catia,
Here is the most intuitive way I have found to understand why one says that time slows down in special relativity.
Special relativity has two very simple, very intuitive postulates and all the consequences of the theory can be understood on a basic level with very simple math.
The first postulate is:
1.The laws of physics are the same in all inertial frames of reference.
This means that if I did an experiment on the earth, for example, and then did the exact same experiment in a car moving at a uniform speed, in a straight line, the results would be the same.
We experience this all the time. If in your car, you decide to throw a ball upwards it will feel exacly the same as if you where at rest. It has been proven experimentally by Michelson, Moreley and others that there is even no way to prove that you are moving if you a going at a constant speed in a straight line.
You may think that you are at rest, but the Earth is now orbiting the sun, that movement we can prove. Ask yourself whether the sun is moving, that we cannot.
2.The speed of light in a vacuum is a universal constant, independent of the motion of the light source.
Imagine that you where to throw a ball at 2m/s. The ball is moving at a speed of 2m/s. Now, if you where to run 2m/s and then throw the ball again, directly in front of you, at the same speed as before, 2m/s, the ball would move at a speed of 2m/s + 2m/s = 4m/s for a stationary observer and 2m/s for you (because you are running towards it). This is how we can move from one reference system to another.
Light is a totally different issue. You can run toward or away from a beam of light and it will not matter. No matter how you are moving with respect to the light, you will measure its speed to be the same.
The two previous postulates seem totally irreconcilable, one is practically the opposite of the other. But do not forget what may be the first physics equation that you ever learned:
Speed = distance traveled / time
It is possible for all observers to agree on the speed of light if their conception of space and time are different.
Since your question was about time, I will show you how it works for time.
Imagine a clock, but this is not your ordinary clock. This clock is quite simple. Take two parallel mirrors and make them face each other, one on the ceiling and one the floor. Now we will place a photon (light particle) so that it may be reflected back and forth between the two mirrors. When it hits the top mirror, we shall hear a "tic" and when it hits the bottom mirror, we shall hear a "toc". We shall now define a unit of time as what must lapse for the photon to travel from one mirror to the other:
Time = distance between the mirrors / the speed of light (constant)
Here is where it gets freaky...
Lets put this clock in a space ship. Let's also make the ship fly by us at a constant speed, in a straight line. The first postulate stated that the pilot of the ship is perfectly valid in stating the he is not moving. Therefore the pilot will experience time flow as defined just above. We however experience something quite different when looking at the pilot:
I shall start with Pythagorean theorem
(Horizontal line)^{}2 +(vertical line)^{}2 = (hypotenuse)^{}2
(I wish I could draw this for you)
Now, using the equation:
Distance = speed x time
We shall replace the horizontal line with a distance (speed of the spaceship x time observer). This is the distance the observer sees the ship travel.
We shall replace the vertical line with a distance (speed of light x time of space ship). This is the distance that the light travels from one mirror to the other viewed from an observer inside the ship. This observer can rightfully say he is at rest.
We also replace the hypotenuse with a distance (speed of light x time of observer). This is the distance that the observer sees the photon make between a tic and a toc.
Simple algebra reveals the proper transformation, but just looking at the triangle, it becomes evident why time cannot be the same.
The same operation can be taken out with the mirrors on the walls parallel to the movement and it becomes evident why people also perceive distances to be different.
Does time really go slower?
Not in this case. The spaceship pilot will feel normal as stated by the first principle. He will observe that the observer is in slow motion. Neither is really, it only seems that way. Add acceleration to the mix though and you can actually travel to other people’s future.
I know this was not very visual, but it is the best I can do here.