What is the term for phobia of becoming mother?

[jackson6612]

What is the term for phobia of becoming mother? Please let me know.

 

[Char. Limit]

Well, there's tokophobia for childbirth, but I don't think there's an official name for a fear of becoming a mother. Parentophobia is the best I can come up with, and it's pseudo-Greek at best, just plain wrong at worst.

 

[Danger]

I can think only of the German term: "dambrokinrubber" syndrome.

 

[HeLiXe]

I found several for fear of childbirth: lockiophobia, maieusiophobia or parturiphobia. But nothing for fear of being a mom.

 

[Pythagorean]

First, are you planning on using this information to guilt your wife into having a baby?

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

I have a nameless fear.

 

[Danger]

First, are you planning on using this information to guilt your wife into having a baby?

Humor aside (ahem...)
Are you referring to a real phobia or just the normal human reaction toward caring for something helpless? The latter is perfectly normal, and particularly for males. I'm not particularly innocuous, as is indicated by my name, but I felt... The first time that slept with a pregnant woman, and the first time that I held a little baby, were the same. I was afraid to move in case I broke something.
I've always wanted a child, but it's pretty much out of the question now. All of my girlfriends were either on birth control or naturally infertile, including W who had a diaphram and was menopausal (not to mention having already sparked off 6 offspring). I still want one, but there is no practicality to that desire. No woman that I consider a suitable mate would have anything to do with me, and even if she did I wouldn't be alive at the end of gestation. That sort of defeats the purpose, since the biological side is simply an ingrained urge and my desire is to raise someone in my mindset (with normal variations, of course).
At the back of my mind has also been that thought that, evolutionary pelvic structure notwithstanding, asking a woman to go through childbirth would be like me being asked to fire a 3 kg bowling ball out of my ***.

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

So you don't fear becoming a mother?

 

[jackson6612]

Thanks a lot, everyone, for your suggestions. I find many of them close to what I'm looking for.

First, are you planning on using this information to guilt your wife into having a baby?

Hi Pyth

I'm a single!

I'm also an English learner as I'm sure you have already figured out. 'guilt' is a noun, therefore its use, "to guilt", in my humble and personal opinion, is incorrect. Please let me know if I'm wrong. Please don't mind anything.

 

[Danger]

"to guilt", in my humble and personal opinion, is incorrect.

Your opinion is correct. Python was using a common slang term which means to make one feel guilty about something.

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

I'm also an English learner as I'm sure you have already figured out. 'guilt' is a noun, therefore its use, "to guilt", in my humble and personal opinion, is incorrect. Please let me know if I'm wrong. Please don't mind anything.

You are correct that the grammar is incorrect. However, this is the net where grammatical errors are usually ignored. As a result, you should always assume that the grammar you read on the net might not be correct.

 

[jackson6612]

Are you referring to a real phobia or just the normal human reaction toward caring for something helpless?

The real.

At the back of my mind has also been that thought that, evolutionary pelvic structure notwithstanding, asking a woman to go through childbirth would be like me being asked to fire a 3 kg bowling ball out of my ***.

See if you were a woman, you would have that phobia of becoming a mother!

Best wishes
Jack

 

[GeorginaS]

Phobias about potential motherness aside, verbifying nouns is positively de rigueur these days with English. First case up: Google.

*curtsy*

Disclaimer: Most examples of verbifying bug the ever-living-beejeebeez out of me.

 

[Office_Shredder]

Disclaimer: Most examples of verbifying bug the ever-living-beejeebeez out of me.

Obviously not too much

 

[Danger]

Obviously not too much

 

[drizzle]

When my mother was pregnant with my brother, she took my hand and put it on her tummy, it was okay until he kicked/ turned/ whatever he did... I was speechless… TERRIFIED! kind of like this cat's reaction:

[PLAIN]http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2008/09/funny-pictures-evil-genius-cat-is-excited-about-his-creation.jpg

I said to her “how do sleep at night with this… Alien in your tummy?”


Irony is, he's my favorite brother now.

 

[jackson6612]

she took my hand and put it on her tummy, it was okay until he kicked/ turned/ whatever he did... I was speechless

I didn't know that you could feel the movement of an unborn baby by placing a hand on the tummy. Probably, he just knew that it was his brother so he was a bit...excited, happy and turned a little bit around!

 

[lisab]

I didn't know that you could feel the movement of an unborn baby by placing a hand on the tummy. Probably, he just knew that it was his brother so he was a bit...excited, happy and turned a little bit around!

Sister .

Oh yes, you can definitely feel it moving from the outside. Sort of like a squirmy cat in a pillow case. But for a truly freaky feeling, you have to be on the other side...the mom!

 

[Evo]

I didn't know that you could feel the movement of an unborn baby by placing a hand on the tummy.

It's common to see the baby kicking or pushing. You could clearly see the foot of my daughter pushing against my stomach. The baby of a girl at work was kicking so hard that it was making her blouse jump with each kick.

Surely there are women that are phobic about becoming a mother, I was nearly phobic in my fear of going into labor, and I definitely did not ever want to be a mother. Is it because it's not "right" to not want to be a mother?

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

I remember seeing and feeling the kicks of my children from within the womb. That was the first communication I had with them when I kicked them back.

 

[jackson6612]

Surely there are women that are phobic about becoming a mother, I was nearly phobic in my fear of going into labor, and I definitely did not ever want to be a mother. Is it because it's not "right" to not want to be a mother?

Hi Evo

I'm an English learner, therefore I'm having a little difficulty in interpreting the sentence. What does that "it" refer to? Please let me know.

 

[Char. Limit]

I'm still not sure which fear is being referred to here. Are we talking about a fear of childbirth or a fear of parenting? The way this conversation is running, I think it's about childbirth, but I want to be sure.

 

[Ivan Seeking]

What is the term for phobia of becoming mother?

Self-preservation?

 

[jtbell]

'guilt' is a noun, therefore its use, "to guilt", in my humble and personal opinion, is incorrect.

As far as formal English is concerned, you are correct. However, in colloquial English it has lately become fashionable to convert nouns into verbs. The most common example is probably "gift", as in "he gifted me the book." We call this process, naturally enough, "verbing." (turning the noun "verb" itself into a verb ) (or maybe that was just in the "Calvin and Hobbes" comic strip?)

Apparently not: English likes to verb

 

[Ivan Seeking]

As far as formal English is concerned, you are correct. However, in colloquial English it has lately become fashionable to convert nouns into verbs. The most common example is probably "gift", as in "he gifted me the book." We call this process, naturally enough, "verbing." (turning the noun "verb" itself into a verb ) (or maybe that was just in the "Calvin and Hobbes" comic strip?)

Apparently not: English likes to verb

A more recent example is that we now google [verb] on Google [proper noun].

 

[jtbell]

At least with "to google" and "to guilt" we didn't have a convenient verb already handy, so those are actually useful coinages. "To gift" on the other hand... ewww.

 

[Antiphon]

Maternaphobia.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Pro-Choice.just joking ;-)

 

[Ivan Seeking]

At least with "to google" and "to guilt" we didn't have a convenient verb already handy, so those are actually useful coinages. "To gift" on the other hand... ewww.

I think I shall taco tonight.

 

[Math Is Hard]

It's common to see the baby kicking or pushing. You could clearly see the foot of my daughter pushing against my stomach. The baby of a girl at work was kicking so hard that it was making her blouse jump with each kick.

That was no foot. That was a tiny hand reaching frantically for your debit card.