How Far Will You Go to Fit In? The Science of Conformity and Social Acceptance

[rootX]

To me, there's a distinction between faking something in order to fit in, and concealing something in order to fit in.

I was distinguishing between deception and accommodating to others.

 

[Ivan92]

Er...At first look, I don't look like much of a nerd. I tend to hide my nerdiness in public. Then when people get to know me, that's when it all comes out. Though I find it hard to keep a conversation going because I really don't know much of anything else to talk about, let alone how to continue the conversation. I am socially awkward that way.

 

[zoobyshoe]

That said, I have often wondered what really drives young men to do the things they do. No doubt in my mind a lot of craziness is driven by sexual desires, and in that sense I always wanted to "fit in" [nyuck nyuck nyuck] I was willing to damn near kill myself if I thought it would help.

If life made any sense the educational system would be geared toward teaching boys how to attract girls. Girls pretty much agree the majority of boys don't get it, and boys are pretty much in agreement it's what they want most in life.

 

[annikax]

no i haven't found anyone yet.. in my area physics and other things i like isn't really anything anyone thinks or even talks about. but i have a lot of years left and am in no rush for "friends" just want to study and have fun in my own way :)

 

[Borg]

To me, there's a distinction between faking something in order to fit in, and concealing something in order to fit in.

For example, I simply won't fake that I like country music. If I'm in a group of country fans, well, I'm just going to have to be the odd one out.

But I often conceal things, to not make waves. For example, when in the company of religious folk I won't let on that I'm atheist. I won't say I'm a believer, I just stay quiet. Some may call that inauthentic; I think it's called being tactful, though.

Would it be seen as trying to fit in if I said that I behave the same way with regards to country music?