Anyone here ever visited eharmony?

[Danger]

I knew I had a pic of Pauley Perrette, and I was going to share, but I forgot that she isn't decent for PF in it. :-/

I knew that your were kidding, Stats. No worries. Feel free to PM or email me the pix. Yeah, she has some nice ones out there. Weird thing, though, is that I prefer her as Abby rather than as herself. Same way as Jolene Blalock just doesn't look as good without short hair and pointed ears.

 

[Evo]

I've been a member of eHarmony for several years, and had some success. In any case, though, I wouldn't have known it is "a christian dating service". There are members there from all religions and no religion and you tell them how important it is to you. I've dated catholics, protestants, jews and athiests from there.

Just because it was founded by a Christian, that doesn't automatically make it a "christian dating service". It isn't C-date.

Their screening process was very strict in the beginning. I was scared off by the fact that even before I completed their *application* they sent my information off to members, and I had already decided this was not a place I wanted to be and didn't even finish. The questions they were asking were all going in a direction I didn't like. I was appalled that they had the gall to do such a thing and I let them know.

Of course people join that just see the advertisements, and I certainly am not judging the people that join.

I just know it's not a place for Danger.

 

[JasonRox]

Their screening process was very strict in the beginning. I was scared off by the fact that even before I completed their *application* they sent my information off to members, and I had already decided this was not a place I wanted to be and didn't even finish. The questions they were asking were all going in a direction I didn't like. I was appalled that they had the gall to do such a thing and I let them know.

Of course people join that just see the advertisements, and I certainly am not judging the people that join.

I just know it's not a place for Danger.

I did it not too long ago and I found the questions very Christan based for sure.

I don't think the lawsuits are well-deserved though. I don't support religion, but I do support providing a service to a particular group. I don't see what's wrong with that.

 

[russ_watters]

Their screening process was very strict in the beginning. I was scared off by the fact that even before I completed their *application* they sent my information off to members, and I had already decided this was not a place I wanted to be and didn't even finish. The questions they were asking were all going in a direction I didn't like. I was appalled that they had the gall to do such a thing and I let them know.

Of course people join that just see the advertisements, and I certainly am not judging the people that join.

I just know it's not a place for Danger.

I don't know when you joined, but I joined longer ago than I like to admit - 4 years at least, and I don't have a clue what you are talking about.

 

[Evo]

I don't know when you joined, but I joined longer ago than I like to admit - 4 years at least, and I don't have a clue what you are talking about.

I was answering questions and they were getting creepy, so I decided not to hit the "I agree" button, I chose not to continue. The next thing I knew, I was being bombarded with e-mail's from members that had already been forwarded my incomplete and unauthorized profile. I posted on here about it, I was very upset. I did NOT agree to their terms and I did NOT agree to join, and I was violated by what they did. I contacted their office and told them they did NOT have my approval to send anything to anyone on their site and to cease and desist immediately. A number of people said that the same violations had been commited with their incompleted applications.

Some idiot employee apparently thought that if they sent the information around of someone that had NOT signed up and showed them that people were interested, that they could suck that person into joining. Except, I did not agree to release that information and that was illegal. I pointed that out to them.

 

[JasonRox]

I don't know when you joined, but I joined longer ago than I like to admit - 4 years at least, and I don't have a clue what you are talking about.

Maybe your conservative and don't really see it.

 

[Ghost803]

My new-age/telepathy/extra sensory perception/ crystal power/ psychic believing neighbor is on there. I don't think she's a Christian though.

 

[Equate]

The problem would be if he meets someone from there, and then they find out about his record and make a complaint. Then he's in trouble for fraud.

Whoopee!

Who cares?




You are way too PC my friend. Chill...

 

[Danger]

My new-age/telepathy/extra sensory perception/ crystal power/ psychic believing neighbor is on there. I don't think she's a Christian though.

Same difference. If someone believes in something that doesn't exist, it doesn't matter whether it's black magic, god, voodoo, or the Easter bunny. Delusions know no bounds.

 

[Borek]

You would be surprised who is there.

I am surprised, I have just learned Evo is there

 

[BobG]

As a matter of fact, I have my first first date in 30 years tonight. If I don't pass out at the door when I pick her up, I think this will be fun.

I didn't use any of those on-line services, though. I found my date the old fashion way. I just hit on the best looking NASA engineer that took my classes.

 

[Evo]

As a matter of fact, I have my first first date in 30 years tonight. If I don't pass out at the door when I pick her up, I think this will be fun.

I didn't use any of those on-line services, though. I found my date the old fashion way. I just hit on the best looking NASA engineer that took my classes.

YAY Bob!

We expect to hear all about it tomorrow!

 

[Vanadium 50]

We expect to hear all about it tomorrow!

A gentleman never tells.

 

[Danger]

Hey, Bob;
After seeing the pic of you and your grandson, and reading your posts, I just always assumed that you were married. Best wishes for you having a great time on your date.

 

[JasonRox]

As a matter of fact, I have my first first date in 30 years tonight. If I don't pass out at the door when I pick her up, I think this will be fun.

I didn't use any of those on-line services, though. I found my date the old fashion way. I just hit on the best looking NASA engineer that took my classes.

Have fun!

Sounds like you're gonig about it the right way. Look for the best. :P

 

[junglebeast]

Naw... I can't do that. I can't even lie to you guys (aside from obvious jokes), so I sure can't to someone that I want to spend my life with.

You could lie on the check box, and then put a note about it in your profile. That way you're not lying to anybody except the check box.

 

[JasonRox]

You could lie on the check box, and then put a note about it in your profile. That way you're not lying to anybody except the check box.

You'd get banned within a day. The messages are scanned everyday, especially those of new members.

 

[BobG]

YAY Bob!

We expect to hear all about it tomorrow!

It went well enough to get invited for a home cooked meal.

 

[turbo]

It went well enough to get invited for a home cooked meal.

That's the Gold Standard, Bob. Now you get to find out if she can cook - big step, IMO.

 

[russ_watters]

Maybe your conservative and don't really see it.

I am conservative, but I'm not very religious, so I think my taste in women wouln't fit well with a Christian-targeted site. To put a finer point on it, I specifically avoid matches who discuss their faith in their profile. There is a section on "things I can't live without" and if I see:

1. My cell phone
2. HDTV
3. Red wine
4. My rotweiler
5. My faith in God

...#5 is a dealbreaker to me. Maybe #4 too.

Evo, I don't know what exactly the questions were that you were offended by, but these sites are intended to ask probing, personal questions. That's necessary for compatibility and since religion is an important aspect of many people's lives, any good match site must ask personal/probing questions about your religious faith, or lack thereof. The only site that could legitimately completely avoid the subject would have to be called "A-date".

I'm sure a hardcore christian virgin is probably put-off by all the questions about sexual proclivities/styles too. But the questions still need to be asked.

 

[russ_watters]

My new-age/telepathy/extra sensory perception/ crystal power/ psychic believing neighbor is on there.

I went out with one of those from eHarmony. After the dinner conversation turned to ghosts, I decided I didn't need to see her again*, though when I called her later, she said she realized we weren't very compatible but still wanted to see me again!

*the smoking didn't help either...

 

[russ_watters]

It went well enough to get invited for a home cooked meal.

Nice. Congrats!

 

[Math Is Hard]

I am conservative, but I'm not very religious, so I think my taste in women wouln't fit well with a Christian-targeted site. To put a finer point on it, I specifically avoid matches who discuss their faith in their profile. There is a section on "things I can't live without" and if I see:

1. My cell phone
2. HDTV
3. Red wine
4. My rotweiler
5. My faith in God

...#5 is a dealbreaker to me. Maybe #4 too..

I was going to invite you over to have some red wine and watch a Billy Graham special on HDTV - just you, me, and my Rottweiler.
Call me on my cell phone if you're interested. I always have my cell phone with me. Always.

 

[Math Is Hard]

It went well enough to get invited for a home cooked meal.

Good job, Bob!

 

[JasonRox]

I am conservative, but I'm not very religious, so I think my taste in women wouln't fit well with a Christian-targeted site. To put a finer point on it, I specifically avoid matches who discuss their faith in their profile. There is a section on "things I can't live without" and if I see:

1. My cell phone
2. HDTV
3. Red wine
4. My rotweiler
5. My faith in God

...#5 is a dealbreaker to me. Maybe #4 too.

Evo, I don't know what exactly the questions were that you were offended by, but these sites are intended to ask probing, personal questions. That's necessary for compatibility and since religion is an important aspect of many people's lives, any good match site must ask personal/probing questions about your religious faith, or lack thereof. The only site that could legitimately completely avoid the subject would have to be called "A-date".

I'm sure a hardcore christian virgin is probably put-off by all the questions about sexual proclivities/styles too. But the questions still need to be asked.

Good point.

 

[Evo]

Evo, I don't know what exactly the questions were that you were offended by, but these sites are intended to ask probing, personal questions.

I wasn't offended, I was appalled. No way am I going to give ANY website that much information about me. I don't want some website *matching* me up with someone based on how it judges answers I give either. So e-harmony is definitely not my kind of place.

All I want is a place where I can read what a person says, and then *I* will make the decision of whether I find them interesting enough to contact them. In the natural course of speaking with the person, I can then ask questions that really have meaning to me and judge how that person responds. I can't believe that people are allowing computers to make those initial assessments of who they even get to select from.

 

[JasonRox]

I wasn't offended, I was appalled. No way am I going to give ANY website that much information about me. I don't want some website *matching* me up with someone based on how it judges answers I give either. So e-harmony is definitely not my kind of place.

All I want is a place where I can read what a person says, and then *I* will make the decision of whether I find them interesting enough to contact them. In the natural course of speaking with the person, I can then ask questions that really have meaning to me and judge how that person responds. I can't believe that people are allowing computers to make those initial assessments of who they even get to select from.

But you knew eHarmony is a matchmaking site, how do you suppose they do this without asking personal questions?

 

[Evo]

But you knew eHarmony is a matchmaking site, how do you suppose they do this without asking personal questions?

I had belonged to match.com, which asked no questions, so it wasn't until I was slogging through e-harmony's "free trial" that I realized it was not something I was interested in. But even though I didn't finish the questions and never even submited my answers, I started getting barraged by men they had started e-mailing with my uncompleted answers!

 

[russ_watters]

I was going to invite you over to have some red wine and watch a Billy Graham special on HDTV - just you, me, and my Rottweiler.
Call me on my cell phone if you're interested. I always have my cell phone with me. Always.

Sorry, babe, I'd just end up hurting you.

[edit]...um...you do keep him on a leash, right?

 

[russ_watters]

I wasn't offended, I was appalled. No way am I going to give ANY website that much information about me. I don't want some website *matching* me up with someone based on how it judges answers I give either. So e-harmony is definitely not my kind of place.
[separate post]
I had belonged to match.com, which asked no questions, so it wasn't until I was slogging through e-harmony's "free trial" that I realized it was not something I was interested in.

Ok, well that's a different issue then and it really doesn't have anything to do with religion. You just aren't into the concept of personality profile based matching. Match.com has a much less rigorous matchmaking process and the "matches" aren't much more than just general demographic matches. I didn't like the style or the communication process for that matter (though it worked for my sister). I'm a little surprised you didn't realize the rigor of eharmony's process before you started into it - it's their primary marketing point. eHarmony's matching process may the most involved/personal/rigorous of any of the major dating sites online. That appealed to me.

We had something similar in high school - every year they had this thing (not even sure why - maybe it was fundrasing) where they did computerized personality profile based matching and quite a lot of people did it. It was more for fun, though - I don't know of anyone who asked out one of their matches.

But even though I didn't finish the questions and never even submited my answers, I started getting barraged by men they had started e-mailing with my uncompleted answers!

Well obviously you did submit something, otherwise they would have had nothing to go on to start forming the matches. The first page is generally a demographics page, and once you hit "next", that's "submitting" it. Anyway, There are certain profile questions I left blank because I couldn't think of good answers for. They encourage finishing the profile, but still make matches after you start. It is probably in their instructions/terms of service when you first start.