I understand. And as I said, I'm preaching more to my frustration with my students so take what you find useful in my comments.
Let's look at your integration of e^{-bx^2} in detail. You said
however my mistake was thinking I could Integrate dV = e^-(bx^2) on sight to give V = (e^-(bx^2))/(2bx),
A key focus here for you is to distinguish a
taking the derivative with
taking the differential.
dV is the differential of a variable expression and so as such should be a function times the differential of the independent variables. dV = V' dx. There is a great deal of knowledge encoded in the notation, trust and be true to the notation. Your dV = e^{-bx^2} is notationally incorrect. There should be, must be a differential factor on the R.H.S.
This affects how you "visually integrate". You use dV = e^u du equates to V = e^{u}.
In the simple cases where e.g. u=ax you note \int e^{ax} dx = 1/a e^{ax} and use that straight away as an antiderivative formula. But look at the differentials and view it as a differential formula. Really integrals are "anti-differentials" not anti-derivatives in that \int du = u + c. That then is why we keep those pesky dx's and dt's in the integral notation. It is only through the differential chain rule that we get anti-derivatives from these anti-differentials.
With that understanding you can view the 1/a part of the anti-derivative as the constant factor missing in the needed differential to take the anti-differential of e^{ax}dx. Now with that understanding when you hit upon the differential e^{-bx^2}dx you see not a missing constant factor but a missing variable factor. It is not simply that you must "multiply by 1 over the derivative of the exponent" because that "rule" doesn't generalize. It is that you must match up the two
differentials:
e^{-bx^2}dx and d (some function).
It is the same kind of conceptual mistake as when one forgets the negative solution of x^2 = 2 when they write down \sqrt{2}. That is in habitually working in a limited context they shortcut conceptually and incorrectly generalize: "\sqrt{2} is '
the square root of 2'" (emphasis on 'the') equates to "\sqrt{2} is
the root of the equation x^2 = 2.
For you the analogue is in solving for the anti-derivative of the exponential of a constant multiple of a variable and the more general problem of finding the anti-derivative of the exponential of some function of that variable. (That is specifically for your one error.)
The rest of what I'm saying isn't so much about making errors as understanding the distinctions and notations better to better see your path to solutions.
I'm trying to answer what I perceive as a "How was I supposed to know" question here. I hope I've been helpful. I think many teaching differential calculus don't pay enough attention or provide enough instruction on this. I hit my students with both differentials and derivatives as soon as possible so they can begin making mistakes and through the correction of those mistakes have a better understanding of each and their distinctions by the time we get to integration.
Remember confusion is not bad, it is a symptom you don't yet understand. It is far better to feel confused than to feel you know something when you actually don't. Just see it as a flag indicating "Attention to details needed here!". It is the natural first step to understanding. You simply must be audacious and not let it devolve into frustration.