jnhrtmn said:
How can I see time as more than numbers on a page?
The point of Einstein's "time is what clocks measure" is to suggest that you stop philosophising and follow the evidence. Clocks are apparently measuring
something because we get repeatable, predictable and consistent measurement from them.
So go back and look at the last diagram I drew. Notice how the spatial axis of the original frame isn't horizontal? That means that a ruler at rest in that frame is not measuring distance in what this frame calls space, but some mixture of space and time. Likewise, the time axis is not vertical, so clocks at rest in that frame do not measure just what this frame calls time, but some mix of space and time. The point is that it's a mistake to think of "time" as a thing in relativity. There is only spacetime. You may split it into space and time, and it's often convenient to do so, but it's an arbitrary distinction that you choose to make.
That flexibility means that there are actually several distinct concepts in relativity that more or less correspond to the Newtonian notion of time. "Proper time" (proper in the Latin sense where "property" comes from) is what clocks measure. There is a concept in spacetime closely analogous to "distance" in space, and proper time is a measure of that analogue of distance that the clock has travelled. As with ordinary distance, the distance along different paths can be different - this is the resolution of the so-called Twin Paradox, where two clocks take paths of different "length" through spacetime and have different readings at the end.
But proper time is personal - two clocks may start at the same place synchronised, separate and return, and be showing different times (not due to mechanical malfunction) when they meet again because they took routes of different "length". It is possible to define a "global" time, which we call
coordinate time by having a flock of clocks at rest with respect to each other and synchronised. But it turns out that the synchronisation process is arbitrary, so that global time comes at the cost of being something you can choose differently.
Fundamentally, spacetime is a 4d manifold. Its equivalent of Pythagoras' Theorem is ##\Delta s^2=\Delta x^2+\Delta y^2+\Delta z^2-(c\Delta t)^2##, and that one term having an opposite sign is why one "direction" is different from all the others. You can't freely reverse that direction and you can't freely exchange it with the others, and that is why time is different from space.