Uncomfortable when it seems people are staring at you?

  1. wolram

    wolram 3,552
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    Do you feel uncomfortable when it seems people are staring at you?
    When talking to a mate outside the factory, on a coffe break, i had
    this spine tingling feeling, i had to turn around and look for what was
    behind me, there were three people staring in my direction, it turned
    out they were not staring at me but some thing beyond me, whatever,
    i still had the (there is some thing behind me feeling).
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  3. I'm thinking maybe they actually were staring at you until they saw you turn around. Or maybe just one of them was. How far away were they? Within earshot? Perhaps while focused on your own conversation, you unconsciously detected theirs. Just guessing. The sudden awareness of someone being behind you is a very real phenomenom, but I don't know what the mechanism is. It's an interesting topic.
  4. I hate it when people stare it's creepy! In a big lecture hall one time I had this weird feeling and turned around and this person was blatantly staring at me....creepy. Another time in the cafeteria, I was sitting at a table having my lunch when this weird girl comes down and sits right across from me at my table (which was weird enough because there were tons of empty tables around) and then just proceeds to stare at me......no hi....no hows it going....just im going to creep you out by staring at you while sitting about 2 feet away from you. After about 2 minutes I just left....to weird.
  5. How did you know they were staring at you? Were they directly behind you?

    I wonder how easily people can tell that they are stared upon when someone is side one to them and relatively far away about 10-20 meters.
  6. I just thought of something. At the local public library there's a big sign by the librarian's desk listing the library rules. One of the rules is

    "Do not stare at the librarian."

    I don't know why, but that has always struck me as funny. Why would there need to be such a rule? I suspect that librarians endure more grief than we give them credit for.

    Anyway, it demonstrates that being stared at is a universally, perhaps instinctively unpleasant - no, unnerving experience. Maybe we feel we're being sized up as prey?
  7. I must be completely missing that then? I really don't give a poo whichever way you look or how long you look if you're talking to me or I'm talking to you. Unless you're just trying to be a jerk by ignoring me or, looking like it on purpose. Otherwise I don't care.
  8. I think the idea is being stared at by strangers who are otherwise being uncommunicative.
  9. Math Is Hard

    Math Is Hard 4,635
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    because this is the librarian:


    now stop staring. :biggrin:
  10. wolram

    wolram 3,552
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    She is not my type :smile: She can not even wear the right sized shoes.
  11. turbo

    turbo 7,063
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    You're right, Woolie! Just kick her my way. I'll have those shoes off her in a trice!:rofl:
  12. wolram

    wolram 3,552
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    They were no more than 4 Mtrs away and directly behind me.
  13. wolram

    wolram 3,552
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    Look close Turbo, i am sure that scarf is hiding an adams aple:surprised
  14. turbo

    turbo 7,063
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    That's not Anne Coulter. She's probably real.
  15. Integral

    Integral 7,288
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    Back in my student days I recall one evening sitting in the local coffee shop working on a homework assignment, for me this involved some staring into space while contemplating the possible paths to a solution. Suddenly from across the room some, unnoticed to me, fellow suddenly flashed me his IQ. Then proceeded across the crowded room to hostilely ask why I was staring at him. I could only shake my head and stammer out an apology as I was suddenly jerked back into the real world.

    I guess someone staring across the room into what I thought was empty space was threating to this fellow.
  16. wolram

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    It is not so much the effect that some one is staring at you creates,
    that i was trying to point out, more the (knowing that someone unseen is staring at you) ,that tingle/ shudder up the spine.
  17. I think the "creepy feeling" is due to sound, or in some cases, an abrupt absence of such.
  18. A study was done over here and in most cases when you having a feeling someone is starring at you, someone is. So a person was probably watching you whether or not it was the people you think were
  19. hello

    When someone staring at me, i just ignored it.:biggrin:
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  20. Since when do you work in a library?:biggrin:
  21. Chi Meson

    Chi Meson 1,767
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    I had an even creepier experience at an airport when a woman was staring at me AND talking at me. Right at me. She has one of those ear-piece cell phones with no visible mouth-piece and was deep in dicusssion with a business matter. What made it even worse was that she was hunkered down in the chair opposite me, and kind of stooped forward as though she was trying to talk to me personally. She was mentally in another place though. When I figured out waht was going on, I wanted to yell as loud as I could:

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