}n^2 \frac{\lambda^n}{n!}- \lambda^2[\tex]<br />
[tex]= e^{-\lambda}\Sigma_{n=1}^\infty \frac{n^2\lambda^n}{n!}-\frac{n\lambda^n}{n!}+ \frac{n\lambda^n}{n!}-\lambda^2[/tex]<br />
[tex]= e^{-\lambda}\Sigma_{n=1}^\infty \frac{n(n-1)\lambda^n}{n!}+ \frac{n\lambda^n}{n!}[/tex]<br />
[tex]= \lambda^2 e^{-\lambda}\Sigma_{n=2}^\infty \frac{\lambda^{n-2}}{(n-2)!}+ \lamba e^{-\lambda}\Sigma_{n=1}^\infty \frac{\lambda^{n-1}}{(n-1)!}- \lambda^2[/tex]<br />
Now we can recognize both of those sums as Taylor's series for [itex]e^{\lamba}[/itex] and so the variance is [itex]\lambda^2+ \lambda- \lamba^2= \lambda[/itex].[/tex]