Buckethead said:
OK, this is very well put and makes sense. In other words (going with the Machian view), a "spacetime grid" exists and is capable of bending, rotating, and moving in some direction all of which will be completely responsible for the outcome of Newton's bucket. In addition, there is no meaning to the strength of the grid as it is not a force but rather as you say, a placemat capable of position only and it's bending, rotating and moving are defined by the history of gravity moving across the universe over time. Did I get that right?
As far as I could say, yes, I'm no GR expert. Also, I would hesitate taking the spacetime grid too literally, as we could fall into the same semantic difficulties as claims that "space is really expanding" in the Big Bang. Instead, as with that common Big Bang description, we have a language for telling a story that is not itself verifiable, but which is a workable picture for getting to the results that are verifiable. Reality kind of emerges from the smoke of the conceptual sparks of our calculations, involving grids and space and so forth.
I have to bring in the Lense-Thirring effect (frame dragging), as it seems this effect will indeed move the grid to a limited degree around something like a rotating planet. the effect is small which would mean it's washed out by the grid created by distant stars and would therefore have little effect on the north pole issue.
Yes, the effect from the Earth would be too small to worry about, but perhaps the effect from the rest of the universe is another way to talk about that "footprint" that the universe has left on our spacetime environment. In other words, Lense-Thirring may have to do with the mechanism whereby the footprint gets left, but if we just say "all roads lead to Mach", we needn't necessarily have a specific mechanism like that in mind.
If all this is correct, then this does mean that this grid and gravity are two entirely different phenomenon. In other words, one can't say that gravity itself is responsible for the bucket problem directly but one can say that gravity is able to manipulate and define the shape of an absolute universe and it is this mutable universe that is responsible for the bucket effect.
I think this gets to the issue of what we mean by gravity. Some would say that gravity is only curvature, so only tidal gravity (with zero divergence where there is no mass) matters. But I prefer a more general meaning, saying essentially that gravity is the mechanism by which fictitious forces are generated in any coordinate system. So in that more general meaning, the centrifugal force is gravity, and so forth, even though it exists and has a nonzero divergence even in the absence of mass. I believe (but don't know) the issue of what decides the "inertial frame" for Newton's bucket, is of this more general type of gravity, which I think is what you are saying too. The elements might break down into something like the local curvature constraints, and the global boundary constraints, that sort of thing. It's all pretty vague until one can actually solve some equations to show what is really being said, and I haven't done any of that hard work.
One has to take this one step further and ask what is it that is being mutated? We are not talking about gravity, as we have already stated it won't affect the bucket, we are talking about something like an aether (but not really of course), something that has properties.
I recall Einstein himself, when considering his general relativity, saying words to the effect that one needs an aether. He was not talking about an invariant aether like was imagined before relativity, so I think he meant it needs to be more like a mutable aether that appears a bit different for each observer.
If I were to take a stab I might say that virtual particles might play a part. Or a new force that has the characteristic of changing slowly over time when hit with gravitational fields. It would be helpful to at least list the properties of such a spacetime "substance" which might help to identify it.
It sounds like you are getting into the realm of unification of gravity. I agree that philosophical considerations can provide helpful guidance, if one uses the right philosophy, so that's why these philosophical musings are actually pretty important. I suspect that whoever does achieve unification will at some point be aided in finding the right path by largely philosophical thinking, just as Einstein was.