When to disclose details of sexuality

[brainstorm]

Well, it worked for Clinton. The public basically told the media "Look, he's doing a good job. Frankly we don't care what his sexual peccadillos are. So shut the h*ll up for once."

[EDIT] this whole celeb sexual misconduct thing is OT, but it's your call brainstorm...

I only used it as an example because it illustrates typical attitudes that many people can identify with or at least recognize.

I don't know if this is even more off topic, but I wonder if the response to the negative press against Clinton didn't have more to do with the fact that the internet was a fresher medium at that time, and many people were still titillated with sexual curiosity at a new medium with less censorship and point-to-point connectivity where sexuality was concerned. By the time of the T Woods scandal, internet had/has become a tiresome oversexed medium where people get shocked or disappointed much more than titillated or gratified as they once may have. Just a hunch.

This may actually related to the thread topic because it has to do with sexual secrecy as having a titillating/seductive effect. As long as your partner is subtly suggesting that they are a wild animal inside sexually, your imagination can run wild with it. Once they fully disclose that their sexual desires and activity really are uncontrollable and they may have trouble being faithful for the rest of their lives, the allure must fade some (depending on the person of course). Again, just a hunch.

 

[Physics-Learner]

I am curious; when do people disclose all the details of their sexuality to their partner or just a friend? This includes sexual history, turn-ons and turn-offs, fantasies, "dirty secrets," and potentially embarrassing disclosures? Do people eventually disclose everything in a relationship or are some secrets best kept permanently hidden from even the most loved and trusted partner/friend?

it seems to me that this would widely vary, based on the situation.

and it will take some time for a person to get to know his partner, in terms of what and when to disclose.

i think dan mentioned something about him not caring about a girl's past number of sexual partners. but there are other guys who do. a lot can depend on what sort of emotions a man or a woman attaches to sex.

i don't think it is a wise thing to figure that if you are okay with something, that someone else would be.

as we get to know someone, we will begin to figure out some of this stuff. for sure, something needs to be disclosed if and when a person knows that his/her partner is going to be affected by it (assuming one wants to continue with the relationship).

we have all been raised in different households, with different religious viewpoints, different moral viewpoints, etc. - so again, each case can represent a unique situation.

personally, i don't get the obsession that many people have about sex. so many men spend their entire lives looking for a sex partner, if they don't currently have one. btw, i am a male.