What do I tell girls I am majoring in.

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The discussion revolves around a physics major seeking advice on how to present their major when meeting new people, particularly women. The individual currently claims to be studying finance but questions whether this is the best approach. Participants emphasize the importance of honesty, arguing that lying about one's major can lead to trust issues and complications in relationships. Many suggest that being open about studying physics can filter out those who may not appreciate or understand the field, while others humorously propose alternative majors that might sound more appealing. The consensus leans toward embracing one's true academic pursuits, as authenticity is seen as a more effective strategy for building meaningful connections.
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  • #52
As others have pointed out, it's best to be honest. What dipole said in post #43 gave me pause, because I have experienced that as well. However, I think it's effectively countered by the point that Drakkith was making in post #21, which (I think) is that if I'm a scientist, I probably don't want to be with a girl who doesn't value science or see it as a worthwhile pursuit in the first place. For that matter, I don't want a girl who's going to pre-judge me just based on my stated profession, or who is only looking for someone's money. So I might as well say "physics" up front and use that as a filter to find girls who will respect me for who I am. Don't make the mistake of thinking that this filter will exclude really attractive women either. It is only a stereotype that all of them are shallow or unintellectual.
 
  • #53
I just want to add this. Almost without exception I find that people who are almost always truthful, even about little things, are happier and experience less drama and grief in their lives. People that lie, ESPECIALLY about the little things tend to have far more grief, drama, and pain in their lives. Why? Because they bring it upon themselves in my opinion. Because when people find out you lie to them they stop being friendly, they sometimes actively work to cause you problems, or if they are decent people they simply leave you to your lies and never speak to you again. You lose one of the most important things you can have between yourself and other people. Trust.
 
  • #54
Obviously, you shouldn't say anything. Give a false major and false contact information; it's the only way to be safe.
 
  • #55
Drakkith said:
I just want to add this. Almost without exception I find that people who are almost always truthful, even about little things, are happier and experience less drama and grief in their lives. People that lie, ESPECIALLY about the little things tend to have far more grief, drama, and pain in their lives. Why? Because they bring it upon themselves in my opinion. Because when people find out you lie to them they stop being friendly, they sometimes actively work to cause you problems, or if they are decent people they simply leave you to your lies and never speak to you again. You lose one of the most important things you can have between yourself and other people. Trust.
Totally agree. One more thing to add is that telling the truth about yourself, especially if your instinct is to hide certain aspects for fear of rejection/ridicule, is a good way to become more comfortable about who you are. When you do meet people who not only accept but value you as you are (but still challenge you when they think you're in the wrong) you'll value it all the more and all that fear will go away. You'll be able to proudly tell people things you think they think are negative because you know there are people who like you for it anyway and if someone doesn't like it well you probably won't like them anyway.
 
  • #56
Drakkith said:
I just want to add this. Almost without exception I find that people who are almost always truthful, even about little things, are happier and experience less drama and grief in their lives. People that lie, ESPECIALLY about the little things tend to have far more grief, drama, and pain in their lives. Why? Because they bring it upon themselves in my opinion. Because when people find out you lie to them they stop being friendly, they sometimes actively work to cause you problems, or if they are decent people they simply leave you to your lies and never speak to you again. You lose one of the most important things you can have between yourself and other people. Trust.

Great post, Drakkith. You're wise beyond your years.
 
  • #57
Excellent place to end.
 
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