rolnor said:
2. The photon behaves as if it goes through both slits and gives rise to an interference pattern, this is because it can be seen as electromagnetic waves, but when you measure/detect the photon, the pattern disappears, does this mean the photon looses its electromagnetic wave-properties? [...]
The interference pattern has nothing to do with electromagnetic waves, but with indeterminism and superposition, I think here's the misunderstanding.
I would completely forget the EM waves here, you can do the same experiment with electrons too. The position of an electron is given by its wave function, at a wave's peak the probability to find it is highest, and least at its trough. The wave function is so a "probability wave".
Prior to a measurement, an electron has no definite position, but is in all positions allowed by the wave packet at once, it is in superposition of all possible states or positions. When we measure its position, we'll find it within the wave packet, but what position exactly is totally random; with most probability at its peaks, but could also be at some other place within the wave. But we can't say that it was at this place already before the measurement, as prior to the measurement its position is not determined.
It's as if the measurement "chooses" a random position out of the possible ones, without reason and therefore in an impredictable manner. That's why it's called "collapse" of the wave function.
But how can we be sure that an electron wasn't already at a definite position (but was in superposition) before the measurement?
Because of the interference pattern we see at the double slit experiment:
If the electrons had at each moment a definite position (we just don't know), we would see two stripes at the detection screen, like when we throw balls, or like when just one of the slits is open.
The interference pattern is the result of the "probability waves": two peaks add to a higher peak (highest probability), a peak and a trough cancel each other out, resulting in the bright and dark stripes of the pattern.
(If we shoot one electron at a time, we also see an interference pattern: it's as if the electron goes through both slits at once (superposition), creating the same pattern at the screen.)
As to the reality of the wave, the Copenhagen Interpretation says something like:
Only what can be measure can be seen as real, and therefore the wave is not an element of reality in its strict sense (but a mathematical tool for making probabilistic predictions).