So you are asking why the two helium isotopes have different superfluid transition temperatures (only the [itex]T_c[/itex] of [itex]^4[/itex]He is called the lambda point). There is actually quite a large difference in the temperatures, three orders of magnitude. Fundamentally the reason is that [itex]^4[/itex]He is a boson and [itex]^3[/itex]He is a fermion. As a boson, [itex]^4[/itex]He can directly form a "Bose-Einstein condensate", which is the superfluid state. One could say that the wave functions of the helium atoms begin to overlap and they lose their identity. The fermionic [itex]^3[/itex]He, on the other hand, must form pairs of atoms, called Cooper pairs to form the condensate. This is because fermions do not like to be too close to each other due to the Pauli exclusion principle. This fermion transition temperature is very sensitive to the interactions between the atoms, and for [itex]^3[/itex]He is quite low being of the order of 1 mK.
So the short answer is that the mechanisms through which the two isotopes form the superfluid state are very different.