Why Does My Father Complain About My Job Search Efforts?

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The discussion centers around the challenges of job searching and the dynamics of familial expectations, particularly between the poster and their father. It explores themes of parental pressure, personal responsibility, and differing values regarding education and work.

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Main Points Raised

  • The original poster expresses frustration over their father's complaints about their job search efforts, despite having applied to various positions and holding an A.A. degree.
  • Some participants suggest that the father may be experiencing a phase or that the poster's financial independence could mitigate the father's concerns.
  • One participant advises considering a broader range of job opportunities, including less desirable positions, to gain experience and perspective in the job market.
  • The poster mentions a lack of bonding with their father, indicating a disconnect in interests, particularly between the father's focus on baseball and the poster's interest in science.

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Participants express differing views on the father's complaints and the poster's job search efforts. There is no consensus on the appropriateness of the father's concerns or the effectiveness of the poster's job search strategy.

Contextual Notes

Some participants reference the importance of financial independence and the potential need for flexibility in job searching, but these points remain open to interpretation and are not universally accepted.

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I have a 67 year old father who complains about me not trying to find work. I've been looking for work for a year now. I have my A.A. degree. He thinks I'm not trying. but I did the best I can. I talk to managers from different stores and hand in my resumes to all the stores I applied at. Luckily, I'm going to the University at Buffalo(if I get accepted and have a dorm room). My father believes that my education is not important. anyone has a complaining parent?
 
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I moved out of my parents' house long before it was 'legal' to do so; they didn't complain at all after that.
 
lisab said:
I moved out of my parents' house long before it was 'legal' to do so; they didn't complain at all after that.

Then I guess my father is going through some phase.
 
Of course, you have already moved out, right? You've accepted full financial responsibility for your life, right? In that case, you are right: he has nothing to complain about.
 
Jesus Christ, life is too short. Your dad is 67, go and give him a hug or something.
 
what said:
Jesus Christ, life is too short. Your dad is 67, go and give him a hug or something.

meh, never bonded with him. All he cares about is baseball and I only care about science.
 
kaos86 said:
I have a 67 year old father who complains about me not trying to find work. I've been looking for work for a year now. I have my A.A. degree. He thinks I'm not trying. but I did the best I can. I talk to managers from different stores and hand in my resumes to all the stores I applied at. Luckily, I'm going to the University at Buffalo(if I get accepted and have a dorm room). My father believes that my education is not important. anyone has a complaining parent?
No work? Find a job with a landscaper cutting grass, edging, and trimming hedges. Find another job late at night cleaning grease-traps in a steak-house. Sometimes it helps to get some perspective. If you refuse to consider jobs other than those that you are shooting for, you might consider loosening up a bit. Some of the most profitable job-tracks that I followed started out with jobs that I didn't necessarily aim for but fell into.

In this economy, it's hard to pigeonhole yourself too tightly and still find work. Generalists will eat your lunch, especially if they are hard workers and flexible WRT to hours, on-call demands, etc.
 
kaos86 said:
All he cares about is baseball
Apparently not:
kaos86 said:
I have a 67 year old father who complains about me not trying to find work.
 

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