Part 1
reactions of a molecule
I don't mean to seem philistine but this is not a question about chemistry. I do not mean that it is not a proper question, but it is a more general question about natural physical laws - whatever the general answer also applies in chemistry.
Why a individual molecule reacts you could say is because there are electrical forces between that parts of a molecule and between one molecule and another that push atoms to go from one molecule to another. That forces push an atom in a certain pathway, or that potential energy diminishes along that pathway overall is saying the same thing in different ways, though physicists and chemists tend to prefer the second.
The nature of these forces is all electrostatic - nothing but Coulomb's law. Except the dynamics within which the forces operate is quantum mechanical which makes it all more complicated and unobvious. Very important within that is a principle called the exclusion principle which is not exactly a force, but makes electrons get away from each other and so build atoms with shapes of electric charge distribution and that get bigger the more electrons there are, roughly speaking.
The principles can be stated very briefly (no doubt better than I have). How that works out in actually explaining any phenomena, and even what it really means, is what your big textbooks are about
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If you ask why the Coulomb law you are out of chemistry and into at least quantum field theory I think, or hifalutin physics anyway. If you ask why the quantum laws you are into even more fundamental physics, I don't know if there is an answer for now. The chemist is forced to just accept those laws as if he is dragged into that fundamental direction he will never get out of it to do any chemistry, and like sewage disposal someone has to do it (and it has its own interest, and most science is like that). Within those limits the physical chemist can rather well for example 'fundamentally' explain the hydrogen bond, which is key to the functioning of DNA, RNA and proteins - then the biologist has to accept likewise on trust a dumbed down version of that.