What type of shoes are best for a casual and comfortable weekend look?

[mcknia07]

I really like the black pair the best, what brand are those? and were those another Ebay find?

 

[Fearless]

So you need to get better at your shoe-shopping? I think you need to determine what is the kind of style, you're pursuing? What is the lasting first impression you like to transmit?

Take the advice from a ladyfriend. I did that and it worked wonders, she is really REALLY into shoes, so choosing her as an advice got me good into shoes as well.

My strategy is to pick shoes that I like and that women would approve of (hanging out with artsy hipster-chicks does that to you ;)). Because many women tend to look at the shoes of a male first before they look at anything else.

The style I would recommend, for being rather safe is classic leather shoes. And the colour should almost always be black or a combination of black and something else, with black as the dominant colour.

Typical good shoes for a newbie is the doc martens 'three-eye' without the steel toe. Very classy shoe, although maybe a bit expensive, but with a 50 quid budget, you should afford them.

Think classic, conservative, leather and black. The shape you should go for is totally up to you, but take round shapes over rectangular ones. The shoes futurebird are showing are right on spot. I would buy that for a dollar!

 

[Moonbear]

Because many women tend to look at the shoes of a male first before they look at anything else.

We do? Do you hang out with a lot of very shy women who spend all their time looking at people's feet? I'd say that most of the time, I do not even notice men's shoes. About the only time they're going to catch my attention is if he's wearing white sneakers with a business suit where it just stands out as horribly wrong (except if I'm walking in NYC, where it's very common to see people walking with sneakers and business suits on the sidewalks...their dress shoes are in their bag/briefcase to put on when they get to the office).

I don't like to suggest to other people what to wear in shoes unless they're asking about something for a very specific purpose to match a specific outfit. For example, if someone asks for help finding a pair of shoes to go with their interview suit, I can help with that. But, if they're just asking about a style to wear every day, I think it comes down much more to personal tastes. For example, Monique and I both enjoy classic styles with a splash of color (and some without the splash of color). But, clearly that's not going to suit Integral's daughter's personality...she's going with a much more daring, flashy shoe. Especially the red one has a very youthful look to it, perfect for an older teen or young adult, but way too young for me.

I would add another condition to Fearless' advice to ask someone else to help you shop. Find someone who YOU think looks well-dressed and ask that person to help you shop. Don't just pick any female because she's female...we don't all have the same tastes either and might steer you toward something that doesn't fit your style at all. If those crazy, outlandish styles appeal to you, but you just don't know how to put it together, ask someone who dresses that way for help. If it's the more conservative look that's appealing to you, ask someone who dresses that way for help. And, not all styles work with all feet either. If you have a wider foot, the shoes that a guy with a narrow foot can wear might not work for you. If you're shorter, the shoes a taller guy might look good in might not work for you.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

We do?

I have heard this before. I rank it with the common opinion that a woman has already decided if she will consider sleeping with you with in five minutes of meeting you.

Don't just pick any female because she's female...we don't all have the same tastes either and might steer you toward something that doesn't fit your style at all.

My ex went with me shopping once. She was rather critical of my choices and for the hell of it I went along with her suggestions. She was rather disappointed when she saw me wearing the clothes she had picked out. lol
Women don't necessarily know how to shop for mens clothes.

 

[lisab]

I have heard this before. I rank it with the common opinion that a woman has already decided if she will consider sleeping with you with in five minutes of meeting you.

Um, no, not even close !

 

[Saladsamurai]

Docs

 

[Monique]

I rank it with the common opinion that a woman has already decided if she will consider sleeping with you with in five minutes of meeting you.

that's funny

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Um, no, not even close !

I think that the idea is that a woman will have catagorized you as a potential interest or not in that time frame. Particular emphasis on the 'potential' part. There are though women that I met that did not seem to have any interest in me what so ever that seemed to change their minds at a later time.

Docs

I really like Docs. They have a very nice cut and design.

 

[lisab]

I think that the idea is that a woman will have catagorized you as a potential interest or not in that time frame. Particular emphasis on the 'potential' part. There are though women that I met that did not seem to have any interest in me what so ever that seemed to change their minds at a later time.

I really like Docs. They have a very nice cut and design.

I think that for some guys, the decision is made before they even approach and say "hello." For women, the decision process begins with "hello."

At least that's how I remember it from my dating days...a long time ago!

 

[Moonbear]

I have heard this before. I rank it with the common opinion that a woman has already decided if she will consider sleeping with you with in five minutes of meeting you.

Within 5 min of dating a guy, I haven't even decided if I like his shoes yet.

I think that the idea is that a woman will have catagorized you as a potential interest or not in that time frame. Particular emphasis on the 'potential' part. There are though women that I met that did not seem to have any interest in me what so ever that seemed to change their minds at a later time.

Most of the guys I've dated, I had no interest in dating at all when I first met them, let alone considering sleeping with them. Heck, some I didn't even like when I first met them, but they sort of grew on me with time as I ran into them more and more and got to know their personalities better (on the other hand, since they're all ex's, maybe I should have followed my first impressions?). Even the current boyfriend took the better part of a night to be identified as worth dating...when I first met him, I thought he was more interested in one of the other women I was with that night, and also thought he was terribly arrogant. (I've mellowed him )

 

[Integral]

I really like the black pair the best, what brand are those? and were those another Ebay find?

Those are also Fluevogs, they appear in the Flueseum I linked to, about 3/4 the way down, the Grand Nationals.

 

[Moonbear]

Those are also Fluevogs, they appear in the Flueseum I linked to, about 3/4 the way down, the Grand Nationals.

That page seems broken, in a perpetual reloading loop, so it's hard to scroll. Gawrsh, those are expensive shoes though! Your daughter is going to need 3 jobs just to support her shoe habit!

 

[Saladsamurai]

Just went out and bought another pair of Docs. They are a deep brown: