I agree with what you write, but I think you confused two points that have been raised:
point 1) QM is incompatible with GR.
point 2) CI, by itself, can lead to inconsistencies when pushed in certain domains.
I think that everyone agrees on 1). That, I agree with you, is absolutely no proof that QM is somehow inconsistent. It only means that OR QM, OR GR, OR both will have to be changed somehow in order to fit into a physically consistent theory that describes both quantum effects and gravitational effects ; there is the illustration that domains where both competences (QM like and GR like) are needed, namely when dealing with black holes and the very early universe ; so that this clash between QM and GR is in some sense "real" and not a purely academic discussion. But, again, I agree with you that this is not a proof that something is wrong with QM.
The second point however, is purely on the QM side, WHEN VIEWED IN THE COPENHAGEN INTERPRETATION. I only wanted to illustrate that there, we can potentially encounter inconsistencies from the moment that it will be possible to do interference experiments which things that can be considered to "perform measurements". Then there are two equally valid reasoning schemes, which give you, at the end, different outcomes.
I don't think that this is an issue for quantum mechanics per se, but only for its Copenhagen interpretation. Relative state views do NOT suffer from that problem (but are "weirder").
FAPP (for all practical purposes) however, we're still far from even conceiving such experiments. So FAPP, Copenhagen is fine as of now.
Finally, it *might be* (we're in speculative mode) that points 1) and 2) have something to do with one another. It might be that something copenhagen-like is correct, and relative-state views are wrong, and that gravity is the thing that will objectively define what is a wave function collapse. At that moment, it becomes well-defined what is a measurement, and at that moment, the potential inconsistency in CI-QM disappears. But it would mean a modification of QM, and not only of its interpretational scheme.
Amen,
Patrick.