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I got free movie coupons and is it a big deal to use them? or it just plain wrong?
Im a guy btw straight.
Im a guy btw straight.
Use them! If the girl is so shallow that she doesn't like it, GOOD RIDDANCE! I would admire a guy that had free tickets.ZeroPivot said:I got free movie coupons and is it a big deal to use them? or it just plain wrong?
Im a guy btw straight.
ZeroPivot said:I got free movie coupons and is it a big deal to use them? or it just plain wrong?
Im a guy btw straight.
lisab said:Personally I wouldn't mind coupons. But in the general public, it's probably different.
I think age is a factor. If the guy is a teenager and uses coupons, then there is no issue. If the guy is 30 or so, it might be viewed differently. His date my wonder if he lives in his mother's basement, for example.
I guess I am more easy going and look at the "person", I don't care if he's taking me on a trip to the Bahamas for free with frequent flier miles and credit card bonus points, he's using them to treat me. I think a female that wants him to spend money instead is shallow and the guy should have second thoughts about her.Rick21383 said:Exactly. Many women would question the use of free coupons/tickets/whatever on a first date and not necessarily be shallow.
Don't be cheap. Use the coupons with friends, not on a first date.
Marry me! Marry me NOW!Evo said:I guess I am more easy going and look at the "person", I don't care if he's taking me on a trip to the Bahamas for free with frequent flier miles and credit card bonus points, he's using them to treat me. I think a female that wants him to spend money instead is shallow and the guy should have second thoughts about her...
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If I was a guy and dating, I might actually buy tickets ahead of time and tell the girl they were free just to see if she was the kind of person I want to get to know better.
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Evo said:I guess I am more easy going and look at the "person", I don't care if he's taking me on a trip to the Bahamas for free with frequent flier miles and credit card bonus points, he's using them to treat me. I think a female that wants him to spend money instead is shallow and the guy should have second thoughts about her.
I used to date a very nice guy, he was a top attorney and wealthy, from a fine family and headed up some of the best charity balls here. But when we'd go to a movie, there was no drinking or eating allowed because he considered it too expensive, I wasn't even allowed to buy my own. If he'd had coupons, he certainly would have used them. I wouldn't have thought anything of it, even though most women dating someone wealthy would probably be appalled. I would find the use of coupons even more acceptable and smart if the guy didn't have much money.
If I was a guy and dating, I might actually buy tickets ahead of time and tell the girl they were free just to see if she was the kind of person I want to get to know better.
Charity balls are commonplace in certain social circles. They are a blast.Rick21383 said:ok...that doesn't add up at all. This "guy" was a top attorney and wealthy and headed up some of the best charity balls (lol what?) but eating or drinking anything at the theatre wasn't allowed, even if you bought it, because it was too expensive? Even if half of that was true most girls would ding him based on your description. And rightfully so. Dont be a cheap skate guys...throw down that whole extra $10 for the ticket and avoid looking like a tool. First impressions are key.
Evo said:I used to date a very nice guy, he was a top attorney and wealthy, from a fine family and headed up some of the best charity balls here. But when we'd go to a movie, there was no drinking or eating allowed because he considered it too expensive, I wasn't even allowed to buy my own.
Yeah, I can also see this approach. At least you'll get a few good dates before she dumps you for being cheap. (kidding)Travis_King said:I agree with Flex. It's not so much that I'd be worried that she'd think I'm cheap or anything, but for me there's just something off about using coupons on a date unless you've stated up front, "Hey, I got a coupon for half off at X restaurant, want to go?"
It just seems like, if you take her out and then use a coupon to pay, that you're too focused on the cost of the date, rather than the lady you're with. Just something off about it to me, for the first couple dates. Once you've got her hooked, then be as thrifty as you want.
Evo said:Charity balls are commonplace in certain social circles. They are a blast.
Again, it depends on what you're looking for, if you are looking for someone that cares about you and not about money, then use the coupon.
Evo said:I used to date a very nice guy, he was a top attorney and wealthy, from a fine family and headed up some of the best charity balls here. But when we'd go to a movie, there was no drinking or eating allowed because he considered it too expensive, I wasn't even allowed to buy my own.
Exactly, and that's how I saw it.BobG said:Some "cheapness" has nothing to do with how money he has - and I doubt his unwillingness to buy theater snacks has anything to do with his amount of money. It's probably a fairness issue in his eyes.
Exactly, and that's how I saw it.Not allowing you to buy your own would be an indication that he might get a little too obsessed with his personal "causes"; not that he was cheap. And that he might be just a bit over controlling.
I've seen those, and they aggravate me. I hate that kind of advertising.I dated a woman that liked to bring restaraunt coupons along with her so that even though I was paying, at least it would be a little cheaper. After one meal, she was a little upset that they weren't taking her coupon. Then the waiter had to explain to her that that really wasn't a coupon - it was just an advertisement that looked kind of like a coupon. The price on the "coupon" was their regular price. I thought that was an interesting interaction - and kind of entertaining, although I figured it probably wouldn't be appropriate to actually laugh out loud.
So, at least make sure it's really a coupon before you use it.
It depends on the context and the type of coupon being used. If the coupon is for a discount at a fancy restaurant or for an activity that the couple enjoys, it can be seen as a smart and practical choice. However, if the coupon is for a free item or a significant discount at a fast food restaurant, it may come across as cheap or lacking effort.
Using coupons on a first date may send the wrong message and make it seem like you are not willing to invest in the relationship. It is better to save the coupons for future dates once you have established a connection and comfort with your date.
If you want to use a coupon on a date, it is important to be transparent and communicate with your date beforehand. Let them know that you have a coupon and ask if they are comfortable with using it. This can help avoid any awkwardness or discomfort during the date.
Yes, there are situations where using coupons on a date can be acceptable. For example, if both individuals are on a tight budget or if the coupon is for a shared activity or experience that the couple enjoys. It is also acceptable if the coupon is for a special occasion, such as a birthday or anniversary.
No, you should not feel embarrassed or ashamed for using coupons on a date. Saving money and being financially responsible is a smart choice, and using coupons can help you do so. It is important to remember that the value of a date comes from the time and connection shared, not the amount of money spent.