How Can I Help My Friend Manage Her Growing Crush?

[whozum]

Dude... you're married to Gale!

Yeah what does that have to do with anything?

 

[arildno]

Yeah what does that have to do with anything?

INFIDELITY ALERT!

 

[Smurf]

Yeah. What he said!

 

[honestrosewater]

Wow, so this thread moved me up a rung on the crazy ladder. I can see up Smurf's dress now! Or at least I think it's Smurf? Eh, live and learn. I'm sure one public breakdown every few years is perfectly normal by someone's standards anyway. The thing with the guy doesn't bother me anymore. I'm happy and getting back to feeling like myself again.

Actually, I think I should be excused here, as I actually have brought situations analagous to the reciting of Romeo and Juliet in Verona to fruition.

Care to tell us what you did? I don't want to be the only one making a fool of themselves around here.

If I ever proposed to someone (please don't misinterpret this - I'm on my twenty minute delusional time), I might consider a variation on Portia's three caskets. It makes even more sense after today.

The first of gold, who this inscription bears,
Who chooseth me, shall gain what many men desire.
The second silver, which this promise carries,
Who chooseth me, shall get as much as he deserves.
This third, dull lead, with warning all as blunt,
Who chooseth me, must giue and hazard all he hath.[/color]

I don't know how I would change it though...

You should be careful with your use of love when describing your feelings. Remember you don't know this person..

Oh, I was talking about Shakespeare. I've loved Shakespeare for a long time and have no problem with it. It may not be the kind of love you're thinking of.

And once more for the record: I overreacted. I didn't want any kind of special relationship with the guy. He's just cool.

 

[hitssquad]

He's just cool.

images.google.com/images?q=snoopy%20cool%20joe

http://plush-toy.co.uk/acatalog/joe-cool-toy.jpg

 

[Smurf]

And once more for the record: I overreacted. I didn't want any kind of special relationship with the guy. He's just cool.

Aww gee, I think you're cool too HRW!

 

[honestrosewater]

HRW, my advice, for what it's worth. Don't think so much about it. Just be normal, be yourself, you said "She wants to learn about things that he's interested in just so she can talk to him", that can lead to problems later on if you're not genuinely interested in those things.

Instead of plotting this relationship out, just contact him, be honest and see what happens. If it doesn't click, that's ok. You're smart, you seem nice, and you're likeable. If he rejects you, just let us know and we'll stone him.

Thanks. I'm not worried about it anymore. I am interested in the subject, though I didn't have any plans to study it until I happened upon one of his threads. I still want to learn more about it for different reasons.
I'm just odd and freaked out about some silly things. I don't think telling him would do anyone any good, but who knows, something might change.

 

[mattmns]

Yep, she need not even tell us: Smurf and cool are definitiely synonymous.

Uh oh, no spell check, hope I got that right

 

[loseyourname]

Care to tell us what you did? I don't want to be the only one making a fool of themselves around here.

I did many things. If I'm ever in the Tampa area, I'll stop by and we can talk. (Note: I don't anticipate ever being in the Tampa area, but you never know.)

If I ever proposed to someone (please don't misinterpret this - I'm on my twenty minute delusional time), I might consider a variation on Portia's three caskets. It makes even more sense after today.

Wouldn't you need three men to choose from in order for this to work?

 

[honestrosewater]

I did many things. If I'm ever in the Tampa area, I'll stop by and we can talk. (Note: I don't anticipate ever being in the Tampa area, but you never know.)

Okay, I'll keep a light in the window.

Wouldn't you need three men to choose from in order for this to work?

In the original setup, one of the caskets contains her picture; One suitor at a time chooses; If he chooses the casket containing her picture, they marry; If he chooses one of the others, they don't marry - ever (IIRC). Eh, I would probably change the last part anyway.

 

[Lisa!]

Rose, let's put it this way, we should ask guys around here "what would you do if someone PMed you and told you she was interested in knowing you more?". But I think it needs another thread

 

[Gale]

i know who it is... i don't even remember how i know. but I'm certain i do. he's a great guy rose, you can pick 'em.

anyway, i say go for it. just be content to talk to him and pursue something later on if you want to? why not anyway huh?

and anyway, hey lisa... guess what... I've done that hah. they usually pm you back, and lo' you get to know them more... its amazing i know...

 

[Townsend]

anyway, i say go for it. just be content to talk to him and pursue something later on if you want to? why not anyway huh?

I think Gale is right, you should just see what happens. I think you'll realize it's not so difficult once you do it.

 

[Gale]

hehehe... rose, if he didn't know before... he knows now...

anyways, like i said, he's a very cool guy. I am him or something. talk to him more. get to know him. all that jazz. have fun. send him a picture... go for it!

 

[honestrosewater]

Thanks for the advice, everyone.
I realize I started this, and maybe I shouldn't have, but I'd be very grateful if his identity was left alone or the thread closed. I'd hate to be responsible for causing him any problems.