Is it okay if your significant other cuddles with someone else?

[Moonbear]

Touchy/feely girls don't cuddle with guys. It's exactly what the word describes. They are literally only touchy/feely.

If a girl in any way thinks it's ok to cuddle with another person of the opposite sex, you failed to lay down the law.

I think we may have different ideas in mind when we think of the word "cuddle." And, if someone thinks they must "lay down the law" then that is probably why she's cuddling with someone else.

 

[JasonRox]

I think we may have different ideas in mind when we think of the word "cuddle." And, if someone thinks they must "lay down the law" then that is probably why she's cuddling with someone else.

Nah, they like me too much. It's important to make it clear that you're exclusive if that is the case. That's pretty much what I'm saying.

 

[DaveC426913]

I think we may have different ideas in mind when we think of the word "cuddle."

The initial post mentions a pre-existing romantic interest, which - I hope - changes your answer.

And, if someone thinks they must "lay down the law" then that is probably why she's cuddling with someone else.

It seems to me it's more about providing some clarification one what appears to be an ambiguity in the relationship's "exclusivity" clause.

 

[devil-fire]

i would say "no, its not ok" because it would bother me if my significant other started cuddling with other people and because iv had friends whom have seen this kind of behavior in their significant others before they found out they were being cheated on

from my experience, this sort of thing is bad for a relationship

 

[sas3]

Can i get a list of the guys that said it's ok, and a picture of their significant others?

I need some cuddling.

 

[LightbulbSun]

I'm not ok if my boyfriend wants to cuddle. But he's ok if I want to cuddle. I choose not to, since it doesn't seem right to me. Though, I do go on "dates" of a sort with my guy friends. I'm always sure that my boyfriend knows in advance, and that the guy I go out with is aware that I'm faithful to my boyfriend.

I can't explain why my boyfriend doesn't mind, since I really don't get it. We've been together for years though, and it works for us.

Why are you not ok with him cuddling?

 

[buster]

I'm not ok if my boyfriend wants to cuddle. But he's ok if I want to cuddle. I choose not to, since it doesn't seem right to me. Though, I do go on "dates" of a sort with my guy friends. I'm always sure that my boyfriend knows in advance, and that the guy I go out with is aware that I'm faithful to my boyfriend.

I can't explain why my boyfriend doesn't mind, since I really don't get it. We've been together for years though, and it works for us.

not fair

 

[chaoseverlasting]

It seems to me it's more about providing some clarification one what appears to be an ambiguity in the relationship's "exclusivity" clause.

haha! Thats some way to put it. Unless you have an open relationship, I don't think its ok. I mean, if you're just out to have fun, then yeah, what the hell, other wise, no way.

 

[chaoseverlasting]

It really is a shame to confuse biological imperative with romantic conceit.

HAHAHAHAHAH! This one's better. This is turning out to be one funny thread!

 

[Moonbear]

Nah, they like me too much. It's important to make it clear that you're exclusive if that is the case. That's pretty much what I'm saying.

Okay, got it. It was just the way you said it that struck a sour note.

The initial post mentions a pre-existing romantic interest, which - I hope - changes your answer.

It did, although, from the OP, as far as I could tell, the romantic interest was only described as one way. I took it as a question of whether you'd interpret that scenario as an indication that the interest was reciprocated, or if you'd trust your significant other.

Since we now know this is entirely a hypothetical scenario, and not seeking advice, I fall back to my original answer, which was: No, it would not be okay with me.

 

[Gale]

Why are you not ok with him cuddling?

I'm just not ok with it. I'm ok if he wants to give one of his lady friends a hug or something, but that's about it. I don't really understand why he would want to cuddle with someone else. And I suppose I'm just to insecure to let him anyway.. something like that. Same reasons most people have I think... Just cause he's ok with it, doesn't change my opinion.

 

[Kurdt]

Anyway, I couldn't answer this question seriously because I really have no idea what I would do. My response would change depending on the many variables you forgot to crystalise.

 

[JasonRox]

Same reasons most people have I think...

I'm not insecure about it. The way I look at it is don't make rules you can't follow. If the girl wants to be casual, say so. I totally don't mind if she started seeing other guys because I'll be seeing other girls too. It's both ways or no way.