Jeronimus said:
For example, what you said about velocities. If one astronaut sees the other approaching from the front, hence negative velocity, the other will see the same from his perspective. Hence, also negative velocity.
Yes, but note that the ##x##-axis and the ##x'##-axis point in opposite directions. The Lorentz transformation equations in the form you see them in Wikipedia and in virtually every textbook have those two axes pointing in the same direction. The reason for this is because of the purpose of the equations. Their purpose is to describe the motion of objects. In every example you've given the object of interest is at rest in one of the frames. More generally, that's not true. The object is in motion in both frames. Using the common form of the Lorentz transformations, the sign of that object's velocity is the same in both frames. Thus, if its velocity is positive in the unprimed frame, it's also positive in the primed frame.
As Ibix said, you can use a different form of the transformation equations if you like, but it will introduce complexities that aren't there when you use the common form. In other words, it's a matter of convention. When things are a matter of convention we tend to choose a convention that makes things less complicated, although this often backfires. For example, the two forms of the First Law of Thermodynamics. One of them is more convenient in some situations, the other in other situations, so you find some authors using one convention, and other authors using the other. One is sometimes called the European convention (the convention used in most chemistry textbooks) where ##\Delta U=Q+W##. The so-called American convention (used in most physics textbooks) is ##\Delta U=Q-W##.
If astronaut A measures a ruler at length L but astronaut A' measures that ruler which is moving at Vrel to be shorter by a factor 1/γ, hence L' = L*(1/γ)
Let's say, for purposes of keeping the discussion uncluttered, that ruler is at rest in the unprimed frame.
then a ruler which A' measures to be of the length L2' = L will be measured by astronaut A to be shorter by the same factor 1/γ.
Such would be the case, for example, if the ruler were at rest in the primed frame. Thus the two rulers are identical. Each observer concludes his ruler has a length ##L## and his partner's has a length ##\frac{L}{\gamma}##.
Continuing this line of reasoning, it follows (unless my mind plays tricks on me) that
If A measures an event e1 at x=5 and t=10 and A' measures this event to be "happening" at let's say e1' at x'=3 t'=11 (no calculations made, just fictive numbers to make the point), then it would follow that if A' was to measure an event e2' at x'=5 and t'=10, A would measure this event to be happening at e2 with coordinates x=3 t=11.
I not only don't see how it follows, I don't see how it's even possible. The Lorentz transformations tell you what's possible. The fact that they don't work in your scenario tells us that your scenario is not possible.
A much simpler way of writing the coordinates of these events is ...
##x_1=5##, ##t_1=0##; ##x'_1=3##, ##t'_1=11##.
##x_2=3##, ##t_2=11##; ##x'_2=5##, ##t'_2=10##.
You could use the values given in the first sentence (corresponding to the first event) to solve one of the transformation equations for ##v##. If you do the same with the other transformation equation, you get a different value for ##v##. You can remedy this by writing a different pair of transformation equations that follow a different convention.
But you cannot then use those same transformation equations and in the second sentence (corresponding to the second event). You will get another pair of values for #v## and there's no freedom left to get them to match each other. The fact that they don't match what you got from the first event is the issue you seem to be illustrating, but the problem is worse than that. It won't work because it's not physically possible for two different frames of reference to measure those coordinate values for any pair of events. For example, it would require the two frames to have a faster-than-light relative velocity.