News Politics & Marriage: Chad's Stance

[Kerrie]

legally, marriage has it's benefits...here in america, you don't have to be wed by the church...

example: you have found the perfect mate-whether they are the same gender or not...if something were to happen to your mate-say an accident, or medical condition that required another sound mind to make decisions based on what your mate would want, who has the right to make that decision? legally, the next of kin (mother, father, brother, sister, etc) if you are not "legally tied" to your mate...this is not old fashioned in my opinion, but i would much rather have my fiance make these decisions of me over my family as my family doesn't know me as well as he does...

another: health insurance and other benefits...if one is working outside the home and has the ability to obtain these, but the other does not work "outside the home" (because s/he is self-employed, or takes care of children, etc), what about the benefits of covering the other mate?

aside from the whole morality issue with the church, i think LEGAL marriage should be defined as accepting the responsibilities and benefits of another (over age 18) until both choose to end that contract (Divorce)...

i won't even touch the polygamy issue...

Russ~

Don't kid yourself - that's what all laws are about.

laws should only be concerned with protecting the rights of others, not interfering with what people choose to do with their own life...ie: murder, stealing, etc...

 

[Dissident Dan]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Someone who is oppposed to Homosexual marriage need not be against homosexuality, that is simply the (erroneous) generalization that you are making...

You find me one person who is not anti-homosexuality but is anti-homosexual marriage.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by Dissident Dan
You find me one person who is not anti-homosexuality but is anti-homosexual marriage.

Hi! My name is (as you seemed to have missed it) Mr. Robin Parsons...and BTW I am NOT against them having the same rights, legally, with respect to pensions, health, etc. etc. just the word, (and institution?) of Marriage! as it is meant to be for the purpose of protecting couples, as towards "procreation", something that Gay couples, Lesbian, or Homosexual, cannot do without outside help...a violation of the intent of the 'Sanctity' of marriage, and the 'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor...

 

[Zero]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Hi! My name is (as you seemed to have missed it) Mr. Robin Parsons...and BTW I am NOT against them having the same rights, legally, with respect to pensions, health, etc. etc. just the word, (and institution?) of Marriage! as it is meant to be for the purpose of protecting couples, as towards "procreation", something that Gay couples, Lesbian, or Homosexual, cannot do without outside help...a violation of the intent of the 'Sanctity' of marriage, and the 'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor...

Neither you nor the government is allowed to define or enforce "sanctity".

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
as towards "procreation", something that Gay couples, Lesbian, or Homosexual, cannot do without outside help

I don't see anyone clamoring for fertility tests for heterosexual couples seeking marriage. They can't have children without help either.

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
a violation of the intent of the 'Sanctity' of marriage, and the 'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor...

None of these attributes of marriage have anything to do with being straight or gay. Or even having children for that matter. How would a gay marriage have less vows, less love, less honour?

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
I don't see anyone clamoring for fertility tests for heterosexual couples seeking marriage. They can't have children without help either.
Typical someone wants to make 'the exceptions' the rule(rs)...lousy arguement, don't you think?[/color]



None of these attributes of marriage have anything to do with being straight or gay. Or even having children for that matter. How would a gay marriage have less vows, less love, less honour?

requires outside sexual activity...sorta (yes I know! stop trying to use exceptions to make the rules, we will all live better..)

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
requires outside sexual activity...sorta (yes I know! stop trying to use exceptions to make the rules, we will all live better..)

I'm trying to avoid exceptions. You suggested that the lack of the ability to procreate was a reason to oppose gay marriage...I suggested that the rule should therefore be applied without exception to include all infertile couples, and now you're complaining that I'm using the exception to make the rule?


What is "outside sexual activity"?

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
I'm trying to avoid exceptions. You suggested that the lack of the ability to procreate was a reason to oppose gay marriage WRONG![/color] This is the kind of thing that makes me simply NOT want to continue cause clearly you are either, intentionally, or ignorantly, twisting what I am saying, and driving at...I do NOT want that! thank you![/color]...I suggested that the rule should therefore be applied without exception to include all infertile couples, and now you're complaining that I'm using the exception to make the rule? No, this is what you said:[/color]

Originally posted by master_codaI don't see anyone clamoring for fertility tests for heterosexual couples seeking marriage. They can't have children without help either.[/color]

Where, in that, are you suggesting that the rule should be 'applied without exception'??[/color]

What is "outside sexual activity"?

Another partner...

I do not oppose Gay union, I oppose the corruption of the word "marriage" as I too am supposed to have some rights to things in life, some protections for MY values as well...right?

As for 'application without exception' simply prove it, by making it work...See: population numbers = "exceptions to the rules" come out, with increasing Population Numbers...

 

[Evo]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
BTW I am NOT against them having the same rights, legally, with respect to pensions, health, etc. etc. just the word, (and institution?) of Marriage! as it is meant to be for the purpose of protecting couples

Unfortunately these rights are only currently available to legal spouses.

as towards "procreation", something that Gay couples, Lesbian, or Homosexual, cannot do without outside help...a violation of the intent of the 'Sanctity' of marriage, and the 'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor...

Many heterosexual couples cannot have children or have decided not to have children, so you're saying that they should not have the right to be married? Homosexual couples are very monogomous and they love, honor etc... the same as heterosexuals.

Are you also saying that people that have physical handicaps that prevent "procreation" should be banned from marriage?

Marriage really is a legal contractual relationship. What ever else you want to describe it as is strictly a personal and romanticized viewpoint.

Originally posted by Mr Robin Parsons - I oppose the corruption of the word "marriage"

Here is the dictionary definition of marriage: From Merriam-Webster

Main Entry: mar·riage
Pronunciation: 'mer-ij, 'ma-rij
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English mariage, from Anglo-French, from marier to marry
1 a (1) : the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2) : the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage <same-sex marriage>

Thoughout history, love was rarely the reason to marry, it was for avoiding war, for gaining land and wealth, in most cultures a woman needed to marry for security and financial reasons. Arranged marriages were the norm, and you still see that in many cultures today.

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
I do not oppose Gay union, I oppose the corruption of the word "marriage" as I too am supposed to have some rights to things in life, some protections for MY values as well...right?

How does allowing gay marriage affect your values? You wouldn't be forced to participate in one.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by Evo
Unfortunately these rights are only currently available to legal spouses. Hence the NEED for a change, but that does not mean you need change the definition of marriage as being between a man and a woman...doesn't need that at all![/color]
Many heterosexual couples cannot have children or have decided not to have children, so you're saying that they should not have the right to be married? Homosexual couples are very monogomous and they love, honor etc... the same as heterosexuals. You too?? WOW![/color]
Are you also saying that people that have physical handicaps that prevent "procreation" should be banned from marriage? Really?, please show me where I have said that! WOW do you people ever twist..."quote me" please[/color]
Marriage really is a legal contractual relationship. What ever else you want to describe it as is strictly a personal and romanticized viewpoint.
Here is the dictionary definition of marriage: From Merriam-Webster
Main Entry: mar·riage
Pronunciation: 'mer-ij, 'ma-rij
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English mariage, from Anglo-French, from marier to marry
1 a (1) : the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law (2) : the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage <same-sex marriage> A recent revision, no doubt[/color]
Thoughout history, love was rarely the reason to marry, it was for avoiding war, for gaining land and wealth, in most cultures a woman needed to marry for security and financial reasons. Arranged marriages were the norm, and you still see that in many cultures today.

Arranged yes, between men and women, no problem...but tell me, where in history do we find, EVER a marriage arranged between two men, or two women? HUH?

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Arranged yes, between men and women, no problem...but tell me, where in history do we find, EVER a marriage arranged between two men, or two women? HUH?

What's your point? Evo was pointing out that marriage as we know it in the West bears little resemblance to what marriage was in the past. So arguing that marriage is an ancient tradition is something of a sham.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
How does allowing gay marriage affect your values? You wouldn't be forced to participate in one.

Because to me the word "Marriage" has always meant between opposite sexes, male/female unions...but you tell me instead, how does 10% of the population arrive at having the right to dictate to the rest of the 90% of the population to the removal of what had been an accepted tradition, and right, for aaaaaaaaaall of those people?

Why do 'Gays' (for use of one word) wish to be labeled (and 'seen as' and 'thought of as' and...) as 'Gay', (Gay Pride Parade) yet when it comes to marriage, they do not want for a separate label, and why do they need to change the label, from what it has meant, for all of these years, why? why can't they simply accept 'Gay Union' ("Same Sex Union") if it gives them all of the same benefits? why need 90% of the population change their understanding of their own values, and lives, just to please 10% of the population who's needs, rights, and values, are not changed by it...why?? (given "Civil Union" as the 'married' Gay term)

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Hi! My name is (as you seemed to have missed it) Mr. Robin Parsons...and BTW I am NOT against them having the same rights, legally, with respect to pensions, health, etc. etc. just the word, (and institution?) of Marriage! as it is meant to be for the purpose of protecting couples, as towards "procreation", something that Gay couples, Lesbian, or Homosexual, cannot do without outside help

This seems to be an argument that a major part of the purpose of marriage is to protect couples so they can procreate. Thus it appears that you are arguing that lack of ability to procreate is a reason to deny marriage to homosexuals.

If that wasn't what you meant, then I regret that I misinterpreted you. But don't see any other way to interpret what you said.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
What's your point? Evo was pointing out that marriage as we know it in the West bears little resemblance to what marriage was in the past. So arguing that marriage is an ancient tradition is something of a sham.

Uhmm Evo has pointed out what 'caused' the marriage, not what marriage was, and is, as that ritual has not changed, all that much, the realities of marriage, as between man and woman, haven't changed, just because the reasons for the marriage were different, says little of what the substance of the marriage actually is, but you will take clear note, even Evo agrees(?) it is between a man and a woman...

 

[Evo]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Arranged yes, between men and women, no problem...but tell me, where in history do we find, EVER a marriage arranged between two men, or two women? HUH?

I was giving examples of marriage without love. Since an arranged marriage would be done without input or consent of the two involved, it makes sense that it would be unlikely for arranged marriages to be same sex.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
This seems to be an argument that a major part of the purpose of marriage is to protect couples so they can procreate. Thus it appears that you are arguing that lack of ability to procreate is a reason to deny marriage to homosexuals. NO, the reason is to continue the protection of the "procreating family", you know "family values" that said, gays have family values as well, but the purpose of sex, in a gay relationship, is lust, Not procreative possiblities, not the same as in a male/female marriage...and tell me, why can't I have my values protected?[/color]

If that wasn't what you meant, then I regret that I misinterpreted you. Thank you![/color] But don't see any other way to interpret what you said.

Do you now?

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Uhmm Evo has pointed out what 'caused' the marriage, not what marriage was, and is, as that ritual has not changed, all that much, the realities of marriage, as between man and woman, haven't changed, just because the reasons for the marriage were different, says little of what the substance of the marriage actually is, but you will take clear note, even Evo agrees(?) it is between a man and a woman...

The ritual hasn't changed? The realities haven't changed?

You mean the fact the people can now choose whether or not they want to marry hasn't affected marriage in any way? The fact that people can now choose to leave a marriage hasn't affected it?

All of the responsibilities and obligations, all of the love, all of the honour, all of those things associated with marriage have nothing to do with the contract being between a man and a woman. "Between a man and a woman" is nothing more than an extra rule that's been tacked on (tacked on for a very long time).

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by Evo
I was giving examples of marriage without love. Since an arranged marriage would be done without input or consent of the two involved, it makes sense that it would be unlikely for arranged marriages to be same sex.

Even without love, it is still a 'procreative' marriage, (situation) isn't it?

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
The ritual hasn't changed? The realities haven't changed?
Nope, well some, but not that much...it is as you point out below, more choises...[/color]
You mean the fact the people can now choose whether or not they want to marry hasn't affected marriage in any way? The fact that people can now choose to leave a marriage hasn't affected it?
People have more choices, sure, but what they are choosing is still the ritual, and practise, of male/female marrriage[/color]
All of the responsibilities and obligations, all of the love, all of the honour, all of those things associated with marriage have nothing to do with the contract being between a man and a woman. "Between a man and a woman" is nothing more than an extra rule that's been tacked on (tacked on for a very long time).

Tacked on? you mean the 'gays' started the idea of marriage, and we stole it from them, years ago, by tacking on this addition...HAH, not on your life!

 

[Evo]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
but you will take clear note, even Evo agrees(?) it is between a man and a woman...

No, I was pointing out that what you said about homosexual marriage being "a violation of the intent of the 'Sanctity' of marriage, and the 'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor..." was historically inaccurate since through the ages marriage was mostly for convenience.

Historically "recorded, public, marriages" were between men and women, but that was mostly due to religious stigma.

I understand that you hold a more romanticized version of marriage, and that's sweet, but that doesn't mean that type of marriage doesn't apply to homosexuals. Explain how two men or two women can't have "'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor..."

 

[Evo]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Even without love, it is still a 'procreative' marriage, (situation) isn't it?

Not necessarily, don't forget many of the "political" marriages were not for "procreation" they were for material gain or to prevent war, or gain allies, sometimes for the purpose of war.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by Evo
No, I was pointing out that what you said about homosexual marriage being "a violation of the intent of the 'Sanctity' of marriage, and the 'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor..." was historically inaccurate since through the ages marriage was mostly for convenience. That is an historically erroneous statement, the Sanctity of marriage was always meant to be respected, that the few who could afford to force others to marry would violate that, "plus que ca change, plus que ca reste pareill(sp?)" [/color]

Historically "recorded, public, marriages" were between men and women, but that was mostly due to religious stigma. Really? not because gays were a small percentage of the population and had no venue to express there outrage at the mistreatment that so many of them have, and still, (sadly) do have, now...along with the simple idea that they simply couldn't have even tried it back then and we all know why![/color]

I understand that you hold a more romanticized version of marriage, And please, just where did you arrive at that idea, without gross assumption on your part[/color] and that's sweet, but that doesn't mean that type of marriage doesn't apply to homosexuals. Explain how two men or two women can't have "'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor..." Easy, bring in the want of procreation and one of the partners MUST exit those vows...right? or is there a way I don't know about yet?[/color]

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Do you now?

Yes. Now that you've clarified your position.

As far as I know, gay sex is lust and straight sex is...lust.

Of course, people do have sex to have children. But most people have sex because it's fun.


The reason you can't have your values protected is because your values involve telling other people what they can to do. You're free to not recognize gay marriage. But you can't use the law to force others to not recognize gay marriage.

 

[Evo]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Why do 'Gays' (for use of one word) wish to be labeled (and 'seen as' and 'thought of as' and...) as 'Gay', (Gay Pride Parade) yet when it comes to marriage, they do not want for a separate label, and why do they need to change the label, from what it has meant, for all of these years, why? why can't they simply accept 'Gay Union' ("Same Sex Union") if it gives them all of the same benefits? why need 90% of the population change their understanding of their own values, and lives, just to please 10% of the population who's needs, rights, and values, are not changed by it...why?? (given "Civil Union" as the 'married' Gay term)

I don't think gay's really care what it is called. Apparantly the courts decided it was simpler just to allow same sex "marriage".

 

[master_coda]

Evo:
I understand that you hold a more romanticized version of marriage, and that's sweet, but that doesn't mean that type of marriage doesn't apply to homosexuals. Explain how two men or two women can't have "'monogamy' of marriage, the vows, love, honor..."

Mr. Robin Parsons:
Easy, bring in the want of procreation and one of the partners MUST exit those vows...right? or is there a way I don't know about yet?

No, they don't have to exist vows. They can have children the same way infertile straight couples do. In vitro fertilization. Surrogate mothers. Adoption. And so on.

Of course, you might consider getting genetic material from others to be cheating, but that's stretching the definition of cheating. You don't need to have sex with others, or even have any relationship with the donors or surrogates at all. And adopting doesn't involve cheating at all, even by that "extended" definition.

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
Yes. Now that you've clarified your position. O.K. Thanks[/color]
As far as I know, gay sex is lust and straight sex is...lust.Plus! (procreative possiblity)[/color]
Of course, people do have sex to have children. But most people have sex because it's fun. So I've heard...been a while...[/color]
The reason you can't have your values protected is because your values involve telling other people what they can to do. Ahem you have that exactly backwards! I am not tellin anyone what they can do, they are telling me that I can no longer...that is wrong![/color] You're free to not recognize gay marriage. But you can't use the law to force others to not recognize gay marriage. you mean as in the way you are trying ot use the law to force me to recognize a <<CHANGE>> right? (lets keep things on the sides that have always been on, please, not huxtapositioned! cause that is what 'tradition' means)[/color]

 

[Mr. Robin Parsons]

Originally posted by master_coda
No, they don't have to exist vows. They can have children the same way infertile straight couples do. In vitro fertilization. Surrogate mothers. Adoption. And so on. WOW do/did you miss the point[/color]

Of course, you might consider getting genetic material from others to be cheating, but that's stretching the definition of cheating. You don't need to have sex with others, or even have any relationship with the donors or surrogates at all. And adopting doesn't involve cheating at all, even by that "extended" definition.

Gotta go, be right back if I can...(libraries closing)

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
you mean as in the way you are trying ot use the law to force me to recognize a <<CHANGE>> right?

The government would be forced to recognize it. You would not.

 

[master_coda]

Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
WOW do/did you miss the point

You asked how gay couples can overcome the desire for procreation without violating marriage vows. I explained how they can. Perhaps you are the one who missed the point.