Why Do Female Students Listen to Male Students' Questions Without Interacting?

[Smurf]

Well on that occassion, no one was asking any questions. I stayed behind copying some optional stuff from the overhead. Most others left. She just sat there doing nothing.

I forgot to say that the day before, I sat next to her without saying a single word to each other.

This is the kind of info that should have been in post #1, not page 4.

It has happened before to me on four separate occasions. Although they were during my mid teenage years with the girls also that age. So maybe that may not count. That was also during the time when I indifferent to girls after that I avoided girls until now really, when I am a bit more open and understand that they are humans as well:).

I wouldn't give that speach to girls if I were you.

 

[theoritician]

This is the kind of info that should have been in post #1, not page 4.

The info in post 1 are all correct. But the most recent post you quoted described the situation yesterday and the thread started a week ago. New situations arise you know.

 

[JasonRox]

The info in post 1 are all correct. But the most recent post you quoted described the situation yesterday and the thread started a week ago. New situations arise you know.

Are you another member under a different name?

 

[Smurf]

The info in post 1 are all correct. But the most recent post you quoted described the situation yesterday and the thread started a week ago. New situations arise you know.

Ah, perhaps I was confused.

 

[Smurf]

You know what, that will probably never happen. You don't sound like a social person and for her to ask something personal would mean putting pressure on herself. Therefore, girls hate pressure implies you'll never get asked.

Take the lead. End of story.

Find another girl though. If that fails, find another. Over and over.

I would actually disagree with JasonRox on this point. If you're interesting enough and they're comfortable enough with you (doesn't take long to do this) then girls WILL ask your name, and will initiate more personal levels of communication. Also, doing so should be taken as a sign of interest.

But hey, don't take my word for it. Practice makes perfect. Chat girls up whenever you see 'em. Don't know what to say? Anything will do, tell a story, make something up. Don't like lying? Make something up, then tell her you made it up! For example, next time your at the grocery store pick the Check-out with the prettiest girl. When its your turn, tell her it's your birthday next week and your girlfriend wants to take you to the local strip club to celebrate (whats up with that? ) Whatever. Telling a story is my favorite way to start a conversation. Smile. If you're friendly, people are generally friendly back to you. If she isn't don't worry, it's not you, she probably just had a bad day! Practice. People are everywhere, this is one thing you don't have to go out of your way to practice doing. Unless you live on a farm.

 

[morphism]

Are you another member under a different name?

He might be pivoxa15?

 

[JasonRox]

He might be pivoxa15?

Yeah, that was my guess too!

 

[JasonRox]

I would actually disagree with JasonRox on this point. If you're interesting enough and they're comfortable enough with you (doesn't take long to do this) then girls WILL ask your name, and will initiate more personal levels of communication. Also, doing so should be taken as a sign of interest.

Yes, but if he's not really a sociable person, no one will feel comfortable asking him those questions. Talking to someone who lacks social skills isn't an easy thing to do.

He seems to lack social skills. I'm not talking about skills with girls, but fundamental social skills. (Like worse than AFC.)

 

[Smurf]

Yes, but if he's not really a sociable person, no one will feel comfortable asking him those questions. Talking to someone who lacks social skills isn't an easy thing to do.

He seems to lack social skills. I'm not talking about skills with girls, but fundamental social skills. (Like worse than AFC.)

I see your point. I guess it's back to 'practice! practice!'. Most of this stuff isn't really specific to dates, it's just social skills.

 

[rewebster]

It has happened before to me on four separate occasions. Although they were during my mid teenage years with the girls also that age. So maybe that may not count. That was also during the time when I indifferent to girls after that I avoided girls until now really, when I am a bit more open and understand that they are humans as well:).

1--women are usually more afraid of being rejected than most men

2--you won't do anything until you reach the threshold temperature

3--women are not praying mantis (usually)

4--if you don't talk to her (like it's a personal thing) it won't become a personal thing

 

[JasonRox]

1--women are usually more afraid of being rejected than most men

2--you won't do anything until you reach the threshold temperature

3--women are not praying mantis (usually)

4--if you don't talk to her (like it's a personal thing) it won't become a personal thing

1. I disagree. Men are really afraid to get rejected, hence why they never want to approach girls and complain that girls should ask them out for once. Stop being a baby and grow some balls. Plus, most girls ask men when they want them. They surely don't kitty out like most men.

I have no idea what you meant by the rest though.

 

[Cyrus]

Seems to me like she wants to hear questions asked by others because she cares about learning. Now you are just obsessing over something that is nothing and coming off as a desperate weirdo. I would stay away from her because I don't see this ending well.

 

[theoritician]

Anyway, its continued. I was staying back with another classmate discussing about some material after class and everyone else was gone except her, sitting by herself doing nothing.

I left without saying anything to her through the back door. But the theme of the thread continues, what is going on?

 

[TestUser12]

A colleague of mine has some kind of implant, I'm not sure if it's a pacemaker or what, but anyways he has to stay sitting down until it's stopped doing what it's doing. Maybe she has a similar thing?

 

[moose]

Do you know if she ever stays after in class during the times that you don't?

 

[Smurf]

A colleague of mine has some kind of implant, I'm not sure if it's a pacemaker or what, but anyways he has to stay sitting down until it's stopped doing what it's doing. Maybe she has a similar thing?

entities should not be multiplied beyond necessity

 

[TestUser12]

Smurf. Of course you're right. But don't you think that the speculation about her staying around to watch him because she likes him is an equal amount of multiplication?

 

[theoritician]

Do you know if she ever stays after in class during the times that you don't?

Thats impossible to answer but I think the answer is no.

 

[theoritician]

Smurf. Of course you're right. But don't you think that the speculation about her staying around to watch him because she likes him is an equal amount of multiplication?

I sit behind her so she isn't watching me.

 

[rewebster]

I sit behind her so she isn't watching me.

First---do YOU want to ask her out on a date? (yes or no)


if no, this is all just fantasy


if yes, then, what is your fear as to why you haven't asked her yet?

if it is the fear of being rejected (like you have strongly alluded to), then where does this fear come from?

 

[theoritician]

First---do YOU want to ask her out on a date? (yes or no)if no, this is all just fantasyif yes, then, what is your fear as to why you haven't asked her yet?

if it is the fear of being rejected (like you have strongly alluded to), then where does this fear come from?

I know that if she asked me out for a date, I would go. But that is not going to happen is it?

The hardest things is to get the conversation started. She clearly is not interested in talking about the subject matter as I have tried talking to her about it from last time. It seems she is not talkative in general. She might also not be enrolled in the class and is listening for interest sake only because I have not seen her take past exams in the prereq subjects and she told me that she dosen't do the excercises.

So the hardest thing is making the experience of talking to her enjoyable and appear unforced and then things might happen from there. But this initial step is proving to be impossible especially after the bad start I had a week ago. To be honest, had she not waited after class, I probably would forget about her.

Maybe what I should do is if next time she waits, I go ask her why she is waiting around. So I will get a conversation started. At worst I will find out
'what is going on' which is what I am dying to know.

 

[Smurf]

Smurf. Of course you're right. But don't you think that the speculation about her staying around to watch him because she likes him is an equal amount of multiplication?

Well it's not a sure thing, but I'd say it's still more likely. Besides, which one is more fun?

 

[Smurf]

I know that if she asked me out for a date, I would go. But that is not going to happen is it?

The hardest things is to get the conversation started. She clearly is not interested in talking about the subject matter as I have tried talking to her about it from last time. It seems she is not talkative in general. She might also not be enrolled in the class and is listening for interest sake only because I have not seen her take past exams in the prereq subjects and she told me that she dosen't do the excercises.

So the hardest thing is making the experience of talking to her enjoyable and appear unforced and then things might happen from there. But this initial step is proving to be impossible especially after the bad start I had a week ago. To be honest, had she not waited after class, I probably would forget about her.

Maybe what I should do is if next time she waits, I go ask her why she is waiting around. So I will get a conversation started. At worst I will find out
'what is going on' which is what I am dying to know.

sounds like a plan, man.

 

[JasonRox]

Don't like lying? Make something up, then tell her you made it up! For example, next time your at the grocery store pick the Check-out with the prettiest girl. When its your turn, tell her it's your birthday next week and your girlfriend wants to take you to the local strip club to celebrate (whats up with that? ) Whatever. Telling a story is my favorite way to start a conversation. Smile. If you're friendly, people are generally friendly back to you. If she isn't don't worry, it's not you, she probably just had a bad day! Practice. People are everywhere, this is one thing you don't have to go out of your way to practice doing. Unless you live on a farm.

Man, lying is just stupid. It's not a flirting technique. It's flat out lying and it's retarded.

If I'm a wing or someone is a wing with me, one of my top rules is no lying. I hate that crap. I hate how some people seem to think it's a flirting technique. Lame.

 

[theoritician]

One more trivial matter I forgot to mention. Last time when I asked her a question, I accidently covered the question area with my hand and when she was trying to explain, she laid her hand on top of mine for 15 seconds or so, as if to point to the question I was covering. Is that a girlie thing or what? Certainly no one has done something like that before to me when explaining a problem. They would point to the question area but not physically touch my hand. By actually touching my hand, I couldn't remove my hand from the question area so she didn't really help to see the problem. In fact I was mildly shocked at the time. Does that mean anything though?

 

[rewebster]

One more trivial matter I forgot to mention. Last time when I asked her a question, I accidently covered the question area with my hand and when she was trying to explain, she laid her hand on top of mine for 15 seconds or so, as if to point to the question I was covering. Is that a girlie thing or what? Certainly no one has done something like that before to me when explaining a problem. They would point to the question area but not physically touch my hand. By actually touching my hand, I couldn't remove my hand from the question area so she didn't really help to see the problem. In fact I was mildly shocked at the time. Does that mean anything though?

are you saying that that experience was pleasant and enjoyable?

 

[cristo]

One more trivial matter I forgot to mention. Last time when I asked her a question, I accidently covered the question area with my hand and when she was trying to explain, she laid her hand on top of mine for 15 seconds or so, as if to point to the question I was covering. Is that a girlie thing or what? Certainly no one has done something like that before to me when explaining a problem. They would point to the question area but not physically touch my hand. By actually touching my hand, I couldn't remove my hand from the question area so she didn't really help to see the problem. In fact I was mildly shocked at the time. Does that mean anything though?

How can anyone guess an answer to that? Why don't you just ask her if she wants to do something, then you'll get an answer and won't be sat wondering about every little thing that happens between you two. Moonbear's advice is good: ask her if she wants to get together to study, that way you may be more comfortable. But, seriously, you need to decide either to leave her or ask her out; you can't sit in limbo forever!

 

[rewebster]

(he may be a virgin--everyone 'matures' at a different rate)

 

[theoritician]

I got the facts wrong. I covered the question except the first line and a bit. She was trying to point across the line as she read and so touched my hand as a result. It could be a subconscious thing on her behalf, indicating that she likes me.

 

[proton]

so she's been waiting after class, and then not saying anything? I did that a few times in one of my classes because I was interested in what the professor had to say to the students.

how often does she stay after class when youre NOT there?

Maybe she's just weird or something?