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shashankac655
It takes a woman twenty years to make a man of her son, and another woman twenty minutes to make a fool of him. ~Helen Rowland
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The discussion revolves around the complexities of love, highlighting both its enchanting and painful aspects. Participants reflect on the vulnerability that love brings, describing it as a force that can disrupt one's life and emotional defenses. Experiences of love range from passionate infatuation to deep, lasting connections, with some expressing a preference for stable, platonic relationships over intense romantic ones. Humor is interwoven throughout the conversation, with anecdotes about personal relationships and the challenges of intimacy. Ultimately, the dialogue captures the bittersweet nature of love, revealing its capacity to both uplift and wound.
- #182
Lancelot59
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shashankac655 said:
I've seen it happen in even less time than that.
- #183
netgypsy
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It's love when, if you fight with them, you are fighting with yourself
If you see them injured you can viscerally feel the pain
If their smile warms you like the sun
If sitting with them silently watching the sun rise makes you so happy you almost cry
If you finish each other's sentences
If their touch causes you to melt
If you don't really care what you're doing because doing it with them is always fun
If they make you a better person than you could ever be alone
Love is never painful unless you lose the one you love and even then the wonderful memories never fade
so it's worth it to keep looking until you find the real thing.
If you see them injured you can viscerally feel the pain
If their smile warms you like the sun
If sitting with them silently watching the sun rise makes you so happy you almost cry
If you finish each other's sentences
If their touch causes you to melt
If you don't really care what you're doing because doing it with them is always fun
If they make you a better person than you could ever be alone
Love is never painful unless you lose the one you love and even then the wonderful memories never fade
so it's worth it to keep looking until you find the real thing.
- #184
widereader
You write like a novelist of a romance book. Although this may seem like love, it is more of infatuation or even lust.
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netgypsy
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The person who shared that with me has been married to the same person for nearly 50 years. Lust - for sure - but certainly not infatuation. They say it was just dumb luck they found each other and they're not complaining.
One other thing I find interesting - in a relationship where both people are in love with each other, there is not a 50 50 sharing of duties, chores, unpleasant tasks. There is a 100% willingness to carry the entire load when needed on both parts and that is without ever being asked to do it.
There is no need to say I love you because both parties know it is true.
When either person sees something that needs to be done, they do it and when the other person sees them working, they will pitch in and help or do something else that needs to be done. They are a real team.
There are no games, no hurt feelings, no crying and no real fighting. There are disagreements that are settled based on who wants it the most and risk vs benefit. It's not a power game because both parties have equal power and no need to try to increase that power.
People in love are NICE to each other, kind, pleasant, supportive and pay attention to the other one so they know if one is sad or tired or just needs a back rub. And it's not hard, it's a joy to find someone who really cares about you and never needs to be told that you care.
One other thing I find interesting - in a relationship where both people are in love with each other, there is not a 50 50 sharing of duties, chores, unpleasant tasks. There is a 100% willingness to carry the entire load when needed on both parts and that is without ever being asked to do it.
There is no need to say I love you because both parties know it is true.
When either person sees something that needs to be done, they do it and when the other person sees them working, they will pitch in and help or do something else that needs to be done. They are a real team.
There are no games, no hurt feelings, no crying and no real fighting. There are disagreements that are settled based on who wants it the most and risk vs benefit. It's not a power game because both parties have equal power and no need to try to increase that power.
People in love are NICE to each other, kind, pleasant, supportive and pay attention to the other one so they know if one is sad or tired or just needs a back rub. And it's not hard, it's a joy to find someone who really cares about you and never needs to be told that you care.
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- #186
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Idk if its possible for youngsters to truly fall in love, but that's my case here. I fell in love with a guy who loves me back. Problem is, he lives in Europe and I live in Usa. Which sucks, because of the distance. Although I fell for him, and He fell for me, we've had many problems, fights, bla bla bla. But when we sew it all back together, he's the sweetest kid and he has a charming personality. He won my heart when I noticed that he was always there for me, and if I ever fell, he would always pick me up and help me. It's not actually easy for us, because there is a huge chance we may never meet, and never get married (because he asked me to marry him like in the summer lol). And yeah, I know that fear that grows inside me. I can't say that I'm tough, although when me and him broke up a few times, it did get me stronger and teach me things that I haven't learned before. To be honest, I never actually dated before this guy. I come from a religious background and it's not really approved of me to "date" him. Though I consider him more as my promised guy, then my boyfriend. Idk I see downsides to the word boyfriend lol. But yeah, anyway, I face that fear not meeting him and fulfilling everything he told me he'd do for me in the end. Of course fate will take on the course.
So yeah. Sounds a bit silly I'm posting this and I "think" I know love, but truth is, as a youngster, maybe not serious love lol.
Anyway wanted to share,
:),
ArcherofScience.
So yeah. Sounds a bit silly I'm posting this and I "think" I know love, but truth is, as a youngster, maybe not serious love lol.
Anyway wanted to share,
:),
ArcherofScience.
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http://www.npr.org/2012/01/31/146151332/winter-songs-young-love-in-ithaca-with-schumanns-help
Alice and Burt Swersey have been married for 52 years.
Alice and Burt Swersey have been married for 52 years.
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This discussion seems mostly about romantic attraction. But a few people lately have raised the issue of actual love, which is a slowly developing constancy of devotion and consideration which lasts a lifetime. That is what people are talking about who have been married for decades.
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