Ken G said:
Those are all excellent points, and you clearly know a lot more about alternative gravity theories than I do. But in your post I do detect a clear signal of the main problem of MOND approaches: it is like juggling balls. You say one MOND theory has an external field effect, and that explains DF2 and Crater II. But then you don't invoke that MOND to explain other observations, instead you refer to different MOND theories. Then you even say these are all currently toy models in that they tend to undertreat the discrepancies that dark matter addresses. So which is the MOND theory you are talking about? It really doesn't work to say there's a different MOND theory that can explain any individual observation, you need just one.
Now, that said, I don't mean to suggest this means MOND approaches should be dropped. I think everyone is glad there are MOND proponents looking in all the dark corners, and no doubt this will take a long time and lots of data to resolve. You are saying MOND isn't dead, but it isn't exactly alive either-- until there is just one MOND theory that works for everything (like Lambda-CDM claims to do, though I am no kind of judge on how well that claim can be supported).
There are a few issues to sort through.
One issue is whether X or Y piece of evidence (e.g. DF2 or the Bullet cluster) proves that dark matter phenomena is the only possible reality and that a modified gravity explanation isn't possible, attacking the entire modified gravity paradigm. Assertions like that can be disproven by a single example of a modified gravity explanation of the same evidence.
Thus, if MOND can explain DF2, then it is not true that it can't be explained by a modified gravity theory. And, if there are one or more modified gravity theories that can explain the Bullet cluster without dark matter, then the Bullet cluster is not proof, by itself, that dark matter exists.
Usually, claims that X or Y piece of evidence proves that dark matter phenomena is the only possible reality flow from a lack of familiarity with the various possible modified gravity theories.
Now, obviously, the ideal situation would be to have a theory that has been rigorously compared to all available evidence and found to fit the data in all circumstances, perhaps barring a few isolated tensions where observational error is present (we see this even in experiments testing the most definitively established parts of the Standard Model and it is excepted by random chance), or an assumption that holds in almost every case and is central to the solution working does not hold (e.g., many DM and modified gravity predictions assume a system that is in or reasonably close to equilibrium).
If there were a theory like that somebody would have walked away with the Nobel prizes long ago and the answer would be in every college textbook. But, there is no fully worked out explanation (let's call them "specific models") of dark matter phenomena consistent with all of the evidence and carefully tested of that kind, in the dark matter particle paradigm, in the modified gravity paradigm, or in any hybrid paradigm.
MOND is notable because (1) it is old, (2) it is a very simple theory with only a single universal physical constant as a parameter, (3) it works in all weak gravitational fields from Earth/solar system scale to the scale of every kind of galaxy, (4) while it doesn't perfectly fit the cluster data, it explains a portion of the dark matter phenomena seen there (so it could be part of a hybrid theory with cluster specific dark matter), (5) it have made numerous genuine predictions that have proven to be correct, (6) its effects are easily described verbally and understood at an intuitive level, and (7) it has received wide scholarly attention and comparisons to the evidence.
MOND is important because even if it is not an accurate description of reality, any other specific dark matter model or specific modified gravity model must reproduce its predictions of this simple formula with a single universal parameter within MOND's domain of applicability which still spans scales from the solar system to basically all kinds of galaxies (including intermediate scale systems like wide binary stars), which is many, many orders of magnitude in scale, and also spans situations where there is or is not an external field effect.
This is a huge stumbling point for the vast majority of specific dark matter models. A large share of specific dark matter models that come close are really hybrid theories rather than pure dark matter particle theories, that also have a self-interaction term or an interaction with ordinary matter of some kind.
But, MOND is not formulated relativistically, so it is only applicable in circumstances where Newtonian gravity is a reasonable approximation of General Relativity (e.g. light bending, black holes and other strong gravitational fields, precession of Mars, cosmology). The need to reproduce the empirically features greatly constrains the form of any modification of gravity. MOND has known weak points such as a failure to explain all of the dark mater phenomena in cluster scale systems and a lack of a cosmology.
There are more than half a dozen well articulated relativistic modifications of gravity that meet the threshold test of explaining spiral galaxy dynamics without dark matter, but few of these have been very comprehensively vetted and only some of them have a good theoretical motivation. Some have been studied in one area, but not another.
I've listed almost all of the relativistic modified gravity theories yet published that work at the cluster scale. None of them have really thoroughly been developed at the cosmology scale although some initial first stabs at cosmology predictions have been made for a few. The answer might not be any specific one of these, but it is likely to have a close similarities to these theories.