Feeling Demotivated About Going Out?

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The discussion revolves around varying levels of motivation and frequency for going out and partying among college students and young adults. Many participants express a decline in their enthusiasm for traditional partying, often attributing it to increased academic pressures, age, and personal preferences. Some find that occasional outings are necessary for a change of pace from their studies, while others prefer quieter social gatherings over loud parties. Financial constraints also play a role, with some individuals unable to afford frequent outings. The conversation highlights a shift from typical partying to more intimate gatherings, such as BBQs or casual meet-ups, reflecting a desire for meaningful connections rather than just socializing for the sake of it. Participants also discuss the societal expectations surrounding partying and the importance of personal time, suggesting that enjoying solitude is often undervalued. Overall, the thread captures a nuanced view of social life among young adults, balancing the need for social interaction with personal preferences and responsibilities.

As the title suggests...

  • less than once a month

    Votes: 7 13.7%

  • once a month

    Votes: 8 15.7%

  • twice a month

    Votes: 3 5.9%

  • once a week

    Votes: 10 19.6%

  • twice a week

    Votes: 4 7.8%

  • more than twice a week

    Votes: 7 13.7%

  • Never

    Votes: 12 23.5%
  • Total voters
    51
  • #31
I rarely ever "party" as in go to a club, in fact I have only done that once and I didn't enjoy it. I do however enjoy going to friends houses for bonfires/BBQs, going to the movies, bars to watch the game, going camping with people...ect.
 
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  • #32
When I originally graduated and just got my new job I used to go out all the time Wed-Sat. because I had wads of cash to blow since I had no car payments, no family, or gf to spend it on.

I quit drinking recently in order to lose some weight so I only go out about 1 time a week now (fri.) and I am usually the DD.

The best night though for yuppies is to go out on a thurs. night in the city. That is the best night to pick up single women since everyone there really isn't all about getting totally hammered and are just there to relax and have a few drinks. The bars also aren't crowded and they aren't empty, there is just the right amount of people in them. I swear for about 10 thursdays in a row I got at least 1 number from some lonely female.
 
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  • #33
Out? As in out-of-doors?
 
  • #34
hrw said:
Out? As in out-of-doors?
Out as in out and about. Out of one's domicile, dwelling, quarters, lodging, abode, house, i.e. one's primary residence or principal habitat, usually with the intent of socializing, with or without the accompaniment of a companion. :biggrin:
 
  • #35
Crosson said:
The bars over there are sooo nice and snazzy, they are almost worth the insane prices.

Why, what's a typical night out in the States cost? On my last date I spent $75 Canadian (~$68 US) (tip included) for the both of us.. 12 drinks in total. I know that booze bought from a store is way cheaper in the states than in Ontario, but how does it compare to the bars?


In regards to the poll, generally during school I try to go out at least once a week and often twice. During the summer it's about 3 times a week. :approve:
 
  • #36
Go out and drink beer in cafes all the time -- European, innit :smile:
 
  • #37
Never. Partying is for lesser minds.
 
  • #38
Smurf said:
Never. Partying is for lesser minds.

you've obviously never been at a party with one of these babies: http://www.ekitchengadgets.com/shgldrchset.html

There is no better measure of a great mind than the ability to follow a game of chess bombed.— I know I can't... after a few turns my queen was humping one of the pawns, and the bishops were urinating on the king .
 
  • #39
i keep discovering new things in the house... like my dad!
 
  • #40
gravenewworld said:
I swear for about 10 thursdays in a row I
got at least 1 number from some lonely female.

If this was true, you wouldn't have the time for this very post here of PF, pal. :biggrin:

sara_87 said:
i keep discovering new things in the house... like my dad!

What does that have to do with partying? You discover parties in your house..? :-p
 
  • #41
radou said:
What does that have to do with partying? You discover parties in your house..? :-p
sometimes :biggrin:
 
  • #42
check said:
Why, what's a typical night out in the States cost? On my last date I spent $75 Canadian (~$68 US) (tip included) for the both of us.. 12 drinks in total. I know that booze bought from a store is way cheaper in the states than in Ontario, but how does it compare to the bars?


In regards to the poll, generally during school I try to go out at least once a week and often twice. During the summer it's about 3 times a week. :approve:

Whoa! I rarely ever, well never, buy drinks for the ladies. If she was a date, then maybe one or two.

I never bought a random girl I met at a bar a drink.
 
  • #43
I agree. If women want equality, that means paying their own bill.
 
  • #44
Do bridal showers and baby showers count? Dinner with a group of friends? How are we defining party, and does alcohol have to be involved?

I get very confused by the word "party" used as a verb. In my younger days, it meant "smoke pot". People used to ask me "Do you like to party?" and I naively said, "yes, sure!" before someone clued me in on what it meant! :redface:
 
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  • #45
Math Is Hard said:
Do bridal showers and baby showers count? Dinner with a group of friends? How are we defining party, and does alcohol have to be involved?

I get very confused by the word "party" used as a verb. In my younger days, it meant "smoke pot". People used to ask me "Do you like to party?" and I naively said, "yes, sure!" before someone clued me in on what it meant! :redface:

Yeah, that's what I think of party. It's either smoking weed or drinking or both.

I don't smoke, but when I think party, I definitely think alcohol.
 
  • #46
Smurf said:
I agree. If women want equality, that means paying their own bill.

I agree. And I'm fed up with that door-opening and coat-taking stuff. They should do it all on their own. :devil: :-p

Math Is Hard said:
Do bridal showers and baby showers count? Dinner with a group of friends? How are we defining party, and does alcohol have to be involved?

Definition: anything that includes vices. :biggrin:
 
  • #47
Smurf said:
I agree. If women want equality, that means paying their own bill.

That's not the context of what I'm thinking about though.

I'll open doors for the ladies and do my best eating and such.
 
  • #48
moe darklight said:
you've obviously never been at a party with one of these babies: http://www.ekitchengadgets.com/shgldrchset.html

There is no better measure of a great mind than the ability to follow a game of chess bombed.— I know I can't... after a few turns my queen was humping one of the pawns, and the bishops were urinating on the king .
Sweetness. I loves efficiency.

Hm, I wonder how you would program drunkenness into a chess-playing program. That might be worth getting drunk for. At least I wouldn't have to beat it up when it tried to take advantage of me. :-p
 
  • #49
Smurf said:
I agree. If women want equality, that means paying their own bill.
I don't suppose you would prefer "since women deserve equality"?
 
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  • #50
Leopold Infeld said:
I have actually never been to any party before LOL!

me too! except for relatives birthdays
 
  • #51
Actually, Evo saved my day, since the number of votes for the "Never" option seems to be increasing rapidly. And I thought I was a weirdo because I don't go out all the time. :rolleyes:
 
  • #52
JasonRox said:
Whoa! I rarely ever, well never, buy drinks for the ladies. If she was a date, then maybe one or two.

I never bought a random girl I met at a bar a drink.

Oh she offered to pay, don't worry. She got the cab rides last time and I told her she could get it this time, but we actually just ended up walking (stumbling) home together. It was actually very nice.
 
  • #53
check said:
Oh she offered to pay, don't worry. She got the cab rides last time and I told her she could get it this time, but we actually just ended up walking (stumbling) home together. It was actually very nice.

But if she offers, why not just let her pay? Otherwise, she shouldn't offer.
 
  • #54
JasonRox said:
But if she offers, why not just let her pay? Otherwise, she shouldn't offer.

Meh, it wasn't a big deal and it's not like I pay for everything. Sometimes she'll pick up the tab, other times me. That particular case I just payed the tab while she was in the washroom before we left. She asked how much she owed me and I not to worry about it. I didn't really feel like doing a financial breakdown of who owed what at 3am, you know? :smile:
 

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