I want to give advice where are all your relationship problems?

[anubis01]

I like your advise and I agree with most of it, but it will land him in the friendzone. If she hasn't noticed him yet, he has to be noticed by her. She has to be pursuing him in her mind even if she doesn't show it. At high school level this is best done by either being a prep or a jock. Cultivating multiple female friendships and being 'seen' hanging out with them while the particular girl in question is in the viewing angle. She has to notice you, think about you and then initiate the contact.

By chasing her, you are likely to either end up in friendzone or simply waste so much time/energy/money trying to serenade an already horny teenager.

You know, I don't understand why people talk about the friend zone like its a black hole with no escape.

The two times I've had female friends that I eventually developed feelings for, they both returned those feelings. Now admittedly my less than stellar response to this, coupled with their timing in telling me (they both couldn't have picked worse times) things kinda feel apart.

But the point is, if its an actual two way friendship were the girl makes an effort to spend time with you, not to cry about her boyfriend but actually appreciate your company, over time it probably will lead to feelings developing. The real trick is just making sure you're both available when that happens.

 

[brainstorm]

The real trick is just making sure you're both available when that happens.

That never happens b/c they are instinctively drawn to want what is off limits. It is a safety mechanism designed to prevent instant gratification.

 

[anubis01]

That never happens b/c they are instinctively drawn to want what is off limits. It is a safety mechanism designed to prevent instant gratification.

maybe I should have worded it differently but it wasn't like that.

Girl 1 was dropping hints for a good month, but I didn't pursue it right away because I wasn't sure, that and she had an overseas boyfriend (he was in Pakistan while she had moved to Canada), so yeah after her asking me out for dinner and me giving her a birthday card saying "your a good friend"... well that didn't go well.

Girl 2 I initially asked out, she just wanted to be friends, four months later she develops feelings for me, always making an extra effort to spend time with me etc.. but she made that push when pretty much everything in my life was going to hell in a hand basket, so yeah that didn't work out either.

Perhaps some women do play games like that, but like I said the ones that are actually close to you usually don't do that stuff.

 

[Topher925]

Just another example of your insensitivity. It was only one poster that might have taken offense. You denied pleasure to every other forum member just to spare the feelings of one poster.

But this is Topher we're talking about, so maybe it's okay to make an exception?

Nah, hate to say it, but even Topher's oversensitive tear glands aren't worth denying pleasure to the rest of the forum members.

I can take it, bring it on! I'm always willing to sacrifice my feelings for good entertainment.

 

[nucleargirl]

So what are you trying to say? If she's fat, she's used to being rejected? What horribly insensitive advice!

But I do have to credit you with at least a little insight. You were perceptive enough to realize that no one with a centerfold type body would be interested in someone so nerdy that they'd ask such a lame question. Although, in its own way, that's kind of insensitive and insulting to just assume that the person asking is a nerd - or maybe it's just insensitive and insulting to come right out and say he's a nerd, since his nerdiness is a little too obvious to just ignore.

Where's Cyrus? He gives much more tender, sensitive answers than you.

um... I think you have comprehension problems. You totally misunderstood my post.

 

[cristo]

um... I think you have comprehension problems. You totally misunderstood my post.

I think Bob was joking. I'd advise you not to take things so seriously/literally. This entire subforum is a joke!

 

[nucleargirl]

Sounds like you . . . well, may have some things? You're not tryin' to fix other peoples problems and not fixin' your own are you?

Obviously I have my own problems, but I think sometimes you are not always the best at helping yourself - it is better to help each other - cos we are all good at different things and can offer advice in different areas. So just because someone doesn't have their life completely sorted, doesn't mean they have nothing to offer others - nobody's perfect yet we all have a lot to offer. Like Confucious said: There will be a teacher for me amongst any 3 travellers.

 

[nucleargirl]

I think Bob was joking. I'd advise you not to take things so seriously/literally. This entire subforum is a joke!

yes, and I'd advise you to do the same :)

 

[nucleargirl]

Just another example of your insensitivity. It was only one poster that might have taken offense. You denied pleasure to every other forum member just to spare the feelings of one poster.

But this is Topher we're talking about, so maybe it's okay to make an exception?

Nah, hate to say it, but even Topher's oversensitive tear glands aren't worth denying pleasure to the rest of the forum members.

and actually it would have been very entertaining had you been reading the post at the right time. better follow my posts more closely in future if you want to catch all the fun parts :p

 

[cristo]

At least some of the other threads in this subforum are actually seeking advice, but this thread is just noise. Time to close it down.