HansH said:
For me at the moment I am really interested in the collaps process or merger process itself and If I can understand that a a high level, so it is sufficient to know that there is at least a method to let it collapse to be triggered by a simple press on the button
It's not that simple, since there is no way to, for example, accrete a significant amount of mass onto a white dwarf or a neutron star just by pressing a button (unless you also have a star's worth of mass lying around in a bin that your button releases). Nor is there a way to stop fusion reactions in a star's core just by pressing a button.
HansH said:
and neglecting all the rest of the universe around that is not domanant for starting the process
The collapse can be modeled as an isolated system, yes; the rest of the universe doesn't affect it appreciably.
HansH said:
if it is possible to represent this process of collapsing in a causal way
Of course. What normally causes the collapse, as I said, is something like fusion reactions stopping in a star's core, or a white dwarf or neutron star accreting enough mass to put it over the applicable maximum mass limit. These are causal processes. They aren't as simple as someone pressing a button, but that's true of most of the causal processes in our universe.
HansH said:
"Time flow" is not a good way of thinking about this. You have a spacetime geometry. That geometry is produced from some set of initial conditions, but thinking of that as "time flowing" is too simple.
For example, the "trousers" is a
spacetime viewpoint. Yes, the "upward" direction (from shoes towards waist) is, more or less, the "future" direction of time, but, for example, mass falling inward doesn't go straight upwards in such a diagram, but it is still moving on future directed timelike worldlines. The collapse part would be down at the shoes, yes (below the shoes would be the object before it collapses), so the collapse is "in the past" with respect to the black holes that get formed, and those formation processes are in turn "in the past" of the merger (where the legs of the trousers meet). But that notion of "in the past" (basically, "towards the bottom of the diagram") is very general and leaves out a lot of important factors. It's the best that can be done at a "B" level, but it's still very, very heuristic.
HansH said:
spacetime falls inwards faster than the speed of light
No, in the viewpoint you refer to here, which is
different from the "trousers" viewpoint,
space flows inward around a black hole (it only flows inward "faster than light" inside the horizon). But you can't mix this viewpoint with the "trousers" viewpoint. They're different heuristic pictures, and both of them leave out a lot. In particular, the "space flowing inward" viewpoint can't handle black hole mergers at all (and isn't very well equipped even to handle the collapse of a single object to form a black hole).