DrStupid said:
Try to quantify the effect of velocity on gravity without it and you will see why. Gravitational mass is a well defined value that allows to describe this effect with a few words and a very simple equation (see the abstract quoted by timmdeeg).
As an abstraction used to simplify the understanding of one particular phenomenon, I have no real objection; I personally would not use the term "increased gravitational mass" to describe what's going on; I would say that the force exerted by the moving massive body is not a pure Newtonian static force but has a "magnetic" component, as I said before. But that interpretation leads to the same equation as is given in the abstract, so it's an issue of terminology, not physics.
But the abstraction does not generalize well, and it certainly does not qualify IMO as a "fundamental property" of objects that needs a fully general explanation. It's just a particular abstraction that happens to work well in a particular restricted set of cases.
DrStupid said:
1. It applies to trajectories in static gravitational field only but a real gravitational field will be influenced by the bodies and as this interaction depends on the mass two objects with different mass will not follow the same trajectory.
In principle this is true, to have a fully self-consistent solution one must take into account the "self-interaction" of anybody with its own field. This raises the same issues that it does in electromagnetism: for a "point particle" the self-interaction is infinite. Most of the time we can avoid this issue altogether by idealizing all bodies but one as "test bodies" whose mass is negligible and whose effect on the overall field is therefore also negligible. That is the idealization I understood us to be using in this discussion. Even if we consider the body that is the source of the field to be moving, the other bodies in the scenario we are considering, as I understand it, are still "test bodies" in this sense.
In practice, we find that bodies as large as planets appear to follow geodesics in the overall background field of the solar system. By that I mean that we can compute their trajectories without having to know their individual masses, just the overall mass that produces the field. So any "self-interaction" effects are not enough to disturb the trajectories even of objects of significant size in this particular case.
There are cases (e.g., binary pulsars) where we do see significant effects due to interaction between two massive bodies, but the key piece of evidence for such interaction is the emission of gravitational waves by the system as a whole, and consequently the gradual inspiral of the two objects towards each other, which in at least one case has been measured for (IIRC) more than 30 years and matches the predictions of GR. This effect is not even predicted at all by Newtonian theory, which predicts that such binary systems should maintain the same orbital parameters indefinitely.
DrStupid said:
2. We are not talking about two different bodies in the same static gravitational field but about one body in the dynamic gravitational field of another body moving with different velocities.
In other words, in the rest frame of the body producing the gravitational field, you are talking about two different "test bodies" of negligible mass with different initial velocities, rather than two different "test bodies" with different masses but the same initial velocity. Fair enough.
DrStupid said:
If we want to talk about two bodies with different velocities in an almost static gravitational field we should not compare their trajectories but their accelerations (not 4-accelerations).
Why? What makes these "accelerations" (which are just coordinate accelerations in a particular frame and have no direct physical meaning) the right things to compare, as opposed to 4-accelerations which correspond to a direct physical observable (e.g., the reading on an accelerometer).
Please note, I'm not asking why we *can* talk about these coordinate accelerations. I don't disagree that we can. But you are saying we *should* talk about them, which to me means that there is something physically fundamental about them, something that has to appear in *any* physical model of what's going on. I disagree; I can give a physical model that explains everything without ever using these coordinate accelerations, but only using 4-accelerations (and other covariant or invariant geometric objects).