To sum: Place a large light source (such as a light with a reflecting parabola) shining on an object. The object will cast a soft-edged shadow. You can change the softness of the shadow's edge by changing th size of the light, by moving the light closer or farther from the object, or by moving the obejct closer or farther from the background.
Why?
Place yourself where the object's shadow is cast, looking back toward the object. What will you see? There are three possibilities
1] If you place yourself anywhere in the shadow of the object, looking back towadf the object, you will only see the object. You will not be able to see the light, which is directly behind the object, right?
2] If you place yourself well outside the shadow of the object, you will see the object to one side, and you will see the light, shining unobstructed, in its full glory, next to it.
3] What if you place yourself right on the border between light and shadow? What do you see now? You see the object, and behind the object - partially obscured by the object - the light source. How much of the light source is obscured? Depends on where you position yourself. You can move back and forth between shadow and fully lit as you wish but, because the light source is large, you may have to move back and forth by a several inches or a foot. Now turn around and look at the background - there is a band a foot wide in which the background is only partially unlit.