talanum52 said:
The general relativity equation just shows an equalness between curved spacetime and the stress energy tensor, not a mechanism how the curvature arises when mass moves into a new position or new mass gets produced. It does not describe this process.
The "moving mass" changes the stress energy tensor, and the stress energy tensor can be more or less thought of as the "source of the gravitational field", i.e the source of curvature".
So, it does, IMO, answer the question. One major difficulty is in explaining what the stress energy tensor is, and why we need it. At least equally daunting - actually, probably more daunting - is a general explanation of what we mean by curvature, but I will just mention it as a problem and not talk about it in this post. IF we understand at least the right-hand side of Einstein's field equations (the stress-energy tensor), we'll be a step ahead of understanding neither side. Which at least alleviates the issue of GR being "the thing on the left side that you don't know what it is is equal to the thing on the right side that you don't know what it is, either". With enough work, we can understand first one side, and with more work, we can (potentially) understand both!
In the end, you still can't really answer "why" the stress energy tensor causes curvature, as in general why questions have no fixed endpoint. You can always ask "why" about any explanation. You can point out that the representation of curvature is always equal to the representation of the stress-energy tensor, and with enough background you can use this to perform actual calcuations, to compare with measurements, which is the ultimate goal of any theory.
The probably too-technical explanation of why we use the stress energy tensor is that it's covariant in special relativity. This basically means that we can specify how it transforms when we change coordinates. This is important and useful - but it requires a shared understanding of the concept of covariance and it's importance. That's something I started to talk about, but I gave up because it was becoming too long and muddled. It starts with the idea that coordinates are just labels, which also seems to not generally be appreciated by the larger audience.
So, lets step back away from covariance. The stress energy tensor incorporates both the effects of what we traditionally think of mass, and other things that are not usually thought of as having mass, such as radiation (important in cosmology), and fields in general. This is hardly a complete description, but it provides at least an overview of why we use the stress-energy tensor as the source of gravity in general relativity, and not "mass". We used to use "mass" in Newton's theory of gravity, but when we move beyond Newton, the concept of mass turns out to be basically inadequate. I will point out that even before general relativity, the "mass" of electromagnetic fields became a problem, in such notions as the "electromagnetic mass" problem. Wiki has a short description of this issue, see
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electromagnetic_mass. Max Jammer has a couple of semi-popular books on the concept of Mass in classical and modern physics, of which I've read the one on classical physics (though I don't have it handy). One gets into general unpleasantness, with the mass of a truly classical point charge due to it's field becoming infinite :(. This is just a short overview - as I've said, people have literally written books about the issue.
The logical endpoint of the process of extending the concept of mass turns out to be (with our current understanding) to replace the whole idea of mass with the stress energy tensor, and things work well enough with this approach where we can calculate things.
I'm not sure if I've totally succeeded in my basic goal, which is to motivate the idea of the stress energy tensor. It's a hard problem - in the end , most texts that I've seen introduce it, without much attempt to motivate it, and leave the student to - perhaps - figure it out on their own.
This is a bit of an afterthought - but if the idea of point particles with point masses is just too deeply ingrained to avoid, one can model a swarm of point like particles bouncing around and interacting only when they directly "touch" as having a stress energy tensor. Less discussed (at least clasically) is the idea of how such a swarm of point particles can be used to represent a field, with possible complications such as the point particles having negative masses to generate attractive forces. But it may be helpful in motaivation, at least, to realize that such a swarm of particles CAN be represented by a stress-energy tensor, with any piece of the swarm having an energy density (energy / unit volume), a momentum density, and a pressure. It's not perfect (for instance, it doesn't help much with the problem of the infinite electromagnetic mass of a point charge I alluded to earlier), but it might be a helpful step up to understanding the stress energy tensor. Realizing that a swarm of particles has such a stress energy tensor, one is then just left with the challenge of thinking of an extended object as being able to be represented by such a swarm of idealized point-like particles - with only contact interacations, no interactions "at range".
Next up for a serious treatment would go back to the issue of how this entity that we've come up with (the stress energy tensor) transforms, so that we can work in different frames of reference (say, a stationary frame, and a moving frame, for example). This is complicated somewhat by the details of special relativity, in which things transform differently than they did before.
I'm not going to attempt this - but I wanted to mention it, as one of the goals of the whole "covariance" problem I mentioned earlier is to represent physics in such a way that we can use multiple coordinate systems interchangeably, and have all the results be self consistent. This basically consists of mathematical entities that we can use to represent a system in some frame or coordiante system A with transformations back and forth to coordinate system B. The idea of covariance is to insure that a solution in A (which is assumed to exist and be unique for the time being) is also a solution in B, and vica versa. This way we are just able to talk about the solution to a physical problem without having to specify the minutae such as having to specify a specific coordinate system. We simply talk about "the" solution, and it is understood that with the aid of the principle of covariance, we know how to transform "the solution" into whatever coordinates or frame we desire.