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Temporary marriage, it's about time

  1. Sep 30, 2011 #1

    Evo

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    This is brilliant! I can't believe that it hasn't been done sooner. Marriage as a life long contract never made sense to me. How do you know if you'll still want to be married a few years from now? Apparently a lot of people don't and go through the expensive agony of divorce. Many more would cancel their marriage if it wasn't so expensive and have nasty lawyers pushing the opposing spouses to get more. I know, I've been through two divorces and it was the lawyers causing all of the problems.

    http://news.yahoo.com/til-2013-us-part-mexico-mulls-2-marriage-232608285.html [Broken]
     
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    Bahh! This time I thought evo is getting married temporarily :tongue2::surprised. I got excited for a while until I read the first line .. :uhh:
     
  4. Sep 30, 2011 #3
    It actually makes a lot of sense, and I'd be much more willing to marry somebody if there was a trial run first.
     
  5. Sep 30, 2011 #4

    Evo

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    People would take marriage more seriously and make more of an effort if they knew their spouse could opt not to renew. The murder rate would drop.
     
  6. Sep 30, 2011 #5
    It does not make sense to me unless they ban permanent marriage. Who think they will divorce when they marry? And, if they are being realistic wouldn't it make sense just to live like a married couple same place for few years before actually getting married?

    It might be mine lack of understanding about all this marriage business.
     
  7. Sep 30, 2011 #6

    Evo

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    There are benefits to getting married, taxes, insurance coverage, etc...
     
  8. Sep 30, 2011 #7

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    This would also sort out long drawn out divorces. It would be easier just to separate until the contract expires.
     
  9. Sep 30, 2011 #8

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    I like the idea. Not that I am interested at the moment :biggrin:
     
  10. Sep 30, 2011 #9
    AM I the only one who thinks that couples are more likely to divorce because of this "temporal marriage"

    Are you two married? You look like a great couple!

    Nah we are temporal couple, we might get a divorce soon, that's why our marriage is temporal.
     
  11. Sep 30, 2011 #10

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    Yah this is a bit confusing.

    So why do married couples get so many benefits again (in the US that is)? If the roots are some sort of belief that marriage is morally better and we tried to bring this to the US, wouldn't that fly in the face of the whole point of marriage?

    Actually, none of this makes any sense. What would the point be? If marriage is basically assumed temporary, what is the point? If Mexico also gives benefits to married couples, then marriage simply becomes a special tax break and nothing more.

    Also, Evo, are you still single? :!!)
     
  12. Sep 30, 2011 #11

    dlgoff

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    I thought the same thing. Thinking she was getting married long enough to get the furniture moved today.
     
  13. Sep 30, 2011 #12

    Ryan_m_b

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    Considering many couples get divorced anyway I think this will alleviate tension. The idea that if you promise to be together the rest of your life actually makes it so is ridiculous. If you are going to be together you will be together regardless of marriage type.
     
  14. Sep 30, 2011 #13

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    It would help to get to know the intended spouse before marriage. Date and then be engaged for two years before getting married. Get to know each others habits and hangups. Scrutinize the financial behaviors.

    I am amazed how little some couples know about each other when and after they marry.

    I have seen folks get married because they wanted to get married, but not necessarily to the person they marry. Hence divorce a few years later.

    My parents were engaged for 7 years, primarily because my dad went to university and they didn't have facilities for married students. They've been married 55 years this coming Nov. Both sets of grandparents were married until death claimed one - both grandmas died prematurely.
     
  15. Sep 30, 2011 #14

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    My wife and I are temporarily married. It has been 36+ years, and I think it might work out.
     
  16. Sep 30, 2011 #15
    You beat me to it turbo. By one post and 14 years,
     
  17. Sep 30, 2011 #16

    Astronuc

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    We're going 30 years next year, and together 31 years.

    We got the lifetime guarantee. :biggrin:
     
  18. Sep 30, 2011 #17

    Pengwuino

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    I wonder if any studies have been done comparing the divorce rate vs. how long people lived together beforehand. Time to google :D
     
  19. Sep 30, 2011 #18

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    Sorry, Evo doesn't date penguin's, even smart, but sinister ones like YOU !!!

    Rhody... o:) :devil:
     
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  20. Sep 30, 2011 #19

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    I believe there are such studies. I heard about one, long ago, that seemed to indicate that cohabitation did not improve the probability of staying together, i.e., the divorce rate was about the same or higher for cohabitants.

    Some mutual friends of my wife and I lived together, and they got married after we did. The woman wanted to get married, and the fellow really didn't, but he relented. They divorced about 5 or so years later. He remarried (to a younger girl) and she didn't.
     
  21. Sep 30, 2011 #20

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    Do you think lifetime of marriage is a challenge? Join the Mormons and you can get married for eternity! According to their beliefs, a temple marriage doesn't end with death.

    My parents knew each other about three weeks before they got engaged, and about another month or so before they got married. They had been married about 51 years when dad died.

    Crud, a quick check of the math says it was 55 years...I think. It seems like their 50th anniversary was just the other day. :sad:
     
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