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Difference-love for gf and love for bestfriend

  1. Sep 25, 2006 #1
    What is the difference b/w love for your soulmate and passion for your sport/career?
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  3. Sep 25, 2006 #2
    Besides physical attraction, mentally, is there a difference b/w love for who you care about and love for who you are attracted to and care about?
  4. Sep 25, 2006 #3


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    What do these two things have to do with each other?

    What question do you really want the answer to?
  5. Sep 26, 2006 #4
    Sorry, I messed up, I have fixed it now.
  6. Sep 26, 2006 #5


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    Clearly you have some thoughts on the matter. You might get more interest if you elaborated.
  7. Sep 26, 2006 #6
    Well, I am talking purely about mental love. The feelings you have for your best friend and feelings you have for your gf, if we exclude physical attraction, hormones level, etc. Is there a difference? If not then does love exist? Or is it just hype for romantic movies and greeting cards?
  8. Sep 26, 2006 #7
    The confusion is that in english the word love works for both situations. That is all.
  9. Sep 27, 2006 #8
    I think Gelsamel Epsilon has probably honed right in on the problem here. We are handicapped by one word that is used for two fairly different things.

    If you were to sit and write out your feelings in detail for each situation without recourse to the word "love" then the differences ought to become clear.

    If you exclude physical attraction and hormones from what we might call "romantic" love you are really talking about an artificial mental construct that doesn't exist in real life. Usually when people mentally experiment with trying to subtract those things from the equasion it means they are becoming uncomfortable with how unreliable, short lived, or erratic those things can be, and wonder if there is ever something more permanent behind it all that they can depend on to last.

    Am I close?
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