What's next: Moving Out and Moving On

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Discussion Overview

The discussion centers around a member's upcoming move to a new place, the associated challenges, and the emotional aspects of transitioning from living at home to independence. It includes considerations about financial support from parents, job searching, and personal experiences related to moving out. The scope encompasses personal anecdotes, planning for future education, and reflections on family dynamics.

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Main Points Raised

  • One participant shares their plan to move out on September 1st and discusses the financial implications of their parents' potential support for tuition.
  • Another participant expresses excitement about their own move to Calgary and offers to help with questions about the new neighborhood.
  • Some participants inquire about the location of the move, with one suggesting that moving to Edmonton could be beneficial.
  • There is a mention of the possibility of suing parents for tuition in Canada, which prompts curiosity and disbelief from others.
  • Several participants offer good wishes and encouragement regarding the move and future plans.
  • One participant advises starting job applications early to secure employment before graduation, sharing insights about the job application timeline.
  • Concerns are raised about the cost of living in Vancouver, with some participants noting the high housing prices expected in the future.
  • There are reflections on the emotional relief of moving out from a challenging family environment, with shared experiences of similar situations.

Areas of Agreement / Disagreement

Participants generally express support and encouragement for the member's move, but there are differing opinions on the implications of financial support from parents and the feasibility of suing them for tuition. The discussion remains unresolved regarding the best strategies for job searching and the impact of family dynamics on education.

Contextual Notes

Some participants mention the variability in legal options regarding parental support for tuition, which may depend on individual circumstances and income levels. There are also references to differing experiences with job application timelines, indicating a lack of consensus on the best approach.

Who May Find This Useful

Individuals considering moving out for the first time, those navigating family dynamics related to education funding, and anyone interested in job searching strategies post-graduation may find this discussion relevant.

  • #31
Sorry guys for all the ranting, but it is driving me nuts.
 
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  • #32
JasonRox said:
Well, they are stalker type people. I have no idea. Pure drama queens like you don't even know.

My mom think it makes for sense to pay $500 in lawyer fees to try and get this tuition this "straigthened out" rather than just paying what it is now, and I pay the difference of like $300 or something. Instead what's going to happen is that she's going to pay $500 where lawyers will delay the whole thing and I'm stuck footing the whole tuition bill. So, I was like... mom what situation do you think is going to help me more? Me paying $300 or you guys delaying it so you don't have to pay at all and I'm stuck paying $5000? She's like, I don't care. I'm getting a lawyer. They did this for 5 years in a row. She said she's trying to help, which is a load of bull****. She complains about her lawyer fees, but she's only paid like $5000 in lawyer fees since the beginning and I paid like $20000 in tuition while working at minimum wage! Of course, it's cheaper to pay a lawyer than my tuition.

Honestly, you think it's not necessary to never talk to them again, but it is. My mom said that once I move out to never come back. So, I'll do it in the literal sense that she could never track me. Because if I don't, she'll be her stalker/drama self and always find out what I'm up even if it's miles and miles away. Her friends do it for crying out loud. They help each other on stalking.
Believe it or not, no matter how screwed up you think they are, you are fortunate to even have a family.
 
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  • #33
Just wanted to point out that Jason didn't call you a drama queen Beeza. He said 'like you don't even know'.
 
  • #34
I suppose now that I read it, it could be interpreted either way. If you didn't, then I apologize Jason.
 
  • #35
JasonRox said:
Well, it looks like I'm not getting tuition now. My parents are back into a fight about money again.

I'm moving anyways though. I can't handle it anymore. I have to find a way to make the month of August go by really fast.

I'm so looking forward to moving like thousands of miles away. I figured once the school year comes, time will fly and I'll be gone.

Note: It's so bad that I'm changing my name after school so they can't track me anywhere!

I'm so happy not to be in your pants, Jason. Anyways, once again, good luck with all the stuff.

cyrusabdollahi said:
Change your name to something funny like Art Vandelay. And when someone asks you what you do for a living you tell them, "Import/export".

:smile: :smile: ..or "Latex management".
 
  • #36
Oh well.

I'm going to go to the bank and get a bigger line of credit so that if I do pay tuition, I still have room left to start my life afterwards.

To those who think I'm fortunate to even have a family, you have to realize that you can't be fortunate by default. It was pretty good before the divorce, but after that everything just went down the hole. My friends think I'm better off with nothing because of the potential stalking and harrassment I can get when I move out. It's like complete fear even when I move out. It won't go away until I'm gone for good kind of thing.

Oh well, I have like 32 or more so days left.
 
  • #37
It's coming! I have 20 days left!

So, things are starting to leak out. I told my mom I'm moving out. She flipped out obviously. She thinks I'm joking, but I'll show her the lease agreement soon as proof. The child support will need to stop.

My dad is thrilled actually. They already had a bunch of stuff for me, like towels, pans, plates, forks, etc... Like good quality brand name, I was just like wow. That helped me out so much and I was so thankful for that. I was just like wow.

So, the child support thing must now end since I'm moving out. I ended up seeing the numbers and I was just like ****. The numbers are just ****ing mind boggling. It's so crazy high that I can't even say it.

Anyways, I'm out soon. I don't have to worry about the numbers though since I'm out soon. I went through the hard part of telling them. Everything is ready. I got a bigger line of credit for safety. My prediction is at most $11000 (it's actually more like $10000) debt with a thousand in the bank when I'm done school which is nothing. If my parents help, I will finish with like no debt and a thousand in the bank. Either way I'm happy now. I can handle $11000. :smile:

I'll keep you guys posted until the big day arrives.
 
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  • #38
Good Luck man!
 
  • #39
Looks like everything is working out for you. I'm moving out this Thursday! To a dorm though. I'm excited to start college.
 
  • #40
moose said:
Looks like everything is working out for you. I'm moving out this Thursday! To a dorm though. I'm excited to start college.

Man, that's awesome.

Starting 1st year was awesome, 2nd year was ok, 3rd year was ok, and now 4th year is becoming the best! To be done school is huge!

So, uh, you going to be the ladies man in the dorm? :biggrin:
 
  • #41
JasonRox said:
Man, that's awesome.

Starting 1st year was awesome, 2nd year was ok, 3rd year was ok, and now 4th year is becoming the best! To be done school is huge!

So, uh, you going to be the ladies man in the dorm? :biggrin:

What made the 2nd and 3rd years just OK as compared to the 1st and 4th?
Of course I will! :biggrin: Have you seen my avatar?
 

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