I have the impression you're bowing out here, but just in case some further explanation might help, here are a few Minkowski diagrams. If you came across displacement-time diagrams in school physics, these are more or less the same - we just tend to draw time up the page instead of across. You can read off "where everything is at one instant" by finding a time on the vertical axis and finding where each line is at that level. We take these diagrams slightly more literally in relativity, though, because it models everything as taking place in spacetime - so these diagrams become maps of spacetime.
Anyway - here's the first one.
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Things that have constant positions in space appear as vertical lines here, because their x position is the same at all times. The green line represents Earth and the red line represents Mars. Things that are moving are slanted lines, and the Enterprise appears as a grey line, initially in the same place as Earth at the bottom of the diagram and, as time goes on, moving towards Mars and arriving there after about eight time units. Mr Spock's path is marked as a blue dotted line, travelling with the Enterprise until they reach Mars, where he stays. Finally, there are some fine horizontal grid lines to help with reading this frame's time.
Now let's draw the same diagram, but add markers on each line when everybody's clock ticks.
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The Earth's clocks and Mars' clocks tick once per time unit - always on the grid lines. The Enterprise's clocks tick slow - the first tick is above the first grid line, and by the fifth grid line it's only ticked four times. Mr Spock's watch ticks at the same time as the Enterprise's clocks, until he reaches Mars. After Mars the Enterprise's clock continues ticking slow - you can just see its eighth tick on the tenth gridline. But Mr Spock's watch now ticks at the same rate as the Mars clocks. It's not synchronised with them - it does not tick at the same time - but it ticks at the same
rate. That's perhaps easier to see if we drop everybody else's clock ticks and Mr Spock's line:
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So it seems that the Enterprise's clocks tick slowly. How can the Enterprise say that Mars and Earth clocks tick slow? Well, the point about spacetime is that there isn't a unique definition of "time", just as there isn't a unique definition of "left" in space - if we aren't facing the same way we don't share the same meaning of "left". Similarly, in spacetime objects that aren't travelling at the same speed don't share a meaning of "space" or "time". Those grey horizontal lines mark all the events that Earth and Mars say happen at the same time as their clocks tick 0, 1, 2, 3 etc. But the Enterprise doesn't agree. Here are the grid lines Enterprise would draw:
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The grey lines go through each of Enterprise's clock ticks, just as the ones in the earlier diagrams go through each of Earth's clock ticks. But, in this frame, those lines are slanted. Enterprise does not divide spacetime into space and time in the same way as Earth does. And notice how the lines compare to the green markers of Earth's clock ticks. The first Earth tick is after the first line, and the fourth Earth tick is on the fifth grey line - just like the Enterprise's ticks were on the Earth's grey lines. The slant of those lines is what I called "the relativity of simultaneity" in an earlier post - the two frames don't agree what parts of spacetime are "at the same time" - one frame uses the horizontal lines and one the slanted lines.
Enterprise would say that this is a valid map of spacetime, but not the most convenient one. She'd prefer a map with her grey lines horizontal. The Lorentz transforms provide the maths for this, and Enterprise would draw this map:
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This time, Enterprise is stationary and appears as a vertical line. Earth and Mars are moving to the left and appear as slanted lines. Just like before, the clock ticks on the moving objects are slower, with only four ticks every five grid lines. You can see the relativity of simultaneity in action again by looking at Mar's clock ticks. Mars started their clocks at the same time (by their frame's definition of "the same time") as Enterprise left Earth - but here you can see that (by Enterprise's definition of "at the same time") they started early but Earth didn't.
Relativity has some strange concepts in it (the one most people seem to struggle with is the idea that "at the same time" doesn't mean the same thing to different frames), but it is not paradoxical.