Joe30174 said:
Would be nice for people who teach this stuff to clarify that it is referred to as a something for helpful purpose it serves rather than implying it is determined.
Popularisations tend not to spend time on the fine philosophical distinction between observations, interpretations of observations, and models, and how they fit together. So you do tend to find things that are definitely true and real (in a model) stated without the qualifier, I'm afraid. It's an ongoing problem. I do wish that distinction were taught in schools, because understanding it is key to evaluating an awful lot of stuff beyond scientific topics.
Joe30174 said:
Are there any answers to how it can curve and warp from mass such as planets,
No. The Einstein Field Equations describe how curvature is related to the distribution of stress-energy (which includes mass), but not why. A theory of quantum gravity may give you an answer, but it'll have it's own "just because" assumptions underlying it.
Joe30174 said:
how dark energy can make it expand if it's not a something
That's not what dark energy does. Spacetime doesn't expand anyway - it's
space that's said to expand, and that's a rather dubious description of the full picture (but probably as good as you can do without going into the maths). And dark energy doesn't make "space expand", just modifies the rate. Once again it's all governed by the Einstein Field Equations, so at the moment falls under "because that's the way the world works" with no deeper explanation that we're yet aware of (although quantum gravity theorists will happily tell you what their particular favourite theory says).
When we set up a manifold initially filled more-or-less uniformly with matter, the field equations say that two test particles initially at rest with respect to each other will start to move apart. Since neither of the particles feels any acceleration but they get further apart, it's not unreasonable to say that the space between them has expanded. But remember that spacetime is a
four-dimensional manifold. That means that "space, now" is one 3d slice through the 4d whole and "space, in a minute" is a slice through a different part. So if you think of spacetime as a thing, nothing expanded. You just looked at different bits of it where stuff was different distances apart (everything was closer together in the earlier slice).