Was I Wrong for Standing Up to My Bully in Class?

[Mentallic]

The real world involves REAL problems not childish high school drama that is dealt with by childish methods.

The OP was being mocked by the guy for far too long. Saying this is high school drama would imply that these sorts of things don't happen in the work force, which is blatantly wrong.

I'm pretty sure every parent teaches their kid the simple act of thinking before hitting for such petty arguments. What kind of person is proud of "taking down" others?

And I'm also sure that harassment in the real world is an offense that isn't merely punishable with a slap on the wrist.

 

[Aero51]

Personally, I think people are too afraid to stand up to their fears in this day and age. I'm proud I defied the people who set out to hurt me. I've even stood up for people who couldn't or wouldn't do it themselves.

 

[hddd123456789]

IMHO, standing up for injustice is commendable, but misunderstanding a situation might lead you with the best of intentions to do just the opposite: causing injustice. And then both parties are worse off. It's always better to assume the best in others, even if they really are conniving miscreants. You are only responsible for the injustice your hands send forth, not for the injustice of others.

 

[nitsuj]

What a great story!

lol he cried from opinionated belittling, you gave him TWO valuable lessons!

I agree with the standing up to reasoning.

some odd perspectives here such as "eye for an eye" with a negative connotation, were not talking violence here.

 

[xxChrisxx]

I say good for you for putting a reject in their place! I've had several run-ins with those type back in the day. I am proud to say I have either beat up or publicly embarrassed every bully that came my way in HS.

Personally, I think people are too afraid to stand up to their fears in this day and age. I'm proud I defied the people who set out to hurt me. I've even stood up for people who couldn't or wouldn't do it themselves.

 

[MarneMath]

Just my two cents, but assuming it was perfectly ok for the OP to embarass someone, a good lot of you seem to believe that there didn't exist better options. I spent half decade as an undisputed leader in squad. Yelling, demeaning, and out right humiliating was part of the norm when dealing with new privates. When I shifted to the civilian world, I toned it down a lot, but initially some things were so ingrain in me that I didn't realize that my tone, to civilians, was often seen as harsh and demanding.

One day a peer of mine came talked to me about how he perceived my attitude to be. I told him I was unaware and made an effort to readjust. So with that said. I've found that a lot of people are not aware that certain things they do bother you. So if you find that you just hold it in and then explode, that's a poor way to handle any situtation, which I believe is what the OP did.

There's an escalation of force that needs to be applied. IMO, talking to the person, then to someone of authority is always the better route than publicly trying to embarass someone.

On side note, if this was a work place and I was your boss, I would be inclinded to fire you. I'm a very no nonsense type of guy, and deciding to cause a scene instead of talkingto me about the issue is a cue that you have poor communication skills and negative influence in the work place. I don't need drama at the work place, but if you feel incline to bring it, then I tend to find that I don't need you either.

 

[Vagrant]

Just my two cents, but assuming it was perfectly ok for the OP to embarass someone, a good lot of you seem to believe that there didn't exist better options.

So if you find that you just hold it in and then explode, that's a poor way to handle any situtation, which I believe is what the OP did.

Seconded