The smoothest-sounding thing I can think of to describe what gravity is is the connection coefficients. This is basically the same as saying that it's the Christoffel symbols, but it appears to be less technical on the surface - though I suppose it really isn't, when you get into all the details.
The point is this. If you start with the notion of inertial frames, you can describe flat space-time with an inertial frame of reference. An accelerated reference frame, like Einstein's elevator, is not an inertial frame. However, while the elevator is not itself an inertial frame of reference, at any given instant of time, we CAN create a co-moving inertial frame of reference that has the same velocity as the elevator does.
Both the inertial frame of reference and the non-inertial, accelerated elevator frame of reference can be regarded at any instant in time as having an instantaneous (and co-moving) spatial frame of reference. The difference between the accelerated frame and the inertial frame is subtle. The real difference between the inertial frame and the non-inertial elevator frame is not in how the frame is made up, but how the different instantaneous frames are "connected" to make a whole. They're both made up of the same thing (instantaneous spatial frames of reference), but they're "hooked up" or connected differently.
To get more detailed than this requires a small, but significant, amount of technical language. One needs the idea of basis vectors. We can regard vectors for our purposes as little arrows, such as we've seen on many of the diagrams used, that represent a displacement. We imagine a 2-dimensional surface, and pick a particular pair of vectors, called "basis" vectors, and then note that we can regard any vector we want as a weighted sum of these two basis vectors. If we imagine a 3-dimensional object, we need 3 basis vectors to represent it. We can't visualize it, but we can regard a 4 dimensional space as having 4 basis vectors, etc.
Then what the connection coefficients do is "connect" the basis vectors at some time ##t_1## to some other time ##t_2##. An inertial frame connects the basis vectors in one way, and the non-inertial, accelerated frame, connects them differently. They have different connections. And that's how Einstien's elevator, which we regard as "having gravity" differs from an inertial frame of reference, which we regard as "not having gravity". It all lies in the connections, how we "hook together" the instantaneous co-moving frames.
I've skipped over a few fine points, which may result in confusion, but probably less confusion than would result if I tried to explain them at this point. The point is that we can regard gravity as this very abstract idea, the idea of a connection, which is a relationship (it happens to be a particularly simple relationship, a linear map) between basis vectors that ties them together into a unified framework.