One of my friends was put in the hospital by another woman. Violence certainly isn't reserved to men. Stereotypes that allow women to abuse men should be challenged, just like stereotypes that result in mistreatment of women in science need to be challenged.
I don't like electron proton analogy because it puts people into one box or the other with no middle ground. If you want to talk about equality, no two people are the same. Small gender differences do exist, but when those differences are emphasized, it can be very frustrating and alienating to women in science who've been directly harmed by gender stereotypes and bias. You can't reason with a wild animal that is ready to pounce, but you can reason with other human beings.
We will never be free of bias. However, it's possible to reduce that bias by making people aware of it.
Racial bias, unfortunately, puts some of the negative stereotypes of both genders on minorities, who are often seen as more violent and who tend to suffer from biases that can result in their work being undervalued. Gender bias should be discussed, but I believe that racial bias is a bigger problem.