My friend can't find her cat - I know what happened to it - It's not good

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Discussion Overview

The discussion revolves around the dilemma of whether to inform a friend about the death of her cat, which she believes has simply run away. Participants explore the emotional implications of revealing the truth versus allowing her to maintain her current belief.

Discussion Character

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Main Points Raised

  • Some participants suggest that telling her the truth would alleviate her worry and allow her to grieve properly.
  • Others argue that revealing the cat's fate could cause her unnecessary distress, as she might imagine the suffering it endured.
  • A few participants express concern about the timing of the revelation, noting that if a significant amount of time has passed, the impact of the news may differ.
  • One participant mentions the emotional toll on the cat's caregivers, highlighting the sadness of their search for the cat.
  • Some participants propose that the friend may feel guilt if she learns the truth, while others believe she should be informed regardless of potential negative feelings.
  • There are references to a complicated situation involving a city worker who disposed of the cat, suggesting potential legal ramifications that could complicate the decision to tell her.
  • Several participants emphasize the importance of honesty, while others question whether it is truly in the friend's best interest to know the truth.
  • Humor and light-hearted commentary emerge towards the end of the discussion, indicating a shift in tone as participants speculate about the potential outcomes of the conversation.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants do not reach a consensus on whether the friend should be told about her cat's death. Multiple competing views remain regarding the emotional and ethical implications of revealing the truth.

Contextual Notes

Participants express varying degrees of concern about the emotional impact on the friend and the potential legal issues surrounding the cat's death. The discussion reflects a complex interplay of personal feelings, moral considerations, and the implications of honesty.

  • #61
Newai said:
This is such a huge can of worms. The city worker who disposed of the carcass had a huge fallout with her. Led to jail time, in fact.

All this over a dead cat. Part of me thinks it might be better to let it die.

Newai said:
But I didn't know at that time. The city worker told me it was her cat, and he actually took care of it for a few years because he was her stepfather.

A can of worms.

Newai said:
No no. Her former stepfather disposed of it.

Proton Soup said:
well that makes it worse. seems like he'd have a higher responsibility to deliver the news, tho, unless there's some kind of restraining order in place.

Newai said:
Pretty much the case. They need to stay away from each other.

This sounds like a very strange family, including the girl. If the cat's been gone this long, she knows it's gone for good. The "found a new family" is just a "happy thought" since it really doesn't matter whether the cat's dead or living with someone else.

In any event, the kitty scenario has pretty much played itself out. Next phase is the unplanned pregnancy and single parenthood - that will make the family dynamics much more interesting than just a mere kitten.

As neighbors, they have some entertainment value, but I wouldn't be trying to develop any serious relationships with anyone in that family.
 
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  • #62
Newai said:
Did a Moderator insert this link? What is this for? This doesn't have anything to do with the cat situation.[PLAIN]http://img696.imageshack.us/img696/6097/scratchhead.gif

Certain terms related to the sciences (usually physics) are automatically linked.

Lets say I have an impulse to get the government to achieve greater momentum re the action in Libya.
I didn't link any of that, but it auto-links to the library.
 
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  • #63
Sorry about your dead cat. I had one 4 years ago, died 2 months after my ownership, but i still believe it's alive whenever I see any cat!
 
  • #64
Oooh... someone didn't read the thread before posting...
 
  • #65
nismaratwork said:
Certain terms related to the sciences (usually physics) are automatically linked.

Lets say I have an impulse to get the government to achieve greater momentum re the action in Libya.
I didn't link any of that, but it auto-links to the library.

he can't see you
 
  • #66
I second that you shouldn't get her a new kitten. Let her make the decision on that one herself, when she's moved on emotionally. It's also possible she'd want an older cat with an established personality, or one that "finds her."

Furthermore, you don't have to give her details on "who" disposed of the cats remains... Saying "a city worker" would be enough.
 
  • #67
Proton Soup said:
he can't see you

Oh, I know, but I simply don't care.
 
  • #68
physics girl phd said:
Furthermore, you don't have to give her details on "who" disposed of the cats remains... Saying "a city worker" would be enough.

That would tell her everything.
 
  • #69
BobG said:
This sounds like a very strange family, including the girl. If the cat's been gone this long, she knows it's gone for good. The "found a new family" is just a "happy thought" since it really doesn't matter whether the cat's dead or living with someone else.

In any event, the kitty scenario has pretty much played itself out. Next phase is the unplanned pregnancy and single parenthood - that will make the family dynamics much more interesting than just a mere kitten.

As neighbors, they have some entertainment value, but I wouldn't be trying to develop any serious relationships with anyone in that family.

:smile:
 
  • #70
BobG said:
The "found a new family" is just a "happy thought" since it really doesn't matter whether the cat's dead or living with someone else.

What?
 

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