smoothoperator said:
1) Do objects and particles exist even when they are not measured, just in an undefined state?
Well first you have to distinguish between the formalism and interpretations. Everyone agrees on the formalism and it is silent about what's going on when not observed. However interpretations have their own differing take. That's what creates the arguments a previous poster mentioned.
smoothoperator said:
2)If small particles can be almost everywhere according to their probability function, how come the objects on the macro level seem fixed, with a pretty defined position (for instance we can calculate how far away from the Earth is the moon etc.)
You are falling into a semantic trap. Remember the answer to question 1 - the formalism is silent on what properties like position (that is being somewhere) etc when not observed. Your query should be how does our everyday classical world emerge from a theory that is about observations that appear in an assumed everyday classical world? That is a very deep question on which much progress has been made, but a few issues still remain. I can't really give a full answer here but here are some links to start you on that journey:
http://motls.blogspot.com.au/2011/05/copenhagen-interpretation-of-quantum.html
http://www.ipod.org.uk/reality/reality_decoherence.asp
The paper linked to by Demystifier is also excellent on that and many other issues.
Added later:
I have had a bit more of a look at it and still think its excellent - but its says a few things I do not agree with eg Schroedinger's equation is local. Its based on the Galilean transformations which are non-local. But discussing that will take us too far afield. If anyone wants to discuss it starting a new thread would be the best bet.
smoothoperator said:
3)Does QM obey the laws of causality and is it consistent with SR and GR?
That depends on what you mean by causality. The theory is about predicting the probabilities of the outcomes of observations. Central do doing that is thing thing called the state - once you know the state you can predict the probabilities of the outcome of any observation you might do. The state evolves causally - but all its able to do is help in predicting probabilities. You can decide if that causal or not - for what's it worth I think it is - but its one of those argument things that are pretty pointless really - it simply semantics on what you mean by causal.
It is perfectly consistent with SR and its combination, called Quantum Field Theory (QFT), is the deepest formalism about the the quantum world - uniting both particles and fields. In QFT everything is a quantum field and particles are excitations of that field - photons are excitations of the EM field, electrons excitations of the electron field etc etc. But exactly what that means can only be explained by the theory itself - its quite advanced and requires many years of study. But an interesting lay book has been written:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0473179768/?tag=pfamazon01-20
Also there is Feynmans classic:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0691024170/?tag=pfamazon01-20
But if you want to actually study the real deal some good books have started to appear that tackle it after a first course in QM:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/019969933X/?tag=pfamazon01-20
Regarding GR the issue is subtle - and not what many popularisations will tell you:
http://arxiv.org/pdf/1209.3511v1.pdf
'Effective field theory shows that general relativity and quantum mechanics work together perfectly normally over a range of scales and curvatures, including those relevant for the world that we see around us. However, effective field theories are only valid over some range of scales. General relativity certainly does have problematic issues at extreme scales. There are important problems which the effective field theory does not solve because they are beyond its range of validity. However, this means that the issue of quantum gravity is not what we thought it to be. Rather than a fundamental incompatibility of quantum mechanics and gravity, we are in the more familiar situation of needing a more complete theory beyond the range of their combined applicability. The usual marriage of general relativity and quantum mechanics is fine at ordinary energies, but we now seek to uncover the modifications that must be present in more extreme conditions. This is the modern view of the problem of quantum gravity, and it represents progress over the outdated view of the past.'
smoothoperator said:
4)Long story short, can somebody illustrate to me the basic principles of QM and how they correlate to everyday world and objects that we see, and how the apparent stability of macroobjects can emerge from 'chaos' of electrons etc.
Unfortunately that will require many years of study. If you wish to undertake it here is THE book on the issue:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/3540357734/?tag=pfamazon01-20
Thanks
Bill