Can Intense Feelings Ruin Lifelong Connections?

[Galteeth]

To SELFMADE: Recognize the difference between "real" love and possesive love. If you truly loved this woman, you would respect her freedom.

Not only do you desire her for yourself, you desire your image of her, and you are threatened by the possibility of her finding happiness with someone else.

It's analogous to the parents who love their children but then reject them when they don't tun out according to the fantasy image they had in their heads. Loving someone means respecting their chocies. A relationship that is not based on the full consent of both parties will (99.9%) never be fulfilling.

 

[rootX]

This thread makes me happy for some reason. I am feeling good about my age..

 

[zoobyshoe]

This thread makes me happy for some reason. I am feeling good about my age..

What is your age?

 

[zoobyshoe]

Oooh, a possible taker!

Voice of narrator:

"Evo and her spawn will soon feed. It's been months since they last tasted human flesh."

 

[rewebster]

Voice of narrator:

"Evo and her spawn will soon feed. It's been months since they last tasted human flesh."

you better have a better reason than that not to take her up on her offer

 

[Galteeth]

This thread makes me happy for some reason. I am feeling good about my age..

Worrying about your age is sort of pointless. A life contains all ages, until the individual dies. So even when you're young, you're going to be old. I have never understood age discrimination.

 

[rootX]

what is your age?

21.5. edit: wait, that was last year. I cannot even remember my age :(

Worrying about your age is sort of pointless. A life contains all ages, until the individual dies. So even when you're young, you're going to be old. I have never understood age discrimination.

Yes you eventually get old but you still have years to enjoy and make choices before you reach 40/60/80.

 

[Lisa!]

They say life starts at 40!

 

[BobG]

What I'm saying, I think, is that the older you get the more careful you get, despite yourself, and you acquire all sorts of instinctive avoidance behaviors that prevent you from jumping into things the way you will when you are younger. So, at the same time you are becoming less and less attractive physically and have fewer and fewer prospects, you are also, paradoxically, more picky about what you'll put up with.

I think "old people" are capable of being much more reckless than young people when it comes to romance.

Most single people in their 40's/50's are divorcees. The odds of meeting an emotionally healthy divorcee in their 40's/50's are pretty slim, so "careful" and "dating" are words that can't exist within the same context.

And while you're technically correct about older people being more picky, they're just more picky about which emotional disorders they find desirable in a partner.

For example, a woman that gets defensive about answering sensitive questions asked by her furniture is kind of quaint and exotic. And while that whole cleaning the kitchen floor with a toothbrush thing is strange, at least she has really clean floors - plus, what's a toothbrush, really, but just an extra small scrub brush.

And while I can handle a woman that suffers from arachibutyrophobia, I just can't tolerate a woman that suffers from barophobia. I usually find a woman suffering from coprastasophobia to be preferable to a woman suffering from coprophobia. And, unfortunately, I can't tolerate a woman that suffers from either aphenphosmphobia or apotemnophobia.

And, while I can't remember the technical name for it, but whatever emotional disorder causes a woman to tack artificial vines to every damn window and to fill her house with artificial plants is unacceptable, as well - that's just completely incompatible with the phobia I developed about artificial plants during that traumatic cemetery episode.

But if she's an alcoholic or does drugs? Forget the whole break-up spiel, or even the fade out technique - I'm changing my phone number, e-mail, and changing the house numbers on the front of my house and then I'm dying my hair and buying new glasses.

 

[rewebster]

I think "old people" are capable of being much more reckless than young people when it comes to romance.

Most single people in their 40's/50's are divorcees. The odds of meeting an emotionally healthy divorcee in their 40's/50's are pretty slim, so "careful" and "dating" are words that can't exist within the same context.

And while you're technically correct about older people being more picky, they're just more picky about which emotional disorders they find desirable in a partner.

For example, a woman that gets defensive about answering sensitive questions asked by her furniture is kind of quaint and exotic. And while that whole cleaning the kitchen floor with a toothbrush thing is strange, at least she has really clean floors - plus, what's a toothbrush, really, but just an extra small scrub brush.

And while I can handle a woman that suffers from arachibutyrophobia, I just can't tolerate a woman that suffers from barophobia. I usually find a woman suffering from coprastasophobia to be preferable to a woman suffering from coprophobia. And, unfortunately, I can't tolerate that woman that suffers from either aphenphosmphobia nor apotemnophobia.

And, while I can't remember the technical name for it, but whatever emotional disorder causes a woman to tack artificial vines to every damn window and to fill her house with artificial plants is unacceptable, as well - that's just completely incompatible with the phobia I developed about artificial plants during that traumatic cemetery episode.

But if she's an alcoholic or does drugs? Forget the whole break-up spiel, or even the fade out technique - I'm changing my phone number, e-mail, and changing the house numbers on the front of my house and then I'm dying my hair and buying new glasses.

 

[zoobyshoe]

I think "old people" are capable of being much more reckless than young people when it comes to romance.

Yes, they're capable of it, it's not a matter of becoming wiser with age, it's a matter of having battle fatigue "Should I do this potentially reckless thing, possibly stir up a lot of drama? Bleh. I'll go home and watch CSI."

Most single people in their 40's/50's are divorcees. The odds of meeting an emotionally healthy divorcee in their 40's/50's are pretty slim, so "careful" and "dating" are words that can't exist within the same context.

And while you're technically correct about older people being more picky, they're just more picky about which emotional disorders they find desirable in a partner.

Exactly.

 

[rewebster]

so, are you two (zoob and bob) going to share?

 

[lisab]

so, are you two (zoob and bob) going to share?

They could merge and become zoobobby.

 

[rewebster]

They could merge and become zoobobby.

that would be better than bozoob

 

[lisab]

that would be better than bozoob

yeah my first thought was zobooby haha

 

[rewebster]

yeah my first thought was zobooby haha

I've seen one of those...

or maybe it was two technically

 

[zoobyshoe]

I've seen one of those...

or maybe it was two technically

The most efficient merger would be "booby". But then Evo would become known as: The Woman With Three Boobies

 

[Evo]

The most efficient merger would be "booby". But then Evo would become known as: The Woman With Three Boobies

<snork>

 

[rewebster]

hmmm, we haven't heard from SELFMADE since the phone call...

 

[BobG]

Who? Whoever he is, maybe he should start his own thread.

Hmmm, it would be kind of ironic if the last post he ever made here was, "I can finally live again" ... right before meeting a psychotic female at the pet store.

 

[Evo]

hmmm, we haven't heard from SELFMADE since the phone call...

Who? Whoever he is, maybe he should start his own thread.

Hmmm, it would be kind of ironic if the last post he ever made here was, "I can finally live again" ... right before meeting a psychotic female at the pet store.