We get this question a lot, it probably deserves a FAQ but certain aspects are tricky.
Let's start with trying to link the question to some actual measurements (even if they are thought measurement), rather than talking purely the abstract. Specifically, let's talk about how we'd actually measure the gravitational field of a moving object.
In the literature, we have doi:10.1119/1.14280, by Olson and Guarino, which suggests one way to do this, not necessarily unique.
f a heavy object with rest mass M moves past you with a velocity comparable to the speed of light, you will be attracted gravitationally towards its path as though it had an increased mass. If the relativistic increase in active gravitational mass is measured by the transverse (and longitudinal) velocities which such a moving mass induces in test particles initially at rest near its path, then we find, with this definition, that Mrel=γ(1+β2)M. Therefore, in the ultrarelativistic limit, the active gravitational mass of a moving body, measured in this way, is not γM but is approximately 2γM.
Now, O & G have offered one definition of "active gravitational mass" that we can measure but it's not quite clear what theory this definition applies to. In Newtonian theory, "mass" causes gravity. In General relativity, as has been pointed out by previous posts, it's not mass (any sort of mass), but the stress energy tensor that causes gravity.
But rather that worry about the words at the moment, let's look at the meaning, as explained by the results of the thought experiment.
We can first ask - "is the disturbance of the test particles motion independent of the flyby velocity" And the answer is clear - it's not.
We can then ask "is the disturbance of the velocity better related to the energy of the flyby object". Note that energy is another name for "relativistic mass".
And the answer is, "Yes, it's better, but not perfect. Ther's still a factor of 1 + \beta^2 in there that we can't explain in this way.
So where this leaves us is that it's better to think of gravity as being caused by "energy" rather than mass, and thinking in these simple terms gets us with a factor of 2:1 of the actual answer predicted by General Relativity. But it doesn't get us ALL the way there. The full answer requires something that's more complex than just a single number to describe "the source of gravity" - that "more complex" something is the stress energy tensor. You can think of the Stress Energy Tensor as being composed of energy, momentum, and pressure. But to even start doing this, you need to abandon the notion that there's "something represented by one number" that "causes gravity", and start thinking "a bunch of numbers, representing energy and momentum and pressure cause gravity", which is the point of view of General Relativity.
Now that we've talked about the meaning, let's go back to some semantic issues (words). Olson's paper is informative, but his use of the term "active gravitational mass" never caught on, and for a good reason. It's still trying to create a single number out of something that really requires more than one number to represent.
Another semantic issue here is the one of "energy" vs "relativistic mass". I view the later as very outdated, in large part because it invites the erroneous idea that we can plug "relativistic mass" into Newton's law of gravity and get General Relativity.
Note that this was more or less assumed by the OP , without even thinking about it. This is one of several reasons I have for disliking the term "relativistic mass".