I think I'm beginning to have a clearer vision of the problem and SR in general.
In particular, I understand the thought experiment that I proposed in post #80, about the ship that makes stops during its trip.
The key factor is the two ways of measuring other frame's time. One can follow one foreign clock and in that case both inertial frames measure the
slowdown of the other. Or one can follow the synchronized clocks of another frame while passing through them and in this case both frames observe that the other frame's time
goes faster. The Lorentz transformation is more focused on the first type of time measurement.
If we suppose a universal inertial frame of convenience, for example the galactic frame, and we imagine that it contains a mesh or net of synchronized clocks, all relativistic ships could see their time offset with respect to galactic time when passing through these clocks. If they also stop close to one of these, they share the simultaneity criterion with the galactic frame, so they can assign that time to that of a clock on Earth.
Fortunately, that mesh is not necessary. A ship, with a
local clock, an accelerometer (more possibly gyroscopes) and a computer, can reconstruct dynamically or in real time its speed and position with respect to the galactic frame, and with this can build a display that shows the galactic time. In fact, the ship's frame is also the most privileged for this computation, since all other frames see things with a signal delay and require greater infrastructures.
What this inertial or galactic time display would show on all relativistic ships is always a higher ratio than their local clocks and an increasing time offset. The greater the faster they go or the longer they travel (without direct dependence on acceleration). This inertial clock display would only go at the same rate as the local clock when the ships stop (And they would know at all times how old their relatives are).
The way to understand this inertial or galactic time display is that the simultaneity criterion of the Galaxy is adopted. While in most of the graphs that I put above the criterion of simultaneity of the ship is adopted. The computer can also reconstruct a second display to follow Time on Earth (or any Galactic place) with the ship's simultaneity criteria. This one does show dependence on accelerations and distances and can even go backwards in time.
Here is the graph of both virtual clocks on the ship, that of universal or galactic time, with galactic's frame simultaneity , in blue, and the time on Earth according to the simultaneity of the ship, in black. At the return point, green, the stopping time is somewhat exaggerated, a slope of 45 degrees. At that point in the ship is observed the same ratio of the 3 clocks , the local one and the two virtual ones. You can also see how the virtual ones coincide at the stops.
Some reference articles:
About the reconstruction of the world line from the ship.
Differential aging from acceleration, an explicit formula
https://arxiv.org/abs/physics/0411233
Journal reference: Am.J.Phys. 73 (2005) 876-880
On the two ways of measuring time and the different relevance for both twins
http://kirkmcd.princeton.edu/examples/clock.pdf