Please give me some advices on how to date a nerdy guy?

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The discussion revolves around a college student expressing frustration over her feelings for a seemingly uninterested, nerdy classmate. Despite her efforts to initiate contact and spend time together, he remains unresponsive and uncomfortable, leading her to question whether she is bothering him. While she is patient and willing to wait for him to become comfortable, she starts to believe he may not reciprocate her feelings. Other participants suggest that if he is genuinely shy, he might need encouragement to open up, but they also caution that his lack of initiative could indicate disinterest. The conversation highlights the emotional toll of pursuing someone who may not feel the same way, with advice ranging from directly asking him out to recognizing when to move on. Ultimately, the original poster decides to give up on him, acknowledging the emotional strain of the chase and the possibility that he may have social difficulties, such as high-functioning autism, which could explain his behavior.
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johnbird1 said:
I think Andre has a feel for the nerd in questions. He may be Autistic and is plain socially awkward when it comes to one on one with a woman. He may be great in a crowd because a crowd is safe. He can enter the dance and back out when uncomfortable. He may very well like you. The behavior you describe can be as Andre put it, high functioning autism. And he may very well be the right guy for you... If he does have this condition, you may have to change your approach, keep up with the patience. But knowing this will help with understanding. You may in his mind be the best thing too. Let us know how it goes, OK?

John

This was over a while back.
lily012 said:
I already give up on him.
 
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Ok, thanks... Didn't know just how stale it was... :smile:
 

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