Okay. My version starts with conservation of momentum. Using M and V for the larger particle, m and v for the smaller:
##MV = mv~~~~## so that: ##~~~~\frac{v}{V} = \frac{M}{v}##
Square both sides:
##\frac{v^2}{V^2} = \frac{M^2}{m^2}##
Form KE ratio:
##\frac{m v^2}{M V^2} \cdot \frac{M}{m} = \frac{M^2}{m^2}##
##\frac{m v^2}{M V^2}= \frac{M}{m}##
##\frac{KE_m}{KE_M} = \frac{M}{m}##
So that as you say the smaller particle should get the larger share of the energy, and your question is why this isn't observed in actual fissions.
I will admit that I am not an expert in nuclear physics. That said, my answer would be that the daughter nuclei (which are typically of similar mass) get the bulk of the KE from the fission (they split the difference in the change in binding energy), and that the escaping neutrons are evolved via their own process that dictates the energy available for them. For example, look up "delayed neutrons" and "prompt neutrons".