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Other than sex, children, and legal stuff(if married), of course.
JasonRox said:I'm guessing you live in a cave.
JasonRox said:I'm guessing you live in a cave.
27Thousand said:I'm thinking the same thing. Why would one not want one?
Pinu7 said:Other than sex, children, and legal stuff(if married), of course.
Or something like that..LifeofBrian said:Whatever have the Romans ever done for us, apart from a stable government, aquaducts, roads, wine and a million other wares we now can get hold of??
arildno said:Or something like that..
Fear of being alone and financial reasons are probably near the top. The OP didn't stipulate "healthy relationships".fluidistic said:I'm sure a relationship makes happy many humans. It might be another reason.
Evo said:Fear of being alone and financial reasons are probably near the top. The OP didn't stipulate "healthy relationships".
Pinu7 said:Other than sex, children, and legal stuff(if married), of course.
Various cultures have had their own theories on the origin of marriage. One example may lie in a man's need for assurance as to paternity of his children. He might therefore be willing to pay a bride price or provide for a woman in exchange for exclusive sexual access.[21] Legitimacy is the consequence of this transaction rather than its motivation. In Comanche society, married women work harder, lose sexual freedom, and do not seem to obtain any benefit from marriage.[22] But nubile women are a source of jealousy and strife in the tribe, so they are given little choice other than to get married. "In almost all societies, access to women is institutionalized in some way so as to moderate the intensity of this competition."[23] In English common law, a marriage was a voluntary contract by a man and a woman, where by agreement they choose to become husband and wife.[24] Edvard Westermarck proposed that "the institution of marriage has probably developed out of a primeval habit".[25]
rootX said:In some cases, male will kill the children to start new relantionship)
GeorginaS said:Well that was helpful.
rootX said:http://www.lionresearch.org/current_docs/6.pdf
GeorginaS said:I didn't say it wasn't true. It's just not helpful to a discussion about why humans get involved in relationships to tell us that male lions will kill cubs so the female lion can mate again. Are they going to buy a condo together? No? Then? How is this helpful information?
JasonRox said:Um... you develop relationships whether you like it or not.
You talk to a cashier while buying something. You have a relationship. The relationship is defined to be that you're both relatively strangers to each other but you have met.
My relationship with those on PF are basically defined as online friends.
To not want ANY relationship must imply you want to live in a cave. And to not know the benefits of a relationship must imply you LIVED in a cave.
If you mean relationshipt to MEAN monogamous relationship with a partner, then that's a whole other question!
rootX said:I think OP is talking about marriages or long term relationships as he mentioned children/legal.
JasonRox said:You can have children and not be monogamous or even living in the same house as the person you had children with and STILL be in a relationship.
If you're going to discuss whether or not to be in a relationship, we must be clear on what kind of relationship we are talking about. So he's talking about a traditional monogamous relationship where you live together and have kids, and save money on taxes. And do the typical things you see on TV, like Everybody Loves Raymond?
If that's the case, then I have no idea why someone would want that!
fluidistic said:I'm sure a relationship makes happy many humans. It might be another reason.
Evo said:Fear of being alone and financial reasons are probably near the top. The OP didn't stipulate "healthy relationships".
Evo said:Fear of being alone and financial reasons are probably near the top. The OP didn't stipulate "healthy relationships".
Greg Bernhardt said:Has anyone wondered what percent of relationships are really happy and healthy? I would guess it is actually quite low.
BobG said:Emotionally or physically?
Over half of all Americans will have a sexually transmitted disease at some time in their life. http://www.ashastd.org/learn/learn_statistics.cfm
25% of women and 8% of men are raped and/or physically abused by their partner. http://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/181867.pdf (executive summary).
I'm not sure how meaningful those statistics are since most people wind up having more than one relationship in their lifetime. I imagine being involved in at least one unhealthy relationship in a person's lifetime could be pretty common - common enough that recognizing and getting out of unhealthy relationships could be a key skill to learn while young.
I'm not quite sure that a divorce automatically means the relationship was unhealthy - for the same reason that I wouldn't say every girlfriend/boyfriend a person ever had that didn't result in marriage must have been an unhealthy relationship.
JasonRox said:How is having an STD relevant to bad relationships?
jimmysnyder said:I don't know why people have relationships, but for myself, I have too many. I was living the life of Tiger, but it all came crashing down. Mistress 3 found out about mistress 5 and that's when the troubles began. The real disaster happened when I was following this nice piece of fluff home. She had all the right curves in all the right places, just the kind I like, if you catch my drift. Imagine my chagrin to find out it was my wife. I'm down to one relationship for the duration.
BobG said:The comment was about healthy relationships, not good/bad relationships. I think obtaining a disease from a relationship pretty much automatically qualifies as an unhealthy relationship.
A good/bad relationship might not even be that relevant to healthy/unhealthy relationships since I think how the couple resolve a bad relationship is a better indicator of their emotional health than whether they have a good/bad relationship.
BobG said:That's a valid point.
A person could get tested once a year at their annual doctor's visit, though. Going years without knowing they have a STD is a sign of an unhealthy lifestyle, or at least a sign they don't pay much attention to their health (although how many younger people without health insurance actually get physicals).
It's not unreasonable to expect a partner to have gotten themselves tested in between relationships, though.
Chronos said:People have relationships because they enjoy companionship and fear dying alone.
BobG said:Or because they enjoy companionship and fear living alone.
The only part of dying alone that scares me is if no one knew I was dead and no one fed my dog. That would be pretty depressing to have your own poor, starving dog eat you so it could survive just a few more days.
I enjoy companionship, and I wouldn't mind dying alone. In fact, I would prefer to die alone some place where the vultures can clean up the remains, otherwise I'd prefer to set my own pyre.Chronos said:People have relationships because they enjoy companionship and fear dying alone.